Children or no?

[EatSpam]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: xSauronx

Originally posted by: jread
Who has children? Who is planning on having children? Who is not planning on children? What are your reasons for or against having them?

I personally do not want children but my fiancee does. I have a feeling this is going to become quite an issue in the future.

it will

i have 2, im only 22, and wouldnt reccomend it so young though

but, they rock. theyre fun, but require alot of responsibility. are you a NEVER wants kids guy, or just not right now? and how old are you?

I had my first at 22. I'm 30 now and have three. I'm done. Just got to make the appointment.
Personally I don't reccomend waiting, based on my experience, however it does play havoc with your income. I've never felt the desire to GIVE MY ALL to my company, I have kids, I want to see them, I leave the workaholic attitude for the single people.
Then again, now that we're not going to have anymore (knock on wood), I'm going back to school and thinking about what I really want to do when I grow up

I think it's easier to have them younger. You're more open minded and have the energy it takes...

This is pretty much my opinion on the whole thing... though I'm 26 and only have 1 kid so far.

 

[JasonSix78]

I'm 27 and don't have any yet. I would love to have 2 or 3. The older I get the more I want them.

-Jason

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: DAGTA
No kids currently. The older I get, the less I want kids. In fact, a few years ago I decided I don't want kids and that feeling has just grown stronger as I've aged. I'm sure there will be a few people here happy to read that Dagta has no plans to reproduce.

You seem intelligent enough... you should reproduce, or at least donate to a sperm bank to combat the influx of stupid people having throngs of children.

 

[D1gger]

My wife and I were in our early 20's when we married. At the time neither one of use wanted kids. As time went by, she started wanting kids, and I finally relented when we were in our late 20's. 15 years later, we now have two kids, whom I dearly love and support, but if it was my choice to do over, I would have had a vasectomy on my wedding night.

Having the kids has made it impossible for me to chase some of the dreams I have had. It is very difficult to take a chance and change to a new career if you are tied to a mortgage payment and have mouths to feed. I wanted to make a significant change in my life about 10 years ago, but wasn't financially in a position that I felt I could take the chance.

 

[MikeMike]

if im married around 26 i would love to have kids then.

 

[shimsham]

had both my children by the age of 24. at first, i was freaking out. i always wanted kids, but 22 is young to start and i wanst sure i was ready. but now i wouldnt have done it any other way.

being that young i didnt have a career i had to be a slave to, and i dont mind sacrificing personal gain to give them a good home and be here for them. best investment ive ever made. besides, ill only be what, 42 when the youngest graduates hs and goes to college. plenty of time to persue what i want and take those risks.

 

[Conky]

My gf/fiancee and I both agree that we never want children.

We feel it would alter our relationship and the goals we have too much. Neither of us can stand children for more than a few minutes let alone 18+ years. Maybe we will change our minds in a few years but I doubt it. Instead of paying for braces we will just have to take Caribbean vacations instead. :laugh:

 

[KarenMarie]

as if i dont find every excuse possible to bring it up no matter what the topic...

i have one daughter. she was 21yr old last october.

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
as if i dont find every excuse possible to bring it up no matter what the topic...

i have one daughter. she was 21yr old last october.

no shame in being proud.

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: Crazyfool
My gf/fiancee and I both agree that we never want children.

We feel it would alter our relationship and the goals we have too much. Neither of us can stand children for more than a few minutes let alone 18+ years. Maybe we will change our minds in a few years but I doubt it. Instead of paying for braces we will just have to take Caribbean vacations instead. :laugh:

I'm not trying to change your mind, but it's different when they're YOUR kids for those 18 years

 

[DAGTA]

Originally posted by: nakedfrog

Originally posted by: DAGTA
No kids currently. The older I get, the less I want kids. In fact, a few years ago I decided I don't want kids and that feeling has just grown stronger as I've aged. I'm sure there will be a few people here happy to read that Dagta has no plans to reproduce.

You seem intelligent enough... you should reproduce, or at least donate to a sperm bank to combat the influx of stupid people having throngs of children.

Thanks for the kind words! My friend Jay has said pretty much the exact same thing to me.

 

[Rudee]

The majority of my friends who have kids are seeing them on weekends only and paying child support to their Mother.

 

[y2kc]

don't do it.

<--- father of 2.

 

[PrinceofWands]

Have 1, want more

 

[JDrake]

Kids FTW

 

[MisterJackson]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
as if i dont find every excuse possible to bring it up no matter what the topic...

i have one daughter. she was 21yr old last october.

does Veggie Frog ever come around here anymore? I imagine she's too good for ATOT anyhow .

 

[FoBoT]

yes, two
7 and 12

they are awesome, i don't get people that don't want familes, but to each his own, freedom of choice is what you got

 

[BriGy86]

Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy

Originally posted by: BriGy86
i can't see myself loving some one enough to marry them, and i think that right there rules out kids to begin with (not really a fan of little brats anyway)

I guess thats why I see you in all the YAGT threads
Things change, your still young

here or the YAGT.org?

i don't really know why im always in those, curiosity of something im missing out on?

 

[Patt]

Planning on kids ... indeed, one is already on the way ...

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: jread
Who has children? Who is planning on having children? Who is not planning on children? What are your reasons for or against having them?

I personally do not want children but my fiancee does. I have a feeling this is going to become quite an issue in the future.

Want some advice? Don't sweat it. I was like you when I was younger. I was vehemently against having children but my wife wanted them. We waited a while (until we were in our early 30s) before we decided to try and now we have a 3.5 year old son. I think it's foolish to make up your mind about these things when you're in your teens or 20s.

When my wife finally did get pregnant I was very happy about it. Now we have a beautiful boy and I'm enjoying the experience of raising a son.

 

[Mr N8]

We just had our first, both of use were 25 years old. I'd like one more, but I don't want to have any kids past 30. I want to enjoy my retirement, but have some time without them before I retire.

 

[Jzero]

This is something you may want to sort out before you get married...it can be a huge sticking point when one of the parties goes into it thinking they can change the other's mind down the line...

 

[ShadoWing]

kids are great, it's great bein one, and sorta great raising one....lol

 

[ITJunkie]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I would like to have children some day. I am just not sure when.

I do not want them now not because i hate kids but because i would not want to sacrafice anything.
I would want us to be financially secure first.

No offense Lola but if you're waiting until your "financially stable" then you may want to rethink the whole kids thing.

My wife and I had our first kid in our mid 20's. Our second in early 30's. We didn't have a lot of money but we got by. I see our friends finally having their first kids (late 30's, early 40's) and they look like death warmed over. I pity them because their kid(s) don't give a sh1t about financial security and the parents are so used to working long hours and bringing home the big bucks that they fail to take the time to really enjoy their kids.
Kids are all about sacrifice and the reward you get in return isn't always obvious but it is totally worth it to me.

Think of it this way...kids are a lifetime rollercoaster. You do like rollercoasters don't you?

 

[Buck Armstrong]

I have a 3 year old daughter. I didn't like kids before we had her, but now I love them (well, not all of them). She's the best thing that ever happened to me, although I hated people that said that before I had one. Its expensive and time-consuming, but its well worth it IMO.

Just make SURE you can spend the rest of your life with your partner, because from what I can tell thats the single most important factor in whether you'll like having kids or not. I'm sure I'd change my mind about the whole thing if we got divorced and some other idiot ended up with my kid while I paid the tab.