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Do you believe its OK to spank your kids??
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CptObvious
Platinum Member
I think it's OK and I won't hesitate to spank my kid. I believe that corporal punishment is an effective way to keep a stubborn kid (like I was) in line, up to a certain age. By the time he reaches a certain age, you can resort to other tools like guilt and shame. j/k But if my 2-year old is screaming at me, I think a whack on the bottom is warranted to let him know who's the boss.
moshquerade
No Lifer
while 15 mos is too young to whoop, i still feel that a tap on the hand or butt are appropriate means whereby to command attention and to discipline. not to be overdone, but only used when the situation really warrants it.
you can label it fear, but i think it promotes respect.
destrekor
Lifer
i was spanked as a child and agree its a worthy punishment. damned society is treating even touching a child as if it is child abuse, regardless of the child's behavior, and its sickening. and thus parents are afraid to even lay a hand on their children, and it shows by watching the news and just looking around at how much these kids misbehave. parenting has gone down the sh!tter anymore.
on that note, I sort of, but sort of didn't fear the spanking and/or my parents. I didn't fear my parents, and it never prevented me from acting out, but once I knew I acted out and saw the response from my parents, I immediately ran to the dining room. There, a table sat in the middle and creating an oval around it. Well, I proceeded to run around it, staying opposite from whichever parent wanted to kill me at that time. it was amusing look back at it now, but I was mighty fearful then. Damn was I freaking out of my mind when I knew what was coming if(when) they finally caught me. lol
oh good times, good times.
and btw, I turned out a good child. both me and my sister. (of whom we both used to fight, her being 3 years older as well. however, we are extremely close and can confide in each other. sadly she lives 12 hours away, but my spring break will be there. excited. damn this has gone on long enough, damn digressions.)
on another note, I can tell who is going to be a bad parent in the future based on how they say they treat or don't treat pets. especially dogs. I have heard numerous girls say they refuse to do anything other than yell 'no' at their dog. Are you kidding? You don't gotta beat a dog, sure, but if the dog is misbehaving (especially once it has learned the proper behavior), a good, mild smack across its ass (unless, of course, it has bad hips) or across the nose is not harmful and gets the point across. if it fears that hit or simply learned what not to do, one cannot tell. but I know my past dog or my sisters dog never 'learned' to fear anyone in my family.
and that's how I know my sister will be a good parent (well at least will not let a kid turn into a devil child, good parenting or not who knows at the moment), and that girls who shy away from punishment likely will not be able to control their children. at least thats what I gather from their behavior.
on that note, I sort of, but sort of didn't fear the spanking and/or my parents. I didn't fear my parents, and it never prevented me from acting out, but once I knew I acted out and saw the response from my parents, I immediately ran to the dining room. There, a table sat in the middle and creating an oval around it. Well, I proceeded to run around it, staying opposite from whichever parent wanted to kill me at that time. it was amusing look back at it now, but I was mighty fearful then. Damn was I freaking out of my mind when I knew what was coming if(when) they finally caught me. lol
oh good times, good times.
and btw, I turned out a good child. both me and my sister. (of whom we both used to fight, her being 3 years older as well. however, we are extremely close and can confide in each other. sadly she lives 12 hours away, but my spring break will be there. excited. damn this has gone on long enough, damn digressions.)
on another note, I can tell who is going to be a bad parent in the future based on how they say they treat or don't treat pets. especially dogs. I have heard numerous girls say they refuse to do anything other than yell 'no' at their dog. Are you kidding? You don't gotta beat a dog, sure, but if the dog is misbehaving (especially once it has learned the proper behavior), a good, mild smack across its ass (unless, of course, it has bad hips) or across the nose is not harmful and gets the point across. if it fears that hit or simply learned what not to do, one cannot tell. but I know my past dog or my sisters dog never 'learned' to fear anyone in my family.
and that's how I know my sister will be a good parent (well at least will not let a kid turn into a devil child, good parenting or not who knows at the moment), and that girls who shy away from punishment likely will not be able to control their children. at least thats what I gather from their behavior.
crt1530
Diamond Member
I believe that spanking has a has a place, but only in limited circumstances. It has been my observation that the vast majority of spanking/corporal punishment is doled out because the parents are inconsistent with discipline and do not properly teach their children how to behave. The only situation where you should spank or hit a child should be when you are not angry and it is needed to impart the severity of their transgression. That being said, when *I* was a kid, I feared the hour-plus long talking-to much more than any spanking I ever received.
Ricemarine
Lifer
Spanking is good for them until about pre-teens... Just don't spank them at the register at Super Target...
After that, won't do any good.
After that, won't do any good.
engineereeyore
Platinum Member
I don't agree with it, but that's just me.
crimson117
Platinum Member
Spanking teaches your kid that you can control someone with violence.
Lithium381
Lifer
i got spanked, but only on clear terms........i was given IMO fair guidelines....never out of anger was i given physical discipline....so i learned a clear destnction between cause and effect of my actions
Dumac
Diamond Member
Yeah! That's sexual abuse!
Spanking should be used with caution, as it can have long term consequences unseen at the time. I will try my best to avoid spanking my kids, but I can't gurantee it won't ever be necessary. It isn't a dire of a problem as some make it out to be though, nor as necessary as some seem to think.
krunchykrome
Lifer
No, I don't think it is ok.
FireChicken
Senior member
Me neither...I am actually really supprised that so many people spank thier kids.
I was spanked as a kid and worse. I have a discinct memory of getting spanked when I turned off the TV with too much force. This taught me that my dad valued our TV more than he valued me. When I got away from my parents in college I went totally wild and ended up getting addicted to many drugs. Luckly I over came that. But I do not want to risk me kid ever having to go through that. Spanking did nothing for me. More love and understanding would have been better for me.
soulcougher73
Lifer
I think it is ok to spank. I was spanked on occasion growing up. Parents are their to be parents and teach you rights and wrongs, not to be your friend. Im against beating a child. that is going too far. In elementary school my principle could even paddle you if you were acting up. Those days are long gone in our new society of pansies 😛
imported_cheapdude
Senior member
Spanking your kids is both educational and therapeutic.
manowar821
Diamond Member
A little lesson. It's not the kids that are becoming pussies, it's the parents. They can't control their kids so they resort to fear.
Fear does not equal respect. You don't want them to fear you, you want them to respect you, and to understand why your rules are in place. If your kid only behaves when YOU'RE around that means you're doing something wrong, and that he's going to be a little ****** once you leave the house, or when he's out without you.
That being said, a spanking is perfectly acceptable if he/she does something very bad. Otherwise, just sit them down and talk it out. The talk should come whether or not you had to spank them, too...
Fear does not equal respect. You don't want them to fear you, you want them to respect you, and to understand why your rules are in place. If your kid only behaves when YOU'RE around that means you're doing something wrong, and that he's going to be a little ****** once you leave the house, or when he's out without you.
That being said, a spanking is perfectly acceptable if he/she does something very bad. Otherwise, just sit them down and talk it out. The talk should come whether or not you had to spank them, too...
You are confusing two different things. Spanking and WHY you were spanked. Spanking in right situations will help, spanking in situations like your's will be detrimental.
Oh and don't blame your drug crap to spanking, that's ridiculous. I wasn't spanked but was diciplined with a stick to the calves and hand. My father never hit me, it was my mom who did, but she never hit me in anger.
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