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JulesMaximus

JulesMaximus

No Lifer
Jul 3, 2003
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Originally posted by: archcommus
Man, I'm such an ass, you're right! Because no one EVER overreacts in the heat of the moment! I bet everyone on these boards but ME would've kept their cool and said to her "Hey, hey, it's okay, I'm the driver here, it's no problem that you weren't paying attention and didn't tell me ahead of time even though I asked you to be alert."

Bottom line: I should've kept going but didn't. Luckily it was okay. I yelled because I was mad and frustrated. I felt bad and apologized but then got mad all over again because she wouldn't realize the severity of the situation, and wouldn't acknowledge the fact that she made a mistake, as well. Later, though, after calming down, I apologized again and so did she for not being more careful with her directions. Simple and good, no bad drivers and no lasting fight.
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Well, we've had the chance to reflect on your poor decision making. What did you expect? :D

Getting mad and frustrated is normal. Yelling at her and blaming her for your poor decision making was not the best way to deal with it. Why the hell are you talking to us about this anyway? Talk to her for christ sake. She's the one who matters. :roll:
 
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Bryophyte

Lifer
Apr 25, 2001
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Lesson learned: don't post about being a dick to your girlfriend on ATOT and expect any sympathy. ;) hehehe
 
BrokenVisage

BrokenVisage

Lifer
Jan 29, 2005
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14
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Make-up sex and a donkey punch for good measure, tell her from pleasure will come sudden pain if she fvcks up again!!
 
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aidanjm

Lifer
Aug 9, 2004
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Originally posted by: archcommus
So we're coming home from the mall and the road is blocked off and all the traffic is being redirected...into shopping plazas, effectively providing no way home. I'm thinking great, wtf are we gonna do now. So my girlfriend says she knows the back roads way from the mall. I ask her repeatedly if she is absolutely sure she knows the way, and she assures me she is. So, we drive back up the hill to the mall, and get on one of the back roads. I keep telling her to make sure she knows exactly where she's going and to not tell me any turns too late. Well, we're going and she suddenly says "Wait, wait, you have to turn here," and then immediately after "No, this isn't it," so I continue to accelerate, but we still haven't passed the road yet, and then again she says "No, this is it, hurry turn this is the only road that takes us there!" very frantically. So at the last second I spin the wheel and turn into the road at the same second a guy is coming down the road towards the intersection. We came so friggin close to hitting him and I fishtailed a bit on the gravel while braking to make the turn. Then I flipped out on her for being unsure after I told her so many times to make sure you know it and to make sure you don't tell me turns too late. She of course cried.

Should I reconcile the situation or hold my ground?
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you both need to question wtf you were doing putting your lives in danger to shave a few minutes off your travel time. WTF were you THINKING? You are both equally to blame for your unbelievably stoopid behavior.
 
Papagayo

Papagayo

Platinum Member
Jul 28, 2003
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24
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Originally posted by: archcommus
I apologized for getting mad, she apologized for not keeping her directions more straight. All is done and good.

Oh, and for those of you saying that I was speeding, road raging, etc., where the fvck is that coming from? The speed limit was like 35 and I wasn't even going that fast because it was raining. That doesn't change the fact that I had to brake hard and turn the wheel hard to make the turn, I don't have to be speeding for that to happen.

And yes, the best thing to do would've been to keep driving. I admit that openly. I ended up turning because, like I said before, I knew that was the last opportunity to turn for awhile, and it's just hard to have a split millisecond to make that decision when someone's yelling in your face to turn, so I ended up turning.
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You did the right thing..
No need to hold grudges with someone so close..
Communication is the best thing.
 
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Tom

Lifer
Oct 9, 1999
13,293
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you imply it's her fault you almost had an accident.

Which means you are a horrible driver.
 
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archcommus

Diamond Member
Sep 14, 2003
8,115
0
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Wow, surprised this isn't dead yet.

It's very annoying when people read the OP and then go to the end and post whatever they feel like, without reading anything else. If you did, you'd know that 1) I already apologized and it's been over since yesterday, and 2) I didn't blame her for making me almost hit that guy, I blamed her for not keeping things straight when she said she could and yelling a direction at me at the last second.
 
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Accipiter22

Banned
Feb 11, 2005
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2
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Originally posted by: archcommus
Wow, surprised this isn't dead yet.

It's very annoying when people read the OP and then go to the end and post whatever they feel like, without reading anything else. If you did, you'd know that 1) I already apologized and it's been over since yesterday, and 2) I didn't blame her for making me almost hit that guy, I blamed her for not keeping things straight when she said she could and yelling a direction at me at the last second.
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so you didin't murder her?
 
moshquerade

moshquerade

No Lifer
Nov 1, 2001
61,504
12
56
Originally posted by: archcommus
So we're coming home from the mall and the road is blocked off and all the traffic is being redirected...into shopping plazas, effectively providing no way home. I'm thinking great, wtf are we gonna do now. So my girlfriend says she knows the back roads way from the mall. I ask her repeatedly if she is absolutely sure she knows the way, and she assures me she is. So, we drive back up the hill to the mall, and get on one of the back roads. I keep telling her to make sure she knows exactly where she's going and to not tell me any turns too late. Well, we're going and she suddenly says "Wait, wait, you have to turn here," and then immediately after "No, this isn't it," so I continue to accelerate, but we still haven't passed the road yet, and then again she says "No, this is it, hurry turn this is the only road that takes us there!" very frantically. So at the last second I spin the wheel and turn into the road at the same second a guy is coming down the road towards the intersection. We came so friggin close to hitting him and I fishtailed a bit on the gravel while braking to make the turn. Then I flipped out on her for being unsure after I told her so many times to make sure you know it and to make sure you don't tell me turns too late. She of course cried.

Should I reconcile the situation or hold my ground?
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you're a mean bf. she tried to help. so she wasn't perfect. you didn't cut her any slack.

you made her cry. you are a bad man.
 
rh71

rh71

No Lifer
Aug 28, 2001
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1,049
126
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
forever everyone suggesting that the OP "bitchslap" his woman, they are either joking or have never been in a relationship.

I've learned these things the hard way, you just cannot argue or get mad at your girlfriend. You yell at them too much and you come off as verbally abusive, you try to tell them anything and they say your trying to act high and mighty. There's just no angle you can play that will work. You just have to find other ways to vent your rage.

Take it from me, I just lost my gf because I was constantly criticizing her. Ask yourself this, is arguing really worth losing your gf over? Look at the big picture, pick your battles, you'll come out ok man. Oh, and ALWAYS APOLOGIZE, no matter what.
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any update on your [ex]gf's progress with her cancer ?
 
Red Dawn

Red Dawn

Elite Member
Jun 4, 2001
57,529
3
0
LOL, if he thinks she was bad just wait until he starts dealing with BB customers.
 
Nitemare

Nitemare

Lifer
Feb 8, 2001
35,461
4
81
Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Originally posted by: archcommus
I already have plenty of experience working with ridiculous customers.
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That'll come in handy at BB!
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Remember the customer is always wrong and your manager is always right and you will go far in BB
 
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BHeemsoth

Platinum Member
Jul 30, 2002
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0
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You were obviously going to fast for conditions if you almost hit the other car. You should have kept going and turned around down the road instead of acting negligent like that.
 
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archcommus

Diamond Member
Sep 14, 2003
8,115
0
76
Originally posted by: rpbri2886
You were obviously going to fast for conditions if you almost hit the other car. You should have kept going and turned around down the road instead of acting negligent like that.
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Wow what a breath of fresh air you brought into this thread!

If you're too damn lazy to read it all, don't bother posting.

 
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