Am i being too protective if i don't let my girl..

[gigapet]

I hope this guy is a suave mofo and gets her naked before even eating dinner.

 

[mitmot]

Just the mere fact that you don't trust the guy means you don't trust the girl. If you truly trusted the girl then you would have nothing to worry about. Don't even get me started about the curfew.

 

[Gibson486]

When she calls you daddy at night, you know very well why say is saying it......

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: serialkiller

Originally posted by: krnxpride83

Originally posted by: serialkiller

Originally posted by: bleeb
This sort of thing is why asian women go out with white men. white men don't give curfews(sp?)

Thats probably one of the most retarded things I have ever heard. Asian women go out with white men because they want to be with white men... just like how asian males want to be with white females... but the latter case usually doesnt work well since majority of white females dont have an attraction to asian men.

i've had white girls have crush on me.. thx..


and to those who are just posting here to call me a "troll" and "has issues"
Sorry, im not a perfecting being like you and have issues.
and you are perhaps the biggest trolls here going around every thread u dont like or agree with and call them trolls..

and i DO trust my girl.. and we've been going out for 2 years and i do seriuosly consider marrying her in future... what i dont trust is the GUY.. if it was just a lunch.. i wouldn't have made such a fuss.. but dinner w/ some guy that i dont know bothers me... curfew may sound like a bullshit... and i know it is.. but i didnt want the guy taking my girl to wrong places late at night..

Thats why I said majority.....

if you have game you have game, it doesnt matter what your race is girls of all colors will be attracted. Although it may be more challenging since a white girls "ideal" man isn't usually thought of as being of asian decent. So perhaps its more accurate in saying that asian men don't have enough game to create attraction in white females.

 

[serialkiller]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: serialkiller

Originally posted by: krnxpride83

Originally posted by: serialkiller

Originally posted by: bleeb
This sort of thing is why asian women go out with white men. white men don't give curfews(sp?)

Thats probably one of the most retarded things I have ever heard. Asian women go out with white men because they want to be with white men... just like how asian males want to be with white females... but the latter case usually doesnt work well since majority of white females dont have an attraction to asian men.

i've had white girls have crush on me.. thx..


and to those who are just posting here to call me a "troll" and "has issues"
Sorry, im not a perfecting being like you and have issues.
and you are perhaps the biggest trolls here going around every thread u dont like or agree with and call them trolls..

and i DO trust my girl.. and we've been going out for 2 years and i do seriuosly consider marrying her in future... what i dont trust is the GUY.. if it was just a lunch.. i wouldn't have made such a fuss.. but dinner w/ some guy that i dont know bothers me... curfew may sound like a bullshit... and i know it is.. but i didnt want the guy taking my girl to wrong places late at night..

Thats why I said majority.....

if you have game you have game, it doesnt matter what your race is girls of all colors will be attracted. Although it may be more challenging since a white girls "ideal" man isn't usually thought of as being of asian decent. So perhaps its more accurate in saying that asian men don't have enough game to create attraction in white females.

In that sense I wouldnt say asian men dont have enough game..... I would say the game itself is more challenging... =D

 

[SMOGZINN]

I didn't even have to read this (I did anyway) to know that you are being over protective, and quite frankly a jerk. Anytime you "Don't let" her do something you are being over protective or a jerk, and probably both. You are not her dad, and she is not a child. A relationship only lasts as long as both parties chose to be together. You can not force her to stay with you by demanding it, nor can you trick her into staying with you by trying to limit her exposure to the world.
It really sounds like the problem you have is self esteem. You need to decide once and for all that you are worthy of her love, and then accept that you have it for however long it might last, and not one minute longer.

 

[Accipiter22]

the curfew idea sounds horrible....but in principle i get what you're saying....a full blown dinner with another guy sounds a little bizarre to me. I mean there's nothing wrong with talkin or chilling with the opposite sex when you're committed....but a full out dinner seems excessive to me.

 

[mrphones]

Originally posted by: krnxpride83
Ok, this guy stopped by my gf's work last sunday... and he's someone she knew from before when she was a sophomore in college.... and he asked her out to dinner to catch up... and he knows she has a boyfriend.... and she said ok...
I said it was ok at first, but today, right before when she went out at 6pm, I gave her a curfew by 9pm to get home since i figured that a dinner shouldn't take more than 2-3hours. She got mad. Am i being too protective?

You gave your GF a curfew? LOL.... This has nothing to do with you being protective. What are you protecting her from?... This has to do with you either being jealous or having a lack of self confidence. Let's just put it this way. If she's going to leave you, she's going to leave you no matter what you do. You putting restrictions on her is not going to keep her from doing anything. It's all about trust man...if you can't trust each other than don't go any further. And if she's giving you a reason to not trust her, then it's time you part ways. No amount of P**** is worth that trouble. But I have a feeling it's just about you having a lack of self confidence.

 

[mrphones]

Originally posted by: Cruisin1
Well no matter what you all say, she's going to dinner with an OLD guy friend. I'd be worried too. Yeah I'd trust my girlfriend, but no way in hell do I trust the guy. Every man here knows he's prolly trying to get in her pants

Ya that's it, every man wants to get in a womans pants...haha...

Life is about trust and a lot of you are lacking big time in that department....

 

[MaxDepth]

Curfew? Man, I got into her pants before we even left the driveway. By the way, she doesn't really like to wear underwear, no matter how many times you tell her to wear them.
:evil:

 

[mitmot]

What I don't understand is why everyone is making a big deal and calling it a 'full blown dinner.' Dinner could be some chill place like applebee's or TGIF. Does it really matter? DINNER IS DINNER. Frankly, I don't see the difference between being lunch or dinner except the time. They could be going to burger king for all you know...

 

[LookingGlass]

He isn't protecting her, he is protecting himself by trying to give her that ridiculous curfew. So, it will make himself feel better.

 

[Jzero]

Uhh...it's one thing to tell your gf you're not comfortable with this situation (I would (and have, in fact)), but iin trying to give her a "curfew," you're just asking for trouble.

 

[DivideBYZero]

She can still get nailed before 9pm, so your curfew means nothing.

Do you trust her? Thats all you have to ask. A relationship is built on trust. If you don't have that, you have nothing.

 

[randomlinh]

Originally posted by: Nik
She should respect you before anyone else -except parents and stuff. However, you can't let her do anything. You also can't NOT let her do anything. It's her decision. Period. See what decision she makes and talk to her about your feelings instead of clamming up or babbling on about them on the internet.

ftw

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: lnguyen

Originally posted by: Nik
She should respect you before anyone else -except parents and stuff. However, you can't let her do anything. You also can't NOT let her do anything. It's her decision. Period. See what decision she makes and talk to her about your feelings instead of clamming up or babbling on about them on the internet.

ftw

for the nguyen?

 

[IronWing]

Originally posted by: LookingGlass
He isn't protecting her, he is protecting himself by trying to give her that ridiculous curfew. So, it will make himself feel better.

Some men will do anything to avoid mental images of sperm competition.

 

[rh71]

Tough situation to be in as the guy, no matter how trusting you are. You're still going to feel a level of insecurity because you know nothing about this guy and their relationship.

At the very least, I would've made her aware that I wasn't happy about it but I wouldn't have restricted her. Think about how you would like to be treated in a similar situation... gotta loosen up a bit more than that.

 

[rh71]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: lnguyen

Originally posted by: Nik
She should respect you before anyone else -except parents and stuff. However, you can't let her do anything. You also can't NOT let her do anything. It's her decision. Period. See what decision she makes and talk to her about your feelings instead of clamming up or babbling on about them on the internet.

ftw

for the nguyen?

I still don't know why that's not pronounced new-win.

 

[spaceman]

gah, the dude obviously wants to get in her pants.
id tell her to go and not bother coming back if its that important.

 

[LookingGlass]

Originally posted by: ironwing

Originally posted by: LookingGlass
He isn't protecting her, he is protecting himself by trying to give her that ridiculous curfew. So, it will make himself feel better.

Some men will do anything to avoid mental images of sperm competition.

:laugh:

 

[Sqube]

Let go of the leash there, OP. It's not going to help the relationship any.

 

[meltdown75]

Am i being too protective if i don't let my girl..

yep. next?

 

[scarpent]

Anybody who thinks that a relationship needs to be tested is crazy. You can't have a relationship without it being tested naturally so why would you want to add to that. Relationships need to nurtured and protected in order to grow. The fact that she isn't trying to make you feel secure is a big red flag, however, you shouldn't try to control her. You should tell her how you feel and if she resists your desires then that shows you that she is not the one for you. You're going to lose if you think you can change her.

 

[Ime]

Yeah, you're being over-protective alright. Do you also follow her around and keep tabs on her? Sounds stalker-ish to me.