(EDIT: MY FINAL THOUGHTS...) Is it wrong for a 21 year old to date a 16 year old? Even if....

[Mani]

Originally posted by: PipBoy

Originally posted by: Jumpem
For what it's worth i'm 24 and dating a 16 year old girl.

awesome, just one more year and you can take her to an R-rated movie.

lol

 

[rudeguy]

Originally posted by: Jumpem

Originally posted by: rudeguy5757

Originally posted by: guapo337

Originally posted by: rudeguy5757

Originally posted by: WayneTeK
Ok, i'm in a huge moral dilemma here.

I know how wrong this question seems; an adult asking a riduculous question like this must be crazy. Well, if that is what it is called, then call me crazy. Not yet though.

There is this particular girl and she is fly. Very fly, and I'm asking you kind folks your opinion regarding this scandalous topic.

Is it morally acceptable to date somebody who is that young? It isnt' against the law is it? Hope not. Let me tell you what though, being brought up in a Christian household, i not intend to have sex before marriage and besides, I did meet her at a church.

She is soo fine. She looks like a Korean singer named Boa. Here is Boa's picture.

Boa 1
Boa 2
Text
Last Boa

Well anyways, here is the picture of the gal I like... This is my gal

So what do you guys think? Proceed on or back off? She does have a wonderful personality and isn't stuck up or anthing if that helps. I realized that women who grow older get more corrupted with drinking, smoking etc... I prefer my women holy and still innocent.

I wouldnt do it...and not sure how legal it is...check here for your state's laws age of consent laws

CONSENT IS ONLY FOR SEX! NOTHING ELSE! OH MY FREAKING JEEZASS CHRIST! NOBODY UNDERSTANDS THAT!

first...go take your pill...second...if you read the laws they are very clear....any act resulting in sexual gratification with a person under age is illegal...would you like to talk to my friend (who is 18) that got lied to by a 15 year old and now is a registered sex offender cause they had "simulated intercourse"????

I may be dumb here, but what exactly do you mean by "simulated intercourse"?

hmm.....use your imagination....(hint: they simulated intercouse without having intercourse)

 

[MuffD]

If you are to date this chick, do you have enough balls to go to her father to let him know you're gonna date his high school daughter? If some guy tried to date my daughter in the same situation, I would be pretty pissed.

 

[WayneTeK]

Originally posted by: muffstah
If you are to date this chick, do you have enough balls to go to her father to let him know you're gonna date his high school daughter? If some guy tried to date my daughter in the same situation, I would be pretty pissed.

Honestly, Yes I do have enough balls to go to the father... NOt to brag, but i can be very convincing. Hhehehe.. I'm a people person... That's what i'm taught to do at work...

 

[boi]

Dang, times have really changed. Back in High School and College, a guy would be called pathetic if he dated a girl 2 years or younger than him.

If you wait a few more years when she actually an adult, then it's ok by my standards.

 

[Jumpem]

Originally posted by: rudeguy5757

Originally posted by: Jumpem

I may be dumb here, but what exactly do you mean by "simulated intercourse"?

hmm.....use your imagination....(hint: they simulated intercouse without having intercourse)

That's what I figured. I was just making sure that it was something physical, and not just chatting.

 

[ElFenix]

dud you're in college, go out with a college girl. sheesh!

 

[rgwalt]

Originally posted by: Jumpem
PipBoy, thanks...i'll keep that in mind.

rudeguy5757, it isn't weird at all to me. I really like talking to her for hours on end about everything.

rgwalt, thanks!

WinkOsmosis, yes i'm eight years older than her. I have no idea whether it will work out or not. How many of your relatives or friends parents have a large difference in age and everything is fine? I've met her mom, and she is cautiously ok with it. I honestly love everything about her. And it's not at all about sex either if that's what you're thinking.

Hey, if it works for you, then fine. As you get older, the age gap won't seem as significant. However, like I've said, as she matures (especially when she gets to college) her life will change. I think you are setting yourself up for getting hurt. When she is 22, will she want to date someone who is 30?

This question is for Jumpem, WayneTEK, or anyone who is dating someone in high school: Do you plan on marrying this girl? Does she want to wait until she graduates (college that is...)? If so, that could be 6 or 7 years. If you aren't going to have sex before marriage, 6 or 7 years is a long time to wait, and waiting is VERY hard. Even if you aren't going to wait for sex, 6 or 7 years is a long time to wait for marriage, period.

I had a friend who started dating a 26 year old guy when she was 18. He proposed to her a year and a half later, and by the time she was 20, she gave him the ring back. My point is that something a teenager wants isn't necessarily what they will want when they get a bit older. This is true for anyone, but I think it is especially true for kids. When people hit college, most of them just want to enjoy their life and their freedom, and not necessarily want to think about getting married. What a someone out of college wants out of life can be very different than what someone in high school or college wants, as evidenced by my friend. I think that you guys are really setting yourselves up for being hurt, but I could be wrong, and I hope for your sakes that I am.

Ryan

 

[Harvey]

If her parents are OK with you dating her, you'd still better be careful. The age of consent in California is 18. I don't know how old she would have to be to visit you in prison. :Q

 

[rgwalt]

Besides, almost all of high school aged girls are really dumb. I don't know if I could put up with it...

Ryan

 

[Triumph]

I'm pretty sure she won't be on the same maturity level as you. You may claim that she is, but I wouldn't believe you. You'll discover things about her that only come out if you were IN a relationship with her. And you probably wouldn't like it.

 

[WayneTeK]

Originally posted by: rgwalt

Originally posted by: Jumpem
PipBoy, thanks...i'll keep that in mind.

rudeguy5757, it isn't weird at all to me. I really like talking to her for hours on end about everything.

rgwalt, thanks!

WinkOsmosis, yes i'm eight years older than her. I have no idea whether it will work out or not. How many of your relatives or friends parents have a large difference in age and everything is fine? I've met her mom, and she is cautiously ok with it. I honestly love everything about her. And it's not at all about sex either if that's what you're thinking.

Hey, if it works for you, then fine. As you get older, the age gap won't seem as significant. However, like I've said, as she matures (especially when she gets to college) her life will change. I think you are setting yourself up for getting hurt. When she is 22, will she want to date someone who is 30?

This question is for Jumpem, WayneTEK, or anyone who is dating someone in high school: Do you plan on marrying this girl? Does she want to wait until she graduates (college that is...)? If so, that could be 6 or 7 years. If you aren't going to have sex before marriage, 6 or 7 years is a long time to wait, and waiting is VERY hard. Even if you aren't going to wait for sex, 6 or 7 years is a long time to wait for marriage, period.

I had a friend who started dating a 26 year old guy when she was 18. He proposed to her a year and a half later, and by the time she was 20, she gave him the ring back. My point is that something a teenager wants isn't necessarily what they will want when they get a bit older. This is true for anyone, but I think it is especially true for kids. When people hit college, most of them just want to enjoy their life and their freedom, and not necessarily want to think about getting married. What a someone out of college wants out of life can be very different than what someone in high school or college wants, as evidenced by my friend. I think that you guys are really setting yourselves up for being hurt, but I could be wrong, and I hope for your sakes that I am.

Ryan

Actually, you stated that if I had intentions on getting married.. AS a matter of fact, i do. I've waited 21 years of my life for a girl that fit my specifications on what a future wife should be... If need be... And if things do go well, I do have every intention in getting married. This may be somewhat pretentious for me to say, but that's the way the Christian religion brought me up i guess.

 

[Jumpem]

Originally posted by: rgwalt

Originally posted by: Jumpem
PipBoy, thanks...i'll keep that in mind.

rudeguy5757, it isn't weird at all to me. I really like talking to her for hours on end about everything.

rgwalt, thanks!

WinkOsmosis, yes i'm eight years older than her. I have no idea whether it will work out or not. How many of your relatives or friends parents have a large difference in age and everything is fine? I've met her mom, and she is cautiously ok with it. I honestly love everything about her. And it's not at all about sex either if that's what you're thinking.

Hey, if it works for you, then fine. As you get older, the age gap won't seem as significant. However, like I've said, as she matures (especially when she gets to college) her life will change. I think you are setting yourself up for getting hurt. When she is 22, will she want to date someone who is 30?

This question is for Jumpem, WayneTEK, or anyone who is dating someone in high school: Do you plan on marrying this girl? Does she want to wait until she graduates (college that is...)? If so, that could be 6 or 7 years. If you aren't going to have sex before marriage, 6 or 7 years is a long time to wait, and waiting is VERY hard. Even if you aren't going to wait for sex, 6 or 7 years is a long time to wait for marriage, period.

I had a friend who started dating a 26 year old guy when she was 18. He proposed to her a year and a half later, and by the time she was 20, she gave him the ring back. My point is that something a teenager wants isn't necessarily what they will want when they get a bit older. This is true for anyone, but I think it is especially true for kids. When people hit college, most of them just want to enjoy their life and their freedom, and not necessarily want to think about getting married. What a someone out of college wants out of life can be very different than what someone in high school or college wants, as evidenced by my friend. I think that you guys are really setting yourselves up for being hurt, but I could be wrong, and I hope for your sakes that I am.

Ryan

Thanks very much for the well laid out post. As for your question, if things do continue to go well I would think of marrying her. I don't think that I would wait until she is completely done with college however. I haven't brought any of this up with her since we've only known eachother a few months. As for sex, you're right it is hard. I've never been so attached to someone and wanted to so badly. I used to want to wait until marriage, but I really don't know anymore. The age of consent in NY is 17, so after that i'm not sure what'll happen. I'm a bit afraid of doing much more than kissing or a little cuddling though. My intentions are completely honorable. It'd be great if things work out, but i'm somewhat prepared if they don't.

 

[LeeTJ]

Originally posted by: rudeguy5757

Originally posted by: WayneTeK
Ok, i'm in a huge moral dilemma here.

I know how wrong this question seems; an adult asking a riduculous question like this must be crazy. Well, if that is what it is called, then call me crazy. Not yet though.

There is this particular girl and she is fly. Very fly, and I'm asking you kind folks your opinion regarding this scandalous topic.

Is it morally acceptable to date somebody who is that young? It isnt' against the law is it? Hope not. Let me tell you what though, being brought up in a Christian household, i not intend to have sex before marriage and besides, I did meet her at a church.

She is soo fine. She looks like a Korean singer named Boa. Here is Boa's picture.

Boa 1
Boa 2
Text
Last Boa

Well anyways, here is the picture of the gal I like... This is my gal

So what do you guys think? Proceed on or back off? She does have a wonderful personality and isn't stuck up or anthing if that helps. I realized that women who grow older get more corrupted with drinking, smoking etc... I prefer my women holy and still innocent.

I wouldnt do it...and not sure how legal it is...check here for your state's laws age of consent laws

is it illegal to date?? or is it illegal to have sex with?? for some i guess dating and having sex are the same. i'm not sure i would agree with that tho.

 

[McPhreak]

I think the biggest problem (besides the law) with dating someone that much younger than you is that there are a lot of activities you can't do with your friends because your girlfriend is too young. You do realize that your girlfriend and you won't be able to have a drink or go to a club (serving drinks) with your friends for another 5 years, right? And you do realize that your friends will be making fun of you and calling you a cradle robber ("old enough to pee, old enough for me") every day for those 5 years right? Also, you better get used to the strange looks every person is going to give you when you tell them you're dating a minor.

 

[Jumpem]

Originally posted by: McPhreak
I think the biggest problem (besides the law) with dating someone that much older than you is that there are a lot of activities you can't do with your friends because your girlfriend is too young. You do realize that your girlfriend and you won't be able to have a drink or go to a club (serving drinks) with your friends for another 5 years, right? And you do realize that your friends will be making fun of you and calling you a cradle robber ("old enough to pee, old enough for me") every day for those 5 years right? Also, you better get used to the strange looks every person is going to give you when you tell them you're dating a minor.

Yes, I understand the no going to bars thing. Most of my friends know about her already. Opinions are mixed and range from "it's no big deal, go for it" to "umm, i'm not sure about this". And yes people give us weird looks sometimes but I just shrug it off.

 

[Masas]

I know from experience (just got out of relationship of a bit over 1 yrs with a girl 3.5 years difference)
you can go out with her all good and fine...
but when dating and stuff comes, it'll be a bit different...
as well as her friends who are probably also 16....
but if she's a mature 16....
and if you're willing to bend over backwards (alot and frequently)

it'll work.

 

[Crappopotamus]

i think its kinda weird... people will be like "oh is this your sister?... ummm WHAT?!" perhaps... it would be alright if you were just buddies. like you date for fun every so often. anything closer than that and its just weird...

imo high school should stay with high school. university should stick with university. im 16 [grade11].... and going out with a grade 9 is pushing it. there are some hot grade 10s though

btw, if you do decide to go with it... gg shes cute. if you decide nay... maybe you can hook me up. heh.

 

[eloric the 2nd]

i say only you can determine if your happy with her or not... screw what everyone else thinks... sometimes ya gotta do what makes you happy... and in this case her happy as well... age would not keep me from dating someone that i really liked and connected with nor would anyones opinion... jsut my two cents

hope ya'll are happy

 

[isekii]

dude you're just asking for trouble~

why not find someone close to your age or wait for her to get older ?

she's 16 for god sakes~

I'm 21 myself and the lowest i would go is 18...

 

[Renob]

For what it's worth i'm 24 and dating a 16 year old girl.


What a looser, I guess its easy to impress children. BTW your lucky Im not her dad or brother cause I would beat your lame A$$ down bigtime.


Is it wrong for a 21 year old to date a 16 year old? Even if....


Dude dont be lame find a woman not a girl. BTW I would kick you sorry A$$ too.

 

[TNTrulez]

GO FOR IT. In some states 16 is legal age of consent you know.

 

[silverpig]

I'm reminded of a few Michael Jackson quotes right now... And that's just wrong. And there's your answer.

 

[rgwalt]

Originally posted by: Jumpem

Originally posted by: rgwalt

Originally posted by: Jumpem
PipBoy, thanks...i'll keep that in mind.

rudeguy5757, it isn't weird at all to me. I really like talking to her for hours on end about everything.

rgwalt, thanks!

WinkOsmosis, yes i'm eight years older than her. I have no idea whether it will work out or not. How many of your relatives or friends parents have a large difference in age and everything is fine? I've met her mom, and she is cautiously ok with it. I honestly love everything about her. And it's not at all about sex either if that's what you're thinking.

Hey, if it works for you, then fine. As you get older, the age gap won't seem as significant. However, like I've said, as she matures (especially when she gets to college) her life will change. I think you are setting yourself up for getting hurt. When she is 22, will she want to date someone who is 30?

This question is for Jumpem, WayneTEK, or anyone who is dating someone in high school: Do you plan on marrying this girl? Does she want to wait until she graduates (college that is...)? If so, that could be 6 or 7 years. If you aren't going to have sex before marriage, 6 or 7 years is a long time to wait, and waiting is VERY hard. Even if you aren't going to wait for sex, 6 or 7 years is a long time to wait for marriage, period.

I had a friend who started dating a 26 year old guy when she was 18. He proposed to her a year and a half later, and by the time she was 20, she gave him the ring back. My point is that something a teenager wants isn't necessarily what they will want when they get a bit older. This is true for anyone, but I think it is especially true for kids. When people hit college, most of them just want to enjoy their life and their freedom, and not necessarily want to think about getting married. What a someone out of college wants out of life can be very different than what someone in high school or college wants, as evidenced by my friend. I think that you guys are really setting yourselves up for being hurt, but I could be wrong, and I hope for your sakes that I am.

Ryan

Thanks very much for the well laid out post. As for your question, if things do continue to go well I would think of marrying her. I don't think that I would wait until she is completely done with college however. I haven't brought any of this up with her since we've only known eachother a few months. As for sex, you're right it is hard. I've never been so attached to someone and wanted to so badly. I used to want to wait until marriage, but I really don't know anymore. The age of consent in NY is 17, so after that i'm not sure what'll happen. I'm a bit afraid of doing much more than kissing or a little cuddling though. My intentions are completely honorable. It'd be great if things work out, but i'm somewhat prepared if they don't.

Well, thanks for your well thought-out response. A bit of friendly advice though... wait until she is 18 before going on beyond kissing and cuddling. I don't trust those fishy age of consent laws.

Good luck to both of you guys, and to all the other guys out of high school who are dating high school aged girls. I'll be more than happy to eat my words some day.

Ryan

 

[Jumpem]

Originally posted by: Renob
For what it's worth i'm 24 and dating a 16 year old girl.


What a looser, I guess its easy to impress children. BTW your lucky Im not her dad or brother cause I would beat your lame A$$ down bigtime.

What's with the loser comments!? It's not like i'm just looking to use her or anything. I enjoy her company and how she makes even the darkest days seem sunny. As I mentioned in an earlier post I have already met her mom. She's alright with it. I've also talked to her brother a couple of times. He doesn't really care what goes on. I'm not sure about her dad, but I guess i'll figure that out soon enough.