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Am i being too protective if i don't let my girl..

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I never fail to get a chuckle out of these "Should I let my girlfriend/wife..." threads as if your girlfriend or wife is a child and needs your permission to do things. This one had the added bonus of a potential curfew thrown in in case the original concept wasn't funny enough. :roll:
 
Like a lot of others have said, giving a curfew only shows you don't trust her and your action will fuel any misgivings she has about your relationship. Way to put more nails in the coffin, bro! :thumbsup:
 
All other comments aside, telling yer g/f to be home by 9 is sad. Instead, you could have been cool and suggested maybe meeting up with both of them to enjoy a movie or some sort of entertainment after they had some catchup time.
 
Originally posted by: TallBill
All other comments aside, telling yer g/f to be home by 9 is sad. Instead, you could have been cool and suggested maybe meeting up with both of them to enjoy a movie or some sort of entertainment after they had some catchup time.
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im too much of a jerk. that's my conclusion. hopefully i will improve on my issues.
 
Originally posted by: krnxpride83
Originally posted by: TallBill
All other comments aside, telling yer g/f to be home by 9 is sad. Instead, you could have been cool and suggested maybe meeting up with both of them to enjoy a movie or some sort of entertainment after they had some catchup time.
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im too much of a jerk. that's my conclusion. hopefully i will improve on my issues.
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Well its not exactly the end of the world. Regardless of how the situation pans out, its a learning experience. And of course its natural for someone to want to worry about their relationship.

After all, a crapload of people cheat in today's world. You just cant worry about it 24/7. If its gonna happen, then she'd find a way anyways, and you probably never would have known about her friend.
 
curfew? "giving her permission?!" are you out of your fscking mind?!! wtf are you, her father when she's 15?
 
It's guaranteed that he wants her. It's on her to not accept any of his advances. She better not have let him pay for her portion of the dinner. You need to ask her to show you the receipt for her portion of the meal and see if she paid for it. If she didn't, dump her.
 
OP, it's a lost cause bro...if she wants go out with him, it is inevetable that they are going to have sex...a "curfew" just means they'll do it faster, or she'll be out all night doin him to spite you. Your best bet is to let her get some and hope she feels guilty enough to come back.

skew
 
OP
Well after reading the entire thread it seems most people think your an ass for setting a curfew. And you are. But that is only because you took the wrong approach to this.
A lot of people are saying "it is just a dinner" blah blah blah. It is a friggin date that your girl is out on. Setting a curfew was not right, but what was completely wrong was for her to agree to go on this date.
There is a lot to be said for keeping yourself above reproach and she is NOT doing that. Just the fact that she told this guy she would go out with him for dinner shows that she may not be committed to this relationship.
Forgo all the posts about how they are screwing. They probably aren't. But you need to think long and hard about this relationship and if you want it to continue.
A lot of these posts are right in the fact that you two may not be together for long. But I would bet it will end because she has no respect for you. Not over any curfew.

Long story short - married women or women in a committed relationship do not accept dates with "old friends". Because any woman who does that not only puts herself in a position to be unfaithful but also puts you in the position you are now of questioning your trust for her.
It goes both ways though. Guys should not be going out on dates with old girl friends either.

word.
 
THIS IS YOUR ADVICE OR IDEAS...

You shouldn't have "let her" go on a date .. but its okay to just give her a curfew??

WHAT I MAY HAVE DONE
WTF!! I would have stayed out all night, period. I would have crashed at a gfs house and make you sick with worry for being such an ass.

THE TRUTH
We are women, not children if we love and respect you, don't sweat it. If you can't deal with that then you probably shouldn't be with her or anyone else if you have issues.

 
yes. you're being too controlling/protective. give her space and she'll love you more. just tell her you trust her and love her.

make sure you apologize for being a dumbass.
 
arent you the same freakin guy that posted about you not liking your GF show her clevage??

Look, if you don't MAN UP and start acting confident instead of a insecure girly boy like you are now you will lose your GF sooner or later.
 
If she really wanted to cheat on you, she could do it behind your back. I'd say give her the go ahead, just hire a few PI's to keep tabs on the evening =)
 
Originally posted by: stan394
Originally posted by: shortspanishguy
Were u the guy who made the thread about letting your gf wear a low cut top?
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i think he is
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Yep. http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview...atid=38&threadid=1705595&enterthread=y

You know, OP, I'm thinking that this relationship isn't going to work for you much longer. You're very controlling and I think (and hope) that this girl eventually figures out that she can do better than you. Yes, going to dinner with some other guy wasn't the most respectful thing she could do (nor was wearing low tops out in public when she knew that it bothered you), but you really need to grow up and take a look at your relationship. If things like this get to you enough that you feel the need to control your girlfriend's actions, maybe you should let this one go and try to find someone who agrees with your ideas about relationships more.

Originally posted by: krnxpride83
Originally posted by: aidanjm
What are you gonna do if she breaks curfew? Hit her? :disgust:
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rofl.. :evil:
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Really. Not. Funny.
 
Originally posted by: krnxpride83
Ok, this guy stopped by my gf's work last sunday... and he's someone she knew from before when she was a sophomore in college.... and he asked her out to dinner to catch up... and he knows she has a boyfriend.... and she said ok...
I said it was ok at first, but today, right before when she went out at 6pm, I gave her a curfew by 9pm to get home since i figured that a dinner shouldn't take more than 2-3hours. She got mad. Am i being too protective? 🙁
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nah man keep doing it. she will just swing by his place on the way home and have hate sex.

I'd say he's hopeing something happens....as your g/f she probably knows that but is willing to talk about times...it's fun.

If you don't trust your mate, it's time to grow up or move on.
 
Originally posted by: AcidBath
OP
Well after reading the entire thread it seems most people think your an ass for setting a curfew. And you are. But that is only because you took the wrong approach to this.
A lot of people are saying "it is just a dinner" blah blah blah. It is a friggin date that your girl is out on. Setting a curfew was not right, but what was completely wrong was for her to agree to go on this date.
There is a lot to be said for keeping yourself above reproach and she is NOT doing that. Just the fact that she told this guy she would go out with him for dinner shows that she may not be committed to this relationship.
Forgo all the posts about how they are screwing. They probably aren't. But you need to think long and hard about this relationship and if you want it to continue.
A lot of these posts are right in the fact that you two may not be together for long. But I would bet it will end because she has no respect for you. Not over any curfew.

Long story short - married women or women in a committed relationship do not accept dates with "old friends". Because any woman who does that not only puts herself in a position to be unfaithful but also puts you in the position you are now of questioning your trust for her.
It goes both ways though. Guys should not be going out on dates with old girl friends either.

word.
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I think the OP is slightly more pathetic than you, but not by much. So, seeing an old friend is a "date" and automatically a threat to your relationship? Could you get any more paranoid and insecure?

To the OP:
Either you trust your significant other or you don't. If you don't, why are you even together?


Lethal
 
Originally posted by: AcidBath
OP
Well after reading the entire thread it seems most people think your an ass for setting a curfew. And you are. But that is only because you took the wrong approach to this.
A lot of people are saying "it is just a dinner" blah blah blah. It is a friggin date that your girl is out on. Setting a curfew was not right, but what was completely wrong was for her to agree to go on this date.
There is a lot to be said for keeping yourself above reproach and she is NOT doing that. Just the fact that she told this guy she would go out with him for dinner shows that she may not be committed to this relationship.
Forgo all the posts about how they are screwing. They probably aren't. But you need to think long and hard about this relationship and if you want it to continue.
A lot of these posts are right in the fact that you two may not be together for long. But I would bet it will end because she has no respect for you. Not over any curfew.

Long story short - married women or women in a committed relationship do not accept dates with "old friends". Because any woman who does that not only puts herself in a position to be unfaithful but also puts you in the position you are now of questioning your trust for her.
It goes both ways though. Guys should not be going out on dates with old girl friends either.

word.
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what are you, 15?

I go out with female friends solo and in groups, my wife goes out with male friends solo and in groups. I can't say forever, but for the last few years it's not about going out to hook up.
 
Originally posted by: AcidBath
OP
Well after reading the entire thread it seems most people think your an ass for setting a curfew. And you are. But that is only because you took the wrong approach to this.
A lot of people are saying "it is just a dinner" blah blah blah. It is a friggin date that your girl is out on. Setting a curfew was not right, but what was completely wrong was for her to agree to go on this date.
There is a lot to be said for keeping yourself above reproach and she is NOT doing that. Just the fact that she told this guy she would go out with him for dinner shows that she may not be committed to this relationship.
Forgo all the posts about how they are screwing. They probably aren't. But you need to think long and hard about this relationship and if you want it to continue.
A lot of these posts are right in the fact that you two may not be together for long. But I would bet it will end because she has no respect for you. Not over any curfew.

Long story short - married women or women in a committed relationship do not accept dates with "old friends". Because any woman who does that not only puts herself in a position to be unfaithful but also puts you in the position you are now of questioning your trust for her.
It goes both ways though. Guys should not be going out on dates with old girl friends either.

word.
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wtf??? am i not allowed to see a female after they have a boyfriend?? what world are you living on? If im back in Baltimore where i went to school or in New York where i grew up I always call up old friends, male and female and we go out for lunch/dinner/drinks whatever

sometimes their signifigant other comes other times they dont and i dont care either way, but i am not trying to hook up with them, i just want to catch up with friends

if he was really worried i would just say to casually ask if he can go along...not be harsh like he doesnt trust her...say something like "hey im not doing anything that night, maybe I could come along and we could grab a drink afterward?"...if she refuses to let him come it might be weird, but u should def. trust her unless she has done something that makes u not trust her
 
These people don't know what they're talking about. He's a guy. She's a girl. He wants to get in her pants. She may not necessarily want him, but she sure loves the attention and is likely encouraging it.
 
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