I think the two of you are completely fvcked. My honest opinion is that she either A. Likes this guy a lot B. Needs More C. All of the above
While I don't really think its up to you to say she can't go with this guy, I don't think she should be doing what she is doing...
You know how many times ive gone out witha girl i used to like, and my GF didnt care? like 15 times (parties together)
you know how many times she has gone out and watched a movie with guys she liked/used to like etc? many times
you know what our trust level is? Extremely high.
Why? because we can.
you know how many times she has gone out and watched a movie with guys she liked/used to like etc? many times
you know what our trust level is? Extremely high.
Why? because we can.
I'll tell you what she's doing right now.....
me!
I hope the OP is just joking and trying to stir crap up around here, because if he isn't then he won't have a gf for much longer.
me!
I hope the OP is just joking and trying to stir crap up around here, because if he isn't then he won't have a gf for much longer.
Skunkwourk
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you aren't being protective, you're being controlling.
More importantly however, it sounds like you don't really trust this girl? Maybe shes a crazy flirt, or maybe shes cheated before, I dunno. Personally I don't think she should have gone to dinner, and I'll be damned if you find out later that she let him pay for the entire meal, BUT the curfew was a dumb thing to say. Try explaining to yourself how that was a good idea. Parents give curfews cause kids are too dumb to make smart choices, you basically told your girlfriend she was too dumb to handle herself, and that you didn't trust her. A relationship should be between equals, not a teacher and a student. If you have problems with something you should try to solve them together. Besides, it would suck if your girlfriend labeled you as a stereotypical jealous korean guy.
More importantly however, it sounds like you don't really trust this girl? Maybe shes a crazy flirt, or maybe shes cheated before, I dunno. Personally I don't think she should have gone to dinner, and I'll be damned if you find out later that she let him pay for the entire meal, BUT the curfew was a dumb thing to say. Try explaining to yourself how that was a good idea. Parents give curfews cause kids are too dumb to make smart choices, you basically told your girlfriend she was too dumb to handle herself, and that you didn't trust her. A relationship should be between equals, not a teacher and a student. If you have problems with something you should try to solve them together. Besides, it would suck if your girlfriend labeled you as a stereotypical jealous korean guy.
i've had white girls have crush on me.. thx..
and to those who are just posting here to call me a "troll" and "has issues"
Sorry, im not a perfecting being like you and have issues.
and you are perhaps the biggest trolls here going around every thread u dont like or agree with and call them trolls..
and i DO trust my girl.. and we've been going out for 2 years and i do seriuosly consider marrying her in future... what i dont trust is the GUY.. if it was just a lunch.. i wouldn't have made such a fuss.. but dinner w/ some guy that i dont know bothers me... curfew may sound like a bullshit... and i know it is.. but i didnt want the guy taking my girl to wrong places late at night..
Won't read whole thread but...
1) Half the people here don't have a steady girlfriend (ever?)
2) Giving her a cerfew was a bit childish. If she took offense, talk to her later and tell her it was only because you care about her.
1) Half the people here don't have a steady girlfriend (ever?)
2) Giving her a cerfew was a bit childish. If she took offense, talk to her later and tell her it was only because you care about her.
Skunkwourk
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about trusting your girl. Part of that trust means trusting her judgement of other people. I don't trust over half the people on this planet, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't let my girl go outside. Trust her to do the right thing just in case you are right about this guy...
Why the hell is the girl seeing this guy again? Does the guy really care about his "friendship" with her? Somehow, I doubt that.
Just remember that majority of the guys would hit on a girl regardless of whether she has a b/f or not. Heck, many guys will even hit on married women.
EDIT: Next time there is an event, you should ask her if you could come. If she says no, I would be on alert.
Just remember that majority of the guys would hit on a girl regardless of whether she has a b/f or not. Heck, many guys will even hit on married women.
EDIT: Next time there is an event, you should ask her if you could come. If she says no, I would be on alert.
I understanding what you are saying.. i trust how failthful she is.. but i DONT trust her judgements... She's a real slow and pretty naive person.. and she knows it too... she even went on a "tour" w/ a stranger guy in italy when she went there by herself for a marathon.. he ended trying to make a move on her and she ran away... she has real friendly personality that gives guys wrong ideas...
Cdubneeddeal
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From that statement, you do not trust your girl. What set it off is that you said you don't trust the guy. What that means is you fear the guy is going to come on to her and she's going to give in which means you don't trust your girl?
a dinner with a dude ( just the 2 of em ) i feel really inapropiate. and i dont think i would stand for it. i mean, would she like me to go ask a girl i knew on a dinnner ( just the two of us ) even if theres a looot of trust i dont think so. lol no no..
MrDudeMan
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seriously, she has been gone since 6? man i would be fuming if i were you right now. this is so disrespectful to your relationship. i have a feeling she is caressing his meat sausage with her soft taco right now and you are sitting here online posting about it. sucks to be you. i would have a serious talk with that biatch when she got home.
Originally posted by: krnxpride83
Ok, this guy stopped by my gf's work last sunday... and he's someone she knew from before when she was a sophomore in college.... and he asked her out to dinner to catch up... and he knows she has a boyfriend.... and she said ok...
I said it was ok at first, but today, right before when she went out at 6pm, I gave her a curfew by 9pm to get home since i figured that a dinner shouldn't take more than 2-3hours. She got mad. Am i being too protective?
You gave your girlfriend a curfew?
Yes, that is ****** creepy dude
catching up where?...are they just at the dinner table?...do they go to a cafe afterwards or bar?...is alcohol involved, are they drinking?
you been with your gf for some time now, you both should be able to communicate and get all this crap out in the open...ask her if she'd be ok if you did the same:
some girl you knew from back in the day asks you out to dinner to catch up, which ultimately ends up being a late night with you not being home by 9pm...
if your gf says she's ok with it, then test it out...
you been with your gf for some time now, you both should be able to communicate and get all this crap out in the open...ask her if she'd be ok if you did the same:
some girl you knew from back in the day asks you out to dinner to catch up, which ultimately ends up being a late night with you not being home by 9pm...
if your gf says she's ok with it, then test it out...
i think that's disrespectful on your girlfriend's part...would she be just as understanding if the roles were reversed?...some girl has mutual friends with you, likes you, repeatedly asks you out and keeps in touch via aim/phone and mutual friends...then you agree to have a "lunch day" with her...highly unlikely that your gf would be ok with this...
don't be a doormat and get stepped on and don't be afraid to cause a ruckus about this...if you don't do anything it'll be a constant thorn in your side...
Thats why I said majority.... The ratio of caucasian males dating asian females are way more then asian men dating caucasian females...
thirdeye
Platinum Member
You give her a curfew and keep being so controlling and you're not gonna have to worry about having a g/f soon.
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