Did/Do You Room with your Girlfriend/Boyfriend during College

[iamtrout]

Originally posted by: DarkKnight69

Originally posted by: LadyBuggy

Originally posted by: Zenmervolt

Originally posted by: Duddy
And we never had ANY arguments the ENTIRE TIME.

Dear heavens, reality will fall quite heavily on you... _Never_ marry someone eith whom you haven't had a knock-down, drag-out fight. It _will_ happen eventually. If you've been fake enough to avoid it so far, then there are things you are not dealing with.

ZV

I don't know that I agree with that. My bf and I are both pretty mellow and we have disagreements and sometimes argue, but we've never had an all out fight, and I can't see it happening. We're too good at being grown up and talking about our problems, I guess.

QFT, if i have an issue i will talk to her and generally we will fix it. She is the same way. I have not had an arguement with here though we have had disagreements.

Yup, it really all depends on how level-headed you two are. I'm pretty level-headed, and wouldn't even think about going off on a best friend or serious girlfriend. It just won't happen, even though there have been plenty of situations that have deserved it. If the girl is the same way, you're golden.

 

[George P Burdell]

Originally posted by: Duddy

I'm already a year into college. And we never had ANY arguments the ENTIRE TIME. And we don't drink or smoke. She also loves to play Halo 2. She also taught ME about the joy of torrents.

1. no arguments? either you're lying or you're real immature.

2. when she dumps you, you'll be taking up nicotine or alcohol (or both) real quick...

now i'm gonna stop being a jerk and be serious: it's not a good idea man, expecially if she;s not yet in college. wait till she's through her freshmen year. if the two of you are still together, give another thought to moving in together at that time.

also, if you two move in together, it's not really fair for her as you'll cheapen the freshman experience for her. let her move into a girls dorm and experience dorm life.

most probably she'll be sleeping in your room (or you in hers) most nights, and you'll be spending a lot of time together in your room, her room, or elsewhere studying, partying, chilling or what not. thing is, you'll be spending a lot of time with each other, and every now and then you (and your gf) will need some alone time (which is very important).

i know three couples (and know of some more) who roomed together and broke up before their one year lease was up. i'm not saying that your relationship is gonna fail if you two move in together. just want you to know that the odds are low, and you should know what you're walking into.

i lived in a co-ed apartment on campus, and the girl lived in a girls' dorm in the same courtyard. she was in my apartment most of the time, but i gotta confess: the girls' dorm was fun

oh, and the thing you said about no arguments?? kinda weird. seriously.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: YOyoYOhowsDAjello

Originally posted by: LadyBuggy

Originally posted by: Zenmervolt

Originally posted by: Duddy
And we never had ANY arguments the ENTIRE TIME.

Dear heavens, reality will fall quite heavily on you... _Never_ marry someone eith whom you haven't had a knock-down, drag-out fight. It _will_ happen eventually. If you've been fake enough to avoid it so far, then there are things you are not dealing with.

ZV

I don't know that I agree with that. My bf and I are both pretty mellow and we have disagreements and sometimes argue, but we've never had an all out fight, and I can't see it happening. We're too good at being grown up and talking about our problems, I guess.

Sometimes I just want to punch you in the face.

:laugh:

 

[aeroguy]

Yes, for about a year, with the caveat that we were engaged at the time. It was more for practicality though, we were in our senior year of college and didn't want to waste money on two apartments. Another girl lived with us (a friend of my wife) in a 2 bedroom, 2 bathroom apartment. Been married for two and a half years now and we are living happily ever after you might say.

 

[NL5]

Originally posted by: DocHolliday
that's a HORRIBLE idea [/thread]

 

[daweeze02]

i lived with my g/f for 3 years 2 years during college it was great, but we recently went our separate ways, it was for teh best though.

 

[aeroguy]

Originally posted by: DocHolliday
that's a HORRIBLE idea [/thread]

I don't totally agree with that. It depends on your circumstances. How long have you known her? How stable is your relationship? How old are you? Could you see yourself with her long term? Does it freak you out to talk about marriage with her?

If you have known her all of 6 months, it is a disaster waiting to happen. I dated my future wife for over 2.5 years before we moved in together.

 

[toekramp]

yes, and it was not a great idea.

edit: PM me if you want details

 

[jpeyton]

Wrong place to ask. Most people here don't talk to girls.

Voted yes.

 

[Gibson486]

I live with my g/f...and well, sometimes I wish i didn't.

 

[hevnsnt]

Originally posted by: Duddy
My dad says he has never heard of it. Help me prove him wrong.

Also, if you did, how did it go?

went great, we are now married.

 

[SMOGZINN]

Originally posted by: LadyBuggy

Originally posted by: Zenmervolt

Originally posted by: Duddy
And we never had ANY arguments the ENTIRE TIME.

Dear heavens, reality will fall quite heavily on you... _Never_ marry someone eith whom you haven't had a knock-down, drag-out fight. It _will_ happen eventually. If you've been fake enough to avoid it so far, then there are things you are not dealing with.

ZV

I don't know that I agree with that. My bf and I are both pretty mellow and we have disagreements and sometimes argue, but we've never had an all out fight, and I can't see it happening. We're too good at being grown up and talking about our problems, I guess.

I had been with my GF for over 3 years before we got an apt off campus, and we never had any type of serious arguments. I thought we never could, we were both very good at communicating, and listening to the others complaints, and finding ways to correct the problems. But eventually we did have a real knock-down drag out fight, and it completely broke our relationship.
You see, our relationship had no way to overcome a problem we could not discuss rationally. We both we had learned to compromise but never to truly forgive. When we found a problem that there could be no compromise on, we had no way to resolve the issue, so we just pushed it aside and tried to avoid the topic as often as possible. But these issues never went away they just festered between us, driving us apart slowly. When that final argument came about, they all got dragged out and the accusations flew and feelings were hurt, and it couldn?t be swept under the rug this time. There had to be resolution, but all these things taken together were too much for either of us to forgive all at once. We both ended up loathing the one person that we had ever truly loved and never wanted to hurt, each other.
That was more then two years ago, and I still miss her every day.
I?m not sure what ya?ll can take from this. I have always felt that we can learn from the mistakes of others, and use those lessons to improve our lives. So I give to all of you this lesson: learn to forgive, and use it freely.

 

[pclstyle]

Originally posted by: Duddy
My dad says he has never heard of it. Help me prove him wrong.

Also, if you did, how did it go?

bad, bad idea.

you will graduate as the same immature, needy pricks you were when you left high school.

 

[mercanucaribe]

Originally posted by: pclstyle

Originally posted by: Duddy
My dad says he has never heard of it. Help me prove him wrong.

Also, if you did, how did it go?

bad, bad idea.

you will graduate as the same immature, needy pricks you were when you left high school.

I agree.

 

[YOyoYOhowsDAjello]

Originally posted by: SMOGZINN

Originally posted by: LadyBuggy

Originally posted by: Zenmervolt

Originally posted by: Duddy
And we never had ANY arguments the ENTIRE TIME.

Dear heavens, reality will fall quite heavily on you... _Never_ marry someone eith whom you haven't had a knock-down, drag-out fight. It _will_ happen eventually. If you've been fake enough to avoid it so far, then there are things you are not dealing with.

ZV

I don't know that I agree with that. My bf and I are both pretty mellow and we have disagreements and sometimes argue, but we've never had an all out fight, and I can't see it happening. We're too good at being grown up and talking about our problems, I guess.

I had been with my GF for over 3 years before we got an apt off campus, and we never had any type of serious arguments. I thought we never could, we were both very good at communicating, and listening to the others complaints, and finding ways to correct the problems. But eventually we did have a real knock-down drag out fight, and it completely broke our relationship.
You see, our relationship had no way to overcome a problem we could not discuss rationally. We both we had learned to compromise but never to truly forgive. When we found a problem that there could be no compromise on, we had no way to resolve the issue, so we just pushed it aside and tried to avoid the topic as often as possible. But these issues never went away they just festered between us, driving us apart slowly. When that final argument came about, they all got dragged out and the accusations flew and feelings were hurt, and it couldn?t be swept under the rug this time. There had to be resolution, but all these things taken together were too much for either of us to forgive all at once. We both ended up loathing the one person that we had ever truly loved and never wanted to hurt, each other.
That was more then two years ago, and I still miss her every day.
I?m not sure what ya?ll can take from this. I have always felt that we can learn from the mistakes of others, and use those lessons to improve our lives. So I give to all of you this lesson: learn to forgive, and use it freely.

Sometimes I want to punch you in the face too

(j/k, I don't know who you are)

 

[Cooler]

Did and I had hell just look for Cell phone bill thread.

 

[zebano]

Terrible idea. My wife and I did it but not until our senior year for the last 6 months (she needed a new lease and was sleeping over 99% of the time anyway). Make sure you have had one serious fight and that you can resolve it in a healthy way. I also dated a few girls early in college just to date (I didn't really care for them). Have fun, don't be tied down any earlier than you have to be.

 

[TheGizmo]

bah.. reading this through this again.. dude don't do it.. have a BETTER time in college.. live, experience college.. you have plenty of yrs to live with the woman after college.. but like i always say.. theres a time and a place for stupid a$$ ****** to go down; and that place is college.

 

[JulesMaximus]

I never lived on a college campus. I've lived with a couple GF's though and ended up marrying one of them.

 

[stan394]

Originally posted by: SMOGZINN

Originally posted by: LadyBuggy

Originally posted by: Zenmervolt

Originally posted by: Duddy
And we never had ANY arguments the ENTIRE TIME.

Dear heavens, reality will fall quite heavily on you... _Never_ marry someone eith whom you haven't had a knock-down, drag-out fight. It _will_ happen eventually. If you've been fake enough to avoid it so far, then there are things you are not dealing with.

ZV

I don't know that I agree with that. My bf and I are both pretty mellow and we have disagreements and sometimes argue, but we've never had an all out fight, and I can't see it happening. We're too good at being grown up and talking about our problems, I guess.

I had been with my GF for over 3 years before we got an apt off campus, and we never had any type of serious arguments. I thought we never could, we were both very good at communicating, and listening to the others complaints, and finding ways to correct the problems. But eventually we did have a real knock-down drag out fight, and it completely broke our relationship.
You see, our relationship had no way to overcome a problem we could not discuss rationally. We both we had learned to compromise but never to truly forgive. When we found a problem that there could be no compromise on, we had no way to resolve the issue, so we just pushed it aside and tried to avoid the topic as often as possible. But these issues never went away they just festered between us, driving us apart slowly. When that final argument came about, they all got dragged out and the accusations flew and feelings were hurt, and it couldn?t be swept under the rug this time. There had to be resolution, but all these things taken together were too much for either of us to forgive all at once. We both ended up loathing the one person that we had ever truly loved and never wanted to hurt, each other.
That was more then two years ago, and I still miss her every day.
I?m not sure what ya?ll can take from this. I have always felt that we can learn from the mistakes of others, and use those lessons to improve our lives. So I give to all of you this lesson: learn to forgive, and use it freely.

would you mind sharing what kind of issue it is? money? religion? family?

 

[gigapet]

first serious girl friend right? first love? its feels all great now right?


well it will end sorry.


college is for tasting the variety of life not taking the first girl that climbs into your bed and marrying her.


in other words.....you have a lot to learn

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: DocHolliday
that's a HORRIBLE idea [/thread]

I have two friends that have done this. One was with the girl for a year and everyone thought they were destined to get married some day. The other was friends with the girl for MANY years, and then they started dating; again, we all thought they were destined for marriage.

Both of these ended terribly. Think about it: unforeseen problems arise, and you break up. Then what? You're living under the same roof. What if you want to hang out with a girl at your place or she wants to bring a guy over. Then what?

Don't do it. Don't do it. DO NOT DO IT!!!

 

[DaShen]

Ummmm... grow up OP.

 

[Ilmater]

Why are we bothering? He's going to do it anyway, it will end badly, and we'll hear about it later. HAVE FUN! Don't bother listening to the 4 dozen people here that are SCREAMING how bad of an idea it is.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

How will making a poll on a computer forum on the internet prove your dad wrong?