Am i an a$$ roomate

[40Hands]

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: Fingolfin269
I would have moved the party somewhere else.

Yes, that was a pretty stupid thing to do. On both your parts. He should have told you earlier (that is very irresponsible), but if you were any of a friend/roommate, you would have cancelled the party or moved it somewhere else. It is just one party, you can have a bigger one next week, you have to live with the guy. He would have to make it up to you though, like provide the keg for the next party, because he was in the wrong, too, for not telling you sooner, but you did a really d!ck thing there. Good job. :roll:

Both of you sound too immature to live with each other. I feel bad times coming ahead.

If you would have bothered to read the thread you would see that the BF called his GF about the whole thing AFTER I had already decided that I could reschedule the party. He was just too stubborn to let us resolve the issue between the 3 people at the house. But I love people who jump to the immature conclusion without reading the whole story. :roll:

 

[JoPh]

should have just told the mom about the party. unless you are all under 21.

my mom prolly just changed to a hotel then. should wouldnt care that we had a party.

or she could be like my roommates dad/mom and join the party.

 

[crystal]

Originally posted by: GhettoPeanut

Originally posted by: crystal
I still don't see OP reasons, 2 senarios:

1. You going to have a party -> mon wants to stay during that time -> you said, no can't do & want mon to go to hotel...

2. You NOT going to have a party -> mon wants to stay during that time -> ARE you going to said, no can't do & want mon to go to the hotel... or it is ok for her to stay there?

Basically, what I am trying to say is... what is the big deals with you that the mon stays there whether you have a party or not? Are you planning to do something during the party that you feel ashame off or illegal? Or because with an adult present during the party, it's going to "cram" your styles? Base on what you said, you all are in college/works. That means you all are an adult, act like one.

the mom would be staying on a couch in our living room where the party would be happeneing...

You make it sounds like the mon would lies on the couch and try to get some sleep as the party happening around here. How stupid can you be? More likely that she will be in the kitchen helping out with the snacks and make small talk with the guests. Big deals.
BTW, my feeling is you plans to do stuffs that any parents would disapprove at the party.

 

[virtueixi]

I pay for rent in my dorm. If someone wants to move two people in who don't pay rent, I would tell them to f off. I don't want to share bathrooms with more people or deal with extra noise and just the general incovience, even if it is a visit.

 

[RbSX]

If they can afford to pay for concert tickets, plane tickets, and the whole trip, they can afford to stay in a best western for 75 bucks a night. Fvck your room mate.

 

[Slvrtg277]

Originally posted by: crystal

Originally posted by: GhettoPeanut

Originally posted by: crystal
I still don't see OP reasons, 2 senarios:

1. You going to have a party -> mon wants to stay during that time -> you said, no can't do & want mon to go to hotel...

2. You NOT going to have a party -> mon wants to stay during that time -> ARE you going to said, no can't do & want mon to go to the hotel... or it is ok for her to stay there?

Basically, what I am trying to say is... what is the big deals with you that the mon stays there whether you have a party or not? Are you planning to do something during the party that you feel ashame off or illegal? Or because with an adult present during the party, it's going to "cram" your styles? Base on what you said, you all are in college/works. That means you all are an adult, act like one.

the mom would be staying on a couch in our living room where the party would be happeneing...

You make it sounds like the mon would lies on the couch and try to get some sleep as the party happening around here. How stupid can you be? More likely that she will be in the kitchen helping out with the snacks and make small talk with the guests. Big deals.
BTW, my feeling is you plans to do stuffs that any parents would disapprove at the party.

Whats the hells with yous and alls the s'sssss's, mon?

 

[GhettoPeanut]

Originally posted by: Slvrtg277

Originally posted by: crystal

Originally posted by: GhettoPeanut

Originally posted by: crystal
I still don't see OP reasons, 2 senarios:

1. You going to have a party -> mon wants to stay during that time -> you said, no can't do & want mon to go to hotel...

2. You NOT going to have a party -> mon wants to stay during that time -> ARE you going to said, no can't do & want mon to go to the hotel... or it is ok for her to stay there?

Basically, what I am trying to say is... what is the big deals with you that the mon stays there whether you have a party or not? Are you planning to do something during the party that you feel ashame off or illegal? Or because with an adult present during the party, it's going to "cram" your styles? Base on what you said, you all are in college/works. That means you all are an adult, act like one.

the mom would be staying on a couch in our living room where the party would be happeneing...

You make it sounds like the mon would lies on the couch and try to get some sleep as the party happening around here. How stupid can you be? More likely that she will be in the kitchen helping out with the snacks and make small talk with the guests. Big deals.
BTW, my feeling is you plans to do stuffs that any parents would disapprove at the party.

Whats the hells with yous and alls the s'sssss's, mon?

nope, just beer party, but i doubt the mom would be down with staying up untill 3am with loud music in the area you sleep in. she woudlnt' be in the kitchen making snakes, this isn't a "hi lets be friends party" its a lets get drunk playing games while listening to loud music party.

 

[thelanx]

Seems like your roommate has communication problems and respect problems, and I don't mean respect for the parent I mean respect for his fellow roommates. I think you were justified in your actions imo. Of course if the party was rescheduled everything would be smoother, but you had no obligation to do so. Since you told him about the party, he had an obligation to speak up. Now he just knowingly wasted your time and effort in planning this party and seems to think he can just tell you to cancel it last minute, to me that is a sign of disrespect. If he is not going to respect you, your time and effort, or your equal authority as a roommate, then why the f--k should you reschedule for him or his GF. And why didn't his GF tell you guys?

 

[eakers]

you guys should have offered to chip in to pay for the hotel.

 

[Valkerie]

Originally posted by: Fingolfin269
I would have moved the party somewhere else.

 

[knyghtbyte]

the b/f is in the wrong here for not letting the housemates know, the g/f is in the wrong for not checking the b/f had told everyone else in the house.....the mum is ALSO in the wrong, because if she has to mollycoddle her daughter enough to pay rent and stay in a shared house when she visits then she should have checked with the daughter that the other occupants were aware of her impending visit......

the party should not be cancelled, the mum should spend the night in a hotel, lets face it, if she can afford to pay her daughters rent im betting she aint hard up...its one night, whats the big deal?

i didnt read more than the first page or two, but im guessing the b/f decided to tell it stupidly on the phone on purpose to create this situation out of annoyance at having to deal with it when he should have dealt with it before, in other words he screwed up and didnt want to admit to his g/f he screwed up......however now he has screwed up even more.....

lastly, parents in no way have the right to stay in a shared house just because they pay the rent for one of the occupants....if they paid the entire rent that might be different, but usually from a legal standpoint when leasing individual rooms, the listed tenant is allowed to stay, NOT the person the payment is coming from, and for anyone else to stay, technically even if just for a night, the landlord should be asked if he/she agrees it to be ok. Obviously in the real world this doesnt usually matter, unless an accident happens and lawyers are involved, then it would matter ;-)

ok, back to work, i've avoided answering a phone call for long enuff now..heh

 

[GhettoPeanut]

paying for the hotel is not a bad idea, moving the party to a different location isn't really an option. maybe it should have been moved to a different weekend, but the real issue at hand isn't hte party of the comming of the mother, its that we had plan A and told we had to just drop it, its just not really respectful, i mean, the BF didnt' even come in looking for a solution, it was just, this is how its going to be, my way or the high way, and you have to push so hard just to get something else out of him, it can be difficult.

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: eakers
you guys should have offered to chip in to pay for the hotel.

why? they are already paying part of the rent and this is not there screwup.


If i had plans and my roommate said sorry my parents are coming and staying the night. i would have asked why they can't get a motel for the night. if they still insisted on it i would have still had my party anyway.

This is not all about respect for the parent. it is also respect for the other people in the house. IF one person has something planed and everyone know about it then that should not be changed.

Since the BF or the GF didnt inform the others that the parent was going to stay and sleep on the sofa (thats just weird) until the next day then that is the there problem. I will not change my planes. While i mention the hotel i would let her sleep on the sofa but she will have to put up with the party.


Just because her mother is paying for part of the rent does not mean the others have to give up there rights and access to the apartment. Communication is needed when living with other people. having small meetings does not hurt. It really helps keep everything known.

 

[GhettoPeanut]

Originally posted by: knyghtbyte
the b/f is in the wrong here for not letting the housemates know, the g/f is in the wrong for not checking the b/f had told everyone else in the house.....the mum is ALSO in the wrong, because if she has to mollycoddle her daughter enough to pay rent and stay in a shared house when she visits then she should have checked with the daughter that the other occupants were aware of her impending visit......

the party should not be cancelled, the mum should spend the night in a hotel, lets face it, if she can afford to pay her daughters rent im betting she aint hard up...its one night, whats the big deal?

i didnt read more than the first page or two, but im guessing the b/f decided to tell it stupidly on the phone on purpose to create this situation out of annoyance at having to deal with it when he should have dealt with it before, in other words he screwed up and didnt want to admit to his g/f he screwed up......however now he has screwed up even more.....

lastly, parents in no way have the right to stay in a shared house just because they pay the rent for one of the occupants....if they paid the entire rent that might be different, but usually from a legal standpoint when leasing individual rooms, the listed tenant is allowed to stay, NOT the person the payment is coming from, and for anyone else to stay, technically even if just for a night, the landlord should be asked if he/she agrees it to be ok. Obviously in the real world this doesnt usually matter, unless an accident happens and lawyers are involved, then it would matter ;-)

ok, back to work, i've avoided answering a phone call for long enuff now..heh

great post. well put.

 

[BigJ]

Originally posted by: knyghtbyte
the b/f is in the wrong here for not letting the housemates know, the g/f is in the wrong for not checking the b/f had told everyone else in the house.....the mum is ALSO in the wrong, because if she has to mollycoddle her daughter enough to pay rent and stay in a shared house when she visits then she should have checked with the daughter that the other occupants were aware of her impending visit......

the party should not be cancelled, the mum should spend the night in a hotel, lets face it, if she can afford to pay her daughters rent im betting she aint hard up...its one night, whats the big deal?

i didnt read more than the first page or two, but im guessing the b/f decided to tell it stupidly on the phone on purpose to create this situation out of annoyance at having to deal with it when he should have dealt with it before, in other words he screwed up and didnt want to admit to his g/f he screwed up......however now he has screwed up even more.....

lastly, parents in no way have the right to stay in a shared house just because they pay the rent for one of the occupants....if they paid the entire rent that might be different, but usually from a legal standpoint when leasing individual rooms, the listed tenant is allowed to stay, NOT the person the payment is coming from, and for anyone else to stay, technically even if just for a night, the landlord should be asked if he/she agrees it to be ok. Obviously in the real world this doesnt usually matter, unless an accident happens and lawyers are involved, then it would matter

ok, back to work, i've avoided answering a phone call for long enuff now..heh

Thank God someone finally got it right. But you lose two points for fvcking up the emoticon.

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: GhettoPeanut
So should i talk to the mom possibly? find out what happened?

most likely the BF talked to the GF and then things where "discussed" between them.

i mean, this is going to cause problems in the house with tension and all...that or we just ignore it untill it goes away, but that only works if your like 10....

You'd better make it up to him and apoligize, because you are screwed.

Say you are sorry that you made such a big deal, tell him it took you by complete surprise and you had a gut reaction because you were really jonesing for that party, then tell him in the future to just tell you earlier. Then take him out drinking ON YOU to make it up to him. Otherwise, you are totally screwed. There is nothing worse than living with a disgruntled roommate.

get walked on much? wtf should he be kissing the bfs ass, when it was the bf/gf who completely neglected to be good roommates and let the rest of the house know? any tension was created by the couple being inconsiderate, and then expecting the rest of the house to revolve around them and mommy.

any "good" mother wouldve said, no problem ill stay at a hotel, and been done with it. just like any good roommates wouldve let the rest of the house know, and cleared it with them beforehand, that the mom was coming in the first place. instead, the couple creates a bunch of drama, and the mom acts like a kid. my mother wouldnt have even been offended by my asking that.

i say kick them out, or find another place to live. then mom can come stay whenever she wants to. hell, she can live with them and play mommy.

 

[Jzero]

Originally posted by: BigJ

Originally posted by: knyghtbyte
the b/f is in the wrong here for not letting the housemates know, the g/f is in the wrong for not checking the b/f had told everyone else in the house.....the mum is ALSO in the wrong, because if she has to mollycoddle her daughter enough to pay rent and stay in a shared house when she visits then she should have checked with the daughter that the other occupants were aware of her impending visit......

the party should not be cancelled, the mum should spend the night in a hotel, lets face it, if she can afford to pay her daughters rent im betting she aint hard up...its one night, whats the big deal?

i didnt read more than the first page or two, but im guessing the b/f decided to tell it stupidly on the phone on purpose to create this situation out of annoyance at having to deal with it when he should have dealt with it before, in other words he screwed up and didnt want to admit to his g/f he screwed up......however now he has screwed up even more.....

lastly, parents in no way have the right to stay in a shared house just because they pay the rent for one of the occupants....if they paid the entire rent that might be different, but usually from a legal standpoint when leasing individual rooms, the listed tenant is allowed to stay, NOT the person the payment is coming from, and for anyone else to stay, technically even if just for a night, the landlord should be asked if he/she agrees it to be ok. Obviously in the real world this doesnt usually matter, unless an accident happens and lawyers are involved, then it would matter

ok, back to work, i've avoided answering a phone call for long enuff now..heh

Thank God someone finally got it right. But you lose two points for fvcking up the emoticon.

Loss of points is balanced out by excellent use of the word "mollycoddle."
I'm so glad I never had to deal with roommates after my freshman year in college.

 

[rh71]

I don't see a problem with a parent staying at a shared house. Paying a few hundred dollars to stay in a hotel when there's living space technically available is what's wrong. But of course in this case there was something else planned for that space... I agree that there is not just one person who's in the wrong here. In this case, I'd say whoever planned something for that space first, they get it. I typically would say to respect the parent and let them stay but an entire party is not easy to move. Sucks for the girl and her mom, but she should've said something a while back.

 

[OutHouse]

much confusion

roommate has a girlfriend, girlfriend does not live in the house so she is coming for a visit and bringing mom. big party girlfriend and mom were asked to stay in hotel. gf and mom get pissed and cancel trip.

now why does mom pay gf rent when gf doesnt live in the house?

 

[Cheetara]

Originally posted by: iamwiz82

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
You're an ass. You give more importance to some bullsh|t party over a visit from a roommate's parents?

The parent did the right thing IMO.

That's just disgraceful, asking a friend's parents to stay at a hotel.

Edit: Grammar

It's tacky for a parent to want to stay at a house shared not only with her child but also other people.

booyah. i agree.

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: Citrix
much confusion

roommate has a girlfriend, girlfriend does not live in the house so she is coming for a visit and bringing mom. big party girlfriend and mom were asked to stay in hotel. gf and mom get pissed and cancel trip.

now why does mom pay gf rent when gf doesnt live in the house?

i think the gf lives there, just stayed with the mom for the summer during break.

 

[Hammer]

Originally posted by: Cheetara

Originally posted by: iamwiz82

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
You're an ass. You give more importance to some bullsh|t party over a visit from a roommate's parents?

The parent did the right thing IMO.

That's just disgraceful, asking a friend's parents to stay at a hotel.

Edit: Grammar

It's tacky for a parent to want to stay at a house shared not only with her child but also other people.

booyah. i agree.

i agree 100%. if she can pay for rent, she can pay for 1 night of hotel.

 

[rh71]

Originally posted by: Hammer

Originally posted by: Cheetara

Originally posted by: iamwiz82

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
You're an ass. You give more importance to some bullsh|t party over a visit from a roommate's parents?

The parent did the right thing IMO.

That's just disgraceful, asking a friend's parents to stay at a hotel.

Edit: Grammar

It's tacky for a parent to want to stay at a house shared not only with her child but also other people.

booyah. i agree.

i agree 100%. if she can pay for rent, she can pay for 1 night of hotel.

so are you guys saying it's ok for her to stay there when there's no party the other nights ? Or not ok to stay there at all because it's "tacky" in the first place ? Confused because she'd be paying for more than 1 hotel night with that thinking.

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: BigJ

Originally posted by: knyghtbyte
the b/f is in the wrong here for not letting the housemates know, the g/f is in the wrong for not checking the b/f had told everyone else in the house.....the mum is ALSO in the wrong, because if she has to mollycoddle her daughter enough to pay rent and stay in a shared house when she visits then she should have checked with the daughter that the other occupants were aware of her impending visit......

the party should not be cancelled, the mum should spend the night in a hotel, lets face it, if she can afford to pay her daughters rent im betting she aint hard up...its one night, whats the big deal?

i didnt read more than the first page or two, but im guessing the b/f decided to tell it stupidly on the phone on purpose to create this situation out of annoyance at having to deal with it when he should have dealt with it before, in other words he screwed up and didnt want to admit to his g/f he screwed up......however now he has screwed up even more.....

lastly, parents in no way have the right to stay in a shared house just because they pay the rent for one of the occupants....if they paid the entire rent that might be different, but usually from a legal standpoint when leasing individual rooms, the listed tenant is allowed to stay, NOT the person the payment is coming from, and for anyone else to stay, technically even if just for a night, the landlord should be asked if he/she agrees it to be ok. Obviously in the real world this doesnt usually matter, unless an accident happens and lawyers are involved, then it would matter

ok, back to work, i've avoided answering a phone call for long enuff now..heh

Thank God someone finally got it right. But you lose two points for fvcking up the emoticon.

[/THREAD]

anandtech finds you innocent on all charges. you are not an a$$ roomate.

 

[Cheetara]

Originally posted by: daveymark
everyone mentioned in the OP is uncuth. Time to get some class, trash.

shutup.