God loves us that's why he gives us pain and suffering. There is fruit in that that can't easily be explained here on Earthly world. God's anger and vengence goes to those who are wicked (willfully not turning to God and live in evil way) they are not for the children of God. Pain and long suffering (both mental and physical) bears good fruit and yields to God's kingdom... If you live your way without God and come to him at the last moment before death you not gonna get much in heaven..you might get to live in a little shack with 400 sq ft backyard and live very poorly in heaven, but you will still be very thankful to God and regret that you didn't do more for God when you had the chance living on earth.. People that surrender to God, yield to him receive long suffering all their lives but they will receive 500 mile sq ft palace or mansion with a ton of other gifts / treasure... All your toys (way better than Earthly made toys) will be waiting for you as well...even more importantly, you will live close to God's palace and be with him more often, more engaging life with him.. A lot of people that go to heaven regret for not comming to God closer when they lived their life on Earth and miss out so much joy they could've gotten in heaven. That's why God is calling ya now to come to him and follow his ways...God is the one yearning for you to come more than we yearn for God.
You can't explain it because non of what you just said makes any sense. Maybe my analogy earlier in the thread was wrong. Its more like me having a kid then making him suffer when he shows me his love for me while I promise him I'm going to make his life so awesome when hes older. If this god created me just to watch me suffer for him so I can get a mansion and toys later he can eat a dick and shove it all up his ass.