Dating sites?

[Shyatic]

I know the usual suspects, Match.com, eharmony, etc... but most sites seem to be catering to the one night flings... any sites where people have had luck with long term serious relationships? I'm tired of the wham bam thank you maam... getting tired.

Anyways, lemme know.

 

[l Xes l]

r u on drugs?

 

[Shyatic]

Originally posted by: krnxpride83
r u on drugs?

only on the weekends

 

[salt9876]

dating sites. wow you should get out and meet someone instead of relying on an online pool of disease infested chicks.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Scribe
I know the usual suspects, Match.com, eharmony, etc... but most sites seem to be catering to the one night flings... any sites where people have had luck with long term serious relationships? I'm tired of the wham bam thank you maam... getting tired.

Anyways, lemme know.

yes, here's a good one:

GOTIAOITRWTMC.com

get off the internet and out into the real world to meet chicks

 

[maximus maximus]

Originally posted by: Scribe
I know the usual suspects, Match.com, eharmony, etc... but most sites seem to be catering to the one night flings... any sites where people have had luck with long term serious relationships? I'm tired of the wham bam thank you maam... getting tired.

Anyways, lemme know.

I need some wham bam thank you maam sites..

 

[Quasmo]

I did a wedding a few months ago where the people met on Match.com, those people probably lived in one of the richest neighborhoods in my area, (North Atlanta) They were both rediculously loaded. But they were definately in love.

 

[Leper Messiah]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Scribe
I know the usual suspects, Match.com, eharmony, etc... but most sites seem to be catering to the one night flings... any sites where people have had luck with long term serious relationships? I'm tired of the wham bam thank you maam... getting tired.

Anyways, lemme know.

yes, here's a good one:

GOTIAOITRWTMC.com

get off the internet and out into the real world to meet chicks

:brokenheart:

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Leper Messiah

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Scribe
I know the usual suspects, Match.com, eharmony, etc... but most sites seem to be catering to the one night flings... any sites where people have had luck with long term serious relationships? I'm tired of the wham bam thank you maam... getting tired.

Anyways, lemme know.

yes, here's a good one:

GOTIAOITRWTMC.com

get off the internet and out into the real world to meet chicks

:brokenheart:

you can DO IT

 

[Leper Messiah]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Leper Messiah

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Scribe
I know the usual suspects, Match.com, eharmony, etc... but most sites seem to be catering to the one night flings... any sites where people have had luck with long term serious relationships? I'm tired of the wham bam thank you maam... getting tired.

Anyways, lemme know.

yes, here's a good one:

GOTIAOITRWTMC.com

get off the internet and out into the real world to meet chicks

:brokenheart:

you can DO IT

Not currently. At work with no sleep at all last night. Maybe this weekend though.

 

[Shyatic]

I work 12 hour days... I want something I can do while I'm at work

Besides I've never been too suave a guy -- maybe this will make it easier for me. Was easier in college but it's been tough since then.

 

[HumblePie]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Scribe
I know the usual suspects, Match.com, eharmony, etc... but most sites seem to be catering to the one night flings... any sites where people have had luck with long term serious relationships? I'm tired of the wham bam thank you maam... getting tired.

Anyways, lemme know.

yes, here's a good one:

GOTIAOITRWTMC.com

get off the internet and out into the real world to meet chicks

That's really mean to say. Literally, it's not that easy.

I work in a femaless environment. As a computer dork you don't get to see many girls. In school, I didn't get to meet many girls either. It's not from lack of trying, trust me.

I go out nearly every weekend. Bars, clubs, "scenes" or whatever. All I end up doing is being rejected over and over and spending way too much money on drinks that ost wayyy too much. I've even tried going to churches and volunteering time at places "girls would be" to get to a place where I could meet them.

It is true I'm not turned down all the time, but girls you meet in clubs are interested in one thing if they are available at all. If the OP, like me, is looking for a bit more then wham-bamm-thank-you-mam, maybe because we aren't overly horny sub-21 year olds anymore, then looking out on the weekend for chicks isn't going to work. Although there is always a chance you get lucky. Of course you can win the lottery too for millions of dollars. Personally, I think the chances of striking it rich from the lottery seem more likely then meeting a girl I like and likes me back out on the weekend.

Heck, I've taken up on flirting with EVERY chick I see and come across that catches my eye. In the post office, at souper salad (I made a long post on this one), from the grocery store, at my aunt's church, my brother's fiance's friends, friends's of friends of friends, and anything else I can.

This is why I gave up lol. Online doesn't work though to answer the OP's original question. Least not for me. As you've put it, you get really wierd psychos, those looking for sex only, or BOTS. The bots are the worst. Visit my cam sometime. It's free!!! just sign up with your credit card on our unsecured site and we promise not to file any charges..... ROFLMAO.

To the OP, I'd say not to sweat it. I'm not going to anymore. That by no means is to be taken as a quote from me to give up entirely. You should still try to put yourself in places where you can meet girls. Just don't go out of your way to try and hook up with them.

 

[randomlinh]

colleague of mine met her fiance on match.com. would never have guessed that she would be one to look on there. she's pretty hot, but I'm guessing she has almost zero time for a social life (grad student+working).

 

[rh71]

In this day and age of information, I find it funny that people still make fun of internet dating sites. There are ridiculous numbers of people hooking up [at first online] with long & happy relationships. These dating sites provide one clear advantage - to match people with similar interests right off the bat. No need to fear the superficial things as everything is presented there already. I'm not saying these sites are flawless, but they open up new opportunities for sure.

For a lot of people, meeting people is hard - especially if you're out of school (where I met mine), or work at single-gender-dominated places, or even work long hours. On top of that, I'm not so sure people you meet at clubs or bars on weekends is such a great place to meet the love of your life - do you ? These sites can be a great resource for a lot of people. If you're too proud and don't mind missing a perfect match, then they won't miss you anyway. It works out for everyone I guess.

 

[PingSpike]

I agree with rh71. Meeting people in real life is kind of overrated. I'm not going to take a salsa dancing class to meet women, because I hate salsa dancing. The gym? I mean, these are places people go for a reason, and that reason is not to find a date. Its to work out, or to learn to dance, etc. Going in there with an alterior motive can be seen as kind of deceitful, or at the very least kind of a waste of time.

You don't meet quality women at bars, you meet skanks. Like I said in another thread, why would you look for a serious relationship in a bar? Thats like me mucking around a sewer looking for a steak. Sure, you might find one...but it'd be more by accident than anything. What does that leave? Work? I think we all at least know some one thats had an abortive relationship with the coworker that ended up at least awkward, if not worse. You might being trying to find a girl to date, and then end up jobless.

Yeah, there's plenty of nuts on the internet...but have all the women you met in real life been models of sanity and rationality? At least online you can base your initial assessment of them on something a little more signifigant than whether you like their tits or not. You've got at least a little snippet that gives you some idea what they're like before you've even invested any actual work into them.

 

[HumblePie]

Originally posted by: PingSpike
I agree with rh71. Meeting people in real life is kind of overrated. I'm not going to take a salsa dancing class to meet women, because I hate salsa dancing. The gym? I mean, these are places people go for a reason, and that reason is not to find a date. Its to work out, or to learn to dance, etc. Going in there with an alterior motive can be seen as kind of deceitful, or at the very least kind of a waste of time.

You don't meet quality women at bars, you meet skanks. Like I said in another thread, why would you look for a serious relationship in a bar? Thats like me mucking around a sewer looking for a steak. Sure, you might find one...but it'd be more by accident than anything. What does that leave? Work? I think we all at least know some one thats had an abortive relationship with the coworker that ended up at least awkward, if not worse. You might being trying to find a girl to date, and then end up jobless.

Yeah, there's plenty of nuts on the internet...but have all the women you met in real life been models of sanity and rationality? At least online you can base your initial assessment of them on something a little more signifigant than whether you like their tits or not. You've got at least a little snippet that gives you some idea what they're like before you've even invested any actual work into them.

That's all fine and dandy, if what you see online is really a woman at all...

Yes, I've signed up for just about every dating site out there. Match, eharmony, yahoo, blah blah blah. All crap. 99% of the time, if it looks to good to be true. It is. You are getting a bot if you get a response at all. When I say a bot, I mean it's not really a girl but a scammer trying to get you to visit their website to A) give you a trojan B) enter your credit information to "see the girl" or C) both. Usually C.

Then, you get unindated with messages from more bots you haven't sent messages too and you get messages from the girls you don't want to be with in the first place. Ugly, fat, stupid, psychotic, boring, or all the above ends up mailing you.

In theory, online sites are a good way to go. In reality, they are just another crap shoot that is about as likely to happen as being struck by lightning. I'm not by any means saying don't try them, there is always still a chance, just like going out to bars, or volunteering time at a local animal shelter (yes I do this to meet chicks because I am that pathetic but I like pets too so it's not all bad), or playing coed sports on a coed team like volleyball or softball. If you don't try to meet someone of the opposite gender, you never will. However, trying in and of itself doesn't mean you will either. You can still go to a lonely grave no matter how much you try.

My advice is, if you are going to try, then make sure YOU have fun doing it and if something happens, then it happens. If nothing happens, well you still had fun at least so it's not a total loss.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: HumblePie

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Scribe
I know the usual suspects, Match.com, eharmony, etc... but most sites seem to be catering to the one night flings... any sites where people have had luck with long term serious relationships? I'm tired of the wham bam thank you maam... getting tired.

Anyways, lemme know.

yes, here's a good one:

GOTIAOITRWTMC.com

get off the internet and out into the real world to meet chicks

That's really mean to say. Literally, it's not that easy.

I work in a femaless environment. As a computer dork you don't get to see many girls. In school, I didn't get to meet many girls either. It's not from lack of trying, trust me.

I go out nearly every weekend. Bars, clubs, "scenes" or whatever. All I end up doing is being rejected over and over and spending way too much money on drinks that ost wayyy too much. I've even tried going to churches and volunteering time at places "girls would be" to get to a place where I could meet them.

It is true I'm not turned down all the time, but girls you meet in clubs are interested in one thing if they are available at all. If the OP, like me, is looking for a bit more then wham-bamm-thank-you-mam, maybe because we aren't overly horny sub-21 year olds anymore, then looking out on the weekend for chicks isn't going to work. Although there is always a chance you get lucky. Of course you can win the lottery too for millions of dollars. Personally, I think the chances of striking it rich from the lottery seem more likely then meeting a girl I like and likes me back out on the weekend.

Heck, I've taken up on flirting with EVERY chick I see and come across that catches my eye. In the post office, at souper salad (I made a long post on this one), from the grocery store, at my aunt's church, my brother's fiance's friends, friends's of friends of friends, and anything else I can.

This is why I gave up lol. Online doesn't work though to answer the OP's original question. Least not for me. As you've put it, you get really wierd psychos, those looking for sex only, or BOTS. The bots are the worst. Visit my cam sometime. It's free!!! just sign up with your credit card on our unsecured site and we promise not to file any charges..... ROFLMAO.

To the OP, I'd say not to sweat it. I'm not going to anymore. That by no means is to be taken as a quote from me to give up entirely. You should still try to put yourself in places where you can meet girls. Just don't go out of your way to try and hook up with them.

not mean, just a reality check.

 

[gigapet]

hey guys im going to let you in on a little secret....every 30-50 miles throughout most of the populated areas of the US there these things called shopping malls.

Now you see the amazing part of these places is that they are a MAGNET for woman of all ages shapes and sizes.

On any given saturday you can talk to hundreds-literally. Now this places poses additional advantages conducive to picking up.

1) its not a pick up environment and women are much less likely to be so defensive as in a bar

2) Its completely free

3) if she is shopping she has time to talk to you

4) You can take them on mini-dates almost immediately to the coffee shop or to s store where you need her opinion.

5) IF THIS IS TOO MUCH FOR YOU THEN YOU ARE A COWARD!

The reason that you are not having any luck, is because according to Darwing you DESERVE NOTHING in terms of opportunities to reproduce, and you are being WEEDED OUT.

Men have fought WARS and DIED BLOODY GRUESOME DEATHS and been TORTURED with ****** like CASTRATION and getting their TONGUES CUT OUT and their HANDS CHOPPED OFF and been CRUCIFIED and BURNED ALIVE and your afraid to TALK TO CHICKS IN REAL LIFE!!

GET WITH THE PROGRAM BUDDY!



Sorry for being harsh man but jeez there is no other way!

 

[CravenTacos]

okcupid.com = free, not shabby
myspace.com = underage loose std ridden but laughably easy

 

[geek4life]

Originally posted by: Scribe
I know the usual suspects, Match.com, eharmony, etc... but most sites seem to be catering to the one night flings... any sites where people have had luck with long term serious relationships? I'm tired of the wham bam thank you maam... getting tired.

Anyways, lemme know.

I'm not too big on online dating. I think it's lame. Why don't you go find dates the traditional way....like go out and meet girls? Plus it is FREE!

 

[Hyperblaze]

You want to meet women....go to places where there ARE women.

In a social atmosphere. Women aren't afraid to talk to a guy who has something interesting to say to them.

I met this really cute girl today at a volenteer center today. Talked to her for a while. Found out she had a boyfriend. Still a very nice person to talk too.

How did I find out all this? Yes, by TALKING to her.

Dating website are another avenue for finding single women. However, don't give up on meeting women outside of a dating website.

 

[HumblePie]

Originally posted by: gigapet
hey guys im going to let you in on a little secret....every 30-50 miles throughout most of the populated areas of the US there these things called shopping malls.

Now you see the amazing part of these places is that they are a MAGNET for woman of all ages shapes and sizes.

On any given saturday you can talk to hundreds-literally. Now this places poses additional advantages conducive to picking up.

1) its not a pick up environment and women are much less likely to be so defensive as in a bar

2) Its completely free

3) if she is shopping she has time to talk to you

4) You can take them on mini-dates almost immediately to the coffee shop or to s store where you need her opinion.

5) IF THIS IS TOO MUCH FOR YOU THEN YOU ARE A COWARD!

The reason that you are not having any luck, is because according to Darwing you DESERVE NOTHING in terms of opportunities to reproduce, and you are being WEEDED OUT.

Men have fought WARS and DIED BLOODY GRUESOME DEATHS and been TORTURED with ****** like CASTRATION and getting their TONGUES CUT OUT and their HANDS CHOPPED OFF and been CRUCIFIED and BURNED ALIVE and your afraid to TALK TO CHICKS IN REAL LIFE!!

GET WITH THE PROGRAM BUDDY!



Sorry for being harsh man but jeez there is no other way!

LOL, nice wording but fear of physical pain isn't the same as fear of mental pain. Two different things my friend. I'd rather break a bone then have my heart dejected by someone I really love. Why? A broken bone mends. It's easier to adapt to most physical pains. Mental pains aren't as easy to get over. I still have a hole in my heart from someone I liked and went out with back in high school. It doubt it will ever go away. Think the Ross scenario except the girl hasn't been around for a decade So it's not as bad.

As for malls. Yep, those work if you are looking to date a teenager, come off as gay, a solicitor, or a horny stalker. Every time I go to the mall, for people NOT working there this is what I see.

1) Huge gaggles of teenage girls hanging around. Not my type.
2) Girls with boyfriends/husbands. One of which has the look of not really wanting to be there written on their face. If they are shopping for guy stuff, the girls don't want to be there, and if they are shopping for girl stuff the guys don't want to be there.
3) Families/ Mothers or dads with daughters.The daughters can be of any age but finding them over 25 is a bit hard.
4) People looking to get in and get the hell out. They aren't window shopping.


The malls work if you are under 25 for picking up chicks. The younger you are, the better it works. The older you are as a guy, the less likely that is going to happen UNLESS you work there. Getting a job there in a place that caters to men AND women is not a bad idea for a weekend job to hook up with the opposite sex. Make sure it's a place that caters to both. If it caters to men, the only women you will see will not be single as they will be shopping with or for their guys. If it caters to women, you'l come across as GAY to both sides of the fence. You won't be seen as someone worth being with. Just don't work the food departments or the smaller stores unless it's a cell phone booth or the like

 

[gigapet]

not to mention women on dating sites 9/10 times have something seriously wrong with them, the top 3 being:

1) extremely low self esteem and co-dependant ------who wants a girl like that?

2) serious emotional baggage from the damage done by the men in their previous relationships--------who wants to spend time cleaining up someone elses mess?

3) just down right tramps.

 

[Shyatic]

Interesting variety of responses

I'll take some of it under advisement... if I have time

 

[geek4life]

Not to mention if your online date lives across the country, then you will have to spend money on airplane ticket just to go on a date with her.