YOyoYOhowsDAjello
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Actually you're wrong. Statistically, couples who live together before marriage have a much higher divorce rate than couples who don't. The reason being, when you live with someone before you're married, there isn't much of a change at all when you do actually get married. It cheapens the whole thing.
So, OP, if you really want to get married, I would suggest NOT living together before marriage. If you're going to spend the rest of your life with her anyway, then you have the rest of your life to live with her, enjoy where you are now and concentrate on studies. She's going to be a doctor, she needs the study time anyway.
Me and my ex lived on the same floor of our dorm. We slept in each others rooms every night. I guess that constitutes living together.
No arguments? That's a *bad* sign. Not a *good* sign. One of you is sandbagging and not being completely honest. And whoever it is will eventually get tired of "faking" it and things will rapidly go down hill. Right when you said that it reminded me of a friend of mine who married a girl he never had any arguments with. Less than two years later he mentioned to me that if he was to meet Jane today he probably wouldn't even date her. D'oh.
People change a lot during college and a lot once they get out of college. It's probably the worse time to commit to a long term relationship. And if a person in a relationship feels like they "missed out" on their college years they'll take it out on the other person and *poof* there goes the relationship. I'm only 27 and I'm already seeing some of my friends who married early getting divorced.
That being said, nothing says that your relationship is doomed. It's just highly unlikely that it'll work out. And given those odds I wouldn't want to add the hassle of trying to find a new place to live once things go belly up.
Lethal
Hmm, honestly we all have done it, or kinda did it spending night after night at the others place but its college..its about having your space and being young & crazy..I'm 25 and I say yep, guilty but I wouldn't do it over again if I had the chance. Play house when you're all grown up sweetie.
yup bad idea... have your own place so if you break up all you have to do is walk back to your place....
Posts like this make me giggle like a schoolgirl!
But whatever, at least you'll learn something about young women.
that is a terrible idea. You need to have space from you SO. Its always a good idea to have your own place and visit each other as the need arises, but also have your own place that you can be away from that person.
Hmmm...my current g/f is gonna be homeless fall and my current roomy may not be around...we were thinking of just living together....but this thread makes me scared
moshquerade
No Lifer
- Nov 1, 2001
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Originally posted by: Trogdor91
Hmmm...my current g/f is gonna be homeless fall and my current roomy may not be around...we were thinking of just living together....but this thread makes me scared
It's really not as bad as people make it out to be as long as you guys are fairly serious. Just because you're living together doesn't mean you both have to give up your lives for domesticity. Just make damn sure she understands that before you sign any leases.
And be sure to have a contingency plan just in case you guys do end up splitting.
<---lived with his college GF for 18 months and (for the most part) enjoyed it
QFT, if i have an issue i will talk to her and generally we will fix it. She is the same way. I have not had an arguement with here though we have had disagreements.
SMOGZINN
Lifer
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Actually, my best advise would be to break up with her now, and go out and date some more. Have at least 3 or 4 more girlfriends before you graduate. It really will behoove you to experience relationships with other mature women. As of right now the only serious relationship with a mature woman you have ever had is with the girlfriend you are currently with. How do you know that what you have is really a good thing when you have nothing to compare it to?
Since I know you will not listen to that advice I think you should move in with her. Oh, it is going to go horribly, horribly wrong and is going to lead to you being a very unhappy guy for a while, but if you don't do it now you will just have to learn the important lessons that it teaches you later when that lesson will be much more expensive.
Since I know you will not listen to that advice I think you should move in with her. Oh, it is going to go horribly, horribly wrong and is going to lead to you being a very unhappy guy for a while, but if you don't do it now you will just have to learn the important lessons that it teaches you later when that lesson will be much more expensive.
meltdown75
Lifer
- Nov 17, 2004
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that's a negative.
those years are meant to be spent wild & free, sowing your wild oats all over hell's half acres.
those years are meant to be spent wild & free, sowing your wild oats all over hell's half acres.
A YEAR?!?! You have GOT to be kidding me!
Your relationship has a 98% chance of failing. ESPECIALLY in college. Seriously.
Goddamn it, what the fvck are going through kids' minds these days???
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