I think it is ok when they misbehave but at 15 months old they wont learn that well of what they are doing wrong
As a parent, don't try and be their friends, that's what their friends their age are for. Parents are for teaching values, discipline and to prepare the kids for life in the real world. The real world isn't fair and you won't get everything you want. My dad taught me to respect him (He spanked me maybe 4 times my entire life and it was enough for me to know not to screw around), and taught me how the real world is. Discipline (not beat, there is a big difference) your kids and you'll look back later and be glad you did.
Originally posted by: iskim86
my parents beat me
my mom used to pull on my hair and push me away with her feet and ******
and verbally abused me
i'm gonna do the same for my kids.
and when my mom tells me to quit treating my kids that way, I'm gonna make her realize i'm just continuing the tradition
Obviously she didn't beat you enough
Ok so way to make a loaded poll. Yes, it's ok to spank your kids. I'd be concerned if you thought otherwise. No, spanking will not work for all kids. Parenting isn't that easy.
As for age, 15 mo seems slightly young. But massive spanking isn't required then, usually a swat or two is enough to make the kid cry. Coupled with a stern warning this can be effective, but again depends on the child.
If done right, your children should not be afraid of you. Immediately after the spanking it is important to take your child aside and make sure they understand why you spanked them-- a). Because they did something wrong, and b). because you love them, so very much, and not disciplining them for doing something wrong would be far worse than any spanking could ever be. Make sure the spankings are predictable, ie they know the consequences for action xxyy. Unpredictability is what would make a child afraid.
funboy6942
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QFT and very well put.
I think that is exactly what is lacking when a child gets smacked for doing wrong is the talking/reasoning behind it. I make sure my kids understand after the fact why they were spanked on their bottoms, and make sure after the effect that if the rolls were reversed that they can see how they wouldnt of liked to have been treated the way they treated who ever it way, that brought the smacking down.
Believe it or not, it works, for a long time after the talk, I mean a long time, and in a lot of cases, it never is a problem again. Too many parents just are not capable of being parents and that is because of their way of being brought up, or just didnt see the light, as I did growing up, that I wouldnt treat my kids in such a way. I observed other parents and how they handled their children, and worked upon that when I was babysitting, and then becoming a parent myself. I have 2 wonderful, well behaved boys, most of the time, I mean boys will be boys, and were not that family going down the isle in wal-mart with one child screaming he wants a toy and the other one crying because he was just hit by hit brother over and over. They get out of line to much, I can just say "Knock it off" and it gets knocked off.
There truly is no reason to be hitting or screaming back at your child all the time, it gets you nowhere, and talk about dysfunctional, I grew up in a family environment where all we did was yell and scream at each other, and if we were not doing that we were hitting one another or getting hit with wooden spoons and belts, if that wasnt enough then everyone, but me, would go at one another calling each other names and putting each one down bother brothers and parents, making for one hell of a sh1tty childhood. To this day I cannot stand yelling at all either by me or from my kids or wife, will not allow anyone to put the other one down in any way, you either speak positive about family and strangers you see or I dont want to hear it, and it is all about loving one another for their your family, not trash from off the street.
I want my family to have a great childhood and family atmosphere, not what I had, for my kids my crappy life and childhood ends with me, I want them to be happy and do something with their lives and beating them, yelling at them, and putting them down will not allow them to do that.
Aikouka
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I got hit as a kid by the hand, the belt, a wooden spoon (that broke over my buns of steel ) or whatever else. Do I think it actually worked on me? No. Do I think spanking is bad? No. Well, it seems a bit contradictory, but it's really not. I believe the difference in my upbringing more or less deals with my attitude toward things and not so much discipline. It's the difference between the mellow kid who makes a mistake once in awhile and the unruly child who tests the boundaries like they're an electric fence and he has a full bladder.
I never disliked my parents for punishing me, but I did learn that the quicker you showed pain, the quicker it stopped :thumbsup:!
EDIT: Essentially, I'm going on the whole psychology idea of Nature vs Nurture.
) or whatever else. Do I think it actually worked on me? No. Do I think spanking is bad? No. Well, it seems a bit contradictory, but it's really not. I believe the difference in my upbringing more or less deals with my attitude toward things and not so much discipline. It's the difference between the mellow kid who makes a mistake once in awhile and the unruly child who tests the boundaries like they're an electric fence and he has a full bladder.I never disliked my parents for punishing me, but I did learn that the quicker you showed pain, the quicker it stopped :thumbsup:!
EDIT: Essentially, I'm going on the whole psychology idea of Nature vs Nurture
.Didn't read the thread yet, but not only is it okay to spank your kids, it's okay to spank other people's kids if their parents won't do the job right.
jdoggg12
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B/c the politically correct a-holes haven't gotten to it yet. In a few years time sex will involve this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q-gu6s0eGOk and spankings will be viewed as creul and unusual punishment.
jdoggg12
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Politically correct might not have been the best term, but its the closest i could think of to the over sensitivity to things that our country is outlawing or trying to do away with.
Saying that spanking (especially a member of the opposite sex, as i understood it from his comment) is akin to saying "anythying hurtful is wrong" which is a PC sentiimentality.
Number1
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A small boy is sent to bed by his father. Five minutes later:
"Da-ad..."
"What?"
"I'm thirsty. Can you bring me a drink of water?"
"No. You had your chance. Lights out."
Five minutes later: "Da-aaaad..."
"WHAT?"
"I'm THIRSTY...Can I have a drink of water??"
"I told you NO! If you ask again I'll have to spank you!!"
Five minutes later... "Daaaa-aaaad..."
"WHAT??!!"
"When you come in to spank me, can you bring me a drink of water?
"Da-ad..."
"What?"
"I'm thirsty. Can you bring me a drink of water?"
"No. You had your chance. Lights out."
Five minutes later: "Da-aaaad..."
"WHAT?"
"I'm THIRSTY...Can I have a drink of water??"
"I told you NO! If you ask again I'll have to spank you!!"
Five minutes later... "Daaaa-aaaad..."
"WHAT??!!"
"When you come in to spank me, can you bring me a drink of water?
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