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Did/Do You Room with your Girlfriend/Boyfriend during College

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Originally posted by: LadyBuggy
Originally posted by: Zenmervolt
Originally posted by: Duddy
And we never had ANY arguments the ENTIRE TIME.
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Dear heavens, reality will fall quite heavily on you... _Never_ marry someone eith whom you haven't had a knock-down, drag-out fight. It _will_ happen eventually. If you've been fake enough to avoid it so far, then there are things you are not dealing with.

ZV
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I don't know that I agree with that. My bf and I are both pretty mellow and we have disagreements and sometimes argue, but we've never had an all out fight, and I can't see it happening. We're too good at being grown up and talking about our problems, I guess.
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Sometimes I just want to punch you in the face.
 
Originally posted by: aiex
Originally posted by: Duddy
Originally posted by: Zenmervolt
Hahahahahahahahahahahaha

I give you 2 months of living with her before one of you dumps the other one.

ZV
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Actually, we plan on marrying and have been together for over a year now. She is going to be a doctor and I'm going to be an IT.
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WTF? Your in college having been together only a year and your already thinking of marrage?!?!?! Is she your first serious girlfriend or something?

What the hell, go live with her, if you plan on marrage its good to live with the person first. Just be aware it could/probably will go horribly wrong.
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Actually you're wrong. Statistically, couples who live together before marriage have a much higher divorce rate than couples who don't. The reason being, when you live with someone before you're married, there isn't much of a change at all when you do actually get married. It cheapens the whole thing.

So, OP, if you really want to get married, I would suggest NOT living together before marriage. If you're going to spend the rest of your life with her anyway, then you have the rest of your life to live with her, enjoy where you are now and concentrate on studies. She's going to be a doctor, she needs the study time anyway.
 
Me and my ex lived on the same floor of our dorm. We slept in each others rooms every night. I guess that constitutes living together.
 
Originally posted by: Duddy

I'm already a year into college. And we never had ANY arguments the ENTIRE TIME. And we don't drink or smoke. She also loves to play Halo 2. She also taught ME about the joy of torrents.
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No arguments? That's a *bad* sign. Not a *good* sign. One of you is sandbagging and not being completely honest. And whoever it is will eventually get tired of "faking" it and things will rapidly go down hill. Right when you said that it reminded me of a friend of mine who married a girl he never had any arguments with. Less than two years later he mentioned to me that if he was to meet Jane today he probably wouldn't even date her. D'oh.

People change a lot during college and a lot once they get out of college. It's probably the worse time to commit to a long term relationship. And if a person in a relationship feels like they "missed out" on their college years they'll take it out on the other person and *poof* there goes the relationship. I'm only 27 and I'm already seeing some of my friends who married early getting divorced.

That being said, nothing says that your relationship is doomed. It's just highly unlikely that it'll work out. And given those odds I wouldn't want to add the hassle of trying to find a new place to live once things go belly up.


Lethal
 
The reason being, when you live with someone before you're married, there isn't much of a change at all when you do actually get married. It cheapens the whole thing.
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wow, interesting, this is the first time i heard of this argumenet and it does kind of make sense.
 
Originally posted by: YOyoYOhowsDAjello
Originally posted by: LadyBuggy
Originally posted by: Zenmervolt
Originally posted by: Duddy
And we never had ANY arguments the ENTIRE TIME.
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Dear heavens, reality will fall quite heavily on you... _Never_ marry someone eith whom you haven't had a knock-down, drag-out fight. It _will_ happen eventually. If you've been fake enough to avoid it so far, then there are things you are not dealing with.

ZV
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I don't know that I agree with that. My bf and I are both pretty mellow and we have disagreements and sometimes argue, but we've never had an all out fight, and I can't see it happening. We're too good at being grown up and talking about our problems, I guess.
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Sometimes I just want to punch you in the face.
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hahaha
 
Hmm, honestly we all have done it, or kinda did it spending night after night at the others place but its college..its about having your space and being young & crazy..I'm 25 and I say yep, guilty but I wouldn't do it over again if I had the chance. Play house when you're all grown up sweetie.
 
Originally posted by: iwantanewcomputer
Originally posted by: Duddy
The odds are highly stacked against you. Just FYI.

- M4H


Why?
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quoting skillz need work. half of marriages end in divorce. much higher if you have only been together a year. much higher still if you are still in college
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And even higher if you live together before hand.
 
I did it during college. Worked out fine. But you probably want to be sure you want to stick together. No good otherwise.
 
Originally posted by: Duddy
Originally posted by: Zenmervolt
Hahahahahahahahahahahaha

I give you 2 months of living with her before one of you dumps the other one.

ZV
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Actually, we plan on marrying and have been together for over a year now. She is going to be a doctor and I'm going to be an IT.
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Posts like this make me giggle like a schoolgirl! 🙂

But whatever, at least you'll learn something about young women.
 
that is a terrible idea. You need to have space from you SO. Its always a good idea to have your own place and visit each other as the need arises, but also have your own place that you can be away from that person.
 
Hmmm...my current g/f is gonna be homeless fall and my current roomy may not be around...we were thinking of just living together....but this thread makes me scared 🙁
 
Originally posted by: Trogdor91
Hmmm...my current g/f is gonna be homeless fall and my current roomy may not be around...we were thinking of just living together....but this thread makes me scared 🙁
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It's really not as bad as people make it out to be as long as you guys are fairly serious. Just because you're living together doesn't mean you both have to give up your lives for domesticity. Just make damn sure she understands that before you sign any leases.

And be sure to have a contingency plan just in case you guys do end up splitting.

<---lived with his college GF for 18 months and (for the most part) enjoyed it
 
Originally posted by: LadyBuggy
Originally posted by: Zenmervolt
Originally posted by: Duddy
And we never had ANY arguments the ENTIRE TIME.
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Dear heavens, reality will fall quite heavily on you... _Never_ marry someone eith whom you haven't had a knock-down, drag-out fight. It _will_ happen eventually. If you've been fake enough to avoid it so far, then there are things you are not dealing with.

ZV
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I don't know that I agree with that. My bf and I are both pretty mellow and we have disagreements and sometimes argue, but we've never had an all out fight, and I can't see it happening. We're too good at being grown up and talking about our problems, I guess.
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QFT, if i have an issue i will talk to her and generally we will fix it. She is the same way. I have not had an arguement with here though we have had disagreements.
 
Actually, my best advise would be to break up with her now, and go out and date some more. Have at least 3 or 4 more girlfriends before you graduate. It really will behoove you to experience relationships with other mature women. As of right now the only serious relationship with a mature woman you have ever had is with the girlfriend you are currently with. How do you know that what you have is really a good thing when you have nothing to compare it to?
Since I know you will not listen to that advice I think you should move in with her. Oh, it is going to go horribly, horribly wrong and is going to lead to you being a very unhappy guy for a while, but if you don't do it now you will just have to learn the important lessons that it teaches you later when that lesson will be much more expensive.
 

Originally posted by: Duddy
Originally posted by: Zenmervolt
Hahahahahahahahahahahaha

I give you 2 months of living with her before one of you dumps the other one.

ZV
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Actually, we plan on marrying and have been together for over a year now. She is going to be a doctor and I'm going to be an IT.
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A YEAR?!?! You have GOT to be kidding me!

Your relationship has a 98% chance of failing. ESPECIALLY in college. Seriously.

Goddamn it, what the fvck are going through kids' minds these days???
 
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