manlymatt83
Lifer
OK, you should all remember the girl I started hooking up with (almost didn't make a move on but finally made the move on?) while I was getting over my ex. Surely everyone here remembers that, I'm known in AT-Wiki for it.
Anyway, she's been my 'buddy' (you all know what I mean by that) for about 3 months now. Its great. She's great. Life is good.
Problem is: we're so different. We sometimes question why we're friends when "I get along with all my friends except her" and "she gets along with all of her friends except me". Problem is, I know most of her friends, and they are in a "stay away" stance right now because they don't see her going anywhere.
Me:
Just graduated college, getting over a really long term ex, moved back to my home town where she still lives from high school, have a new job which pays about 2 times more than my previous job, working out, losing weight, health problems getting better.
Her:
Lived on her own since high school, no college, wants to go and even though I offer to help she seems more interested in buying the car she can't afford. Increasingly turning into a smoker (turned from one a day to a pack a day over the past few weeks). Comfortable at her current job as a front desk clerk at a hotel, excited at the opportunity to "move up" within the company. Says her job is more stressful that mine because she has to deal with the customers all day while I work in server rooms and behind a desk (she doesn't understand the meaning of "on call" rotation but ok... (I'm not saying she doesn't work hard, she does)). Doesn't understand why I carry a black berry and cell phone around and why I am always answering them, her work "ends when she leaves", why can't mine (although she's recently beginning to understand this). She always wants to drink. Every night. We stop at a bar for her to get her fix.
Anyway, I really like her. She makes me smile, she's hot, and deep down a nice girl. Sure we argue over stupid things, but she makes me go bonkers heart pounding wise, and always has. I also see her with a bright future if she just gets her act together, and I've told her mult. times I'd be willing to help.
Last night on our way home from an awesome night (bowling, movie, lobster dinner (which she paid for actually)) she tells me "You know Matt, you'd have a chance with me (as a girlfriend) if you were more on time and weren't always focusing on technology on your waist". Part of me sees this as fallacies: I have never been on time and I'm always into the blackberry, mostly for work though. This is why I like her though. She's the only friend I have who points out fallacies of mine. At first i thought it was awesome: this girl is honest and makes me realize my weaknesses. But then I realized she's the only one who says I HAVE any weaknesses. Everyone else is like "You work full time and are on call, I understand." or "you had to stay late at the office so you're late for dinner, its cool". Not her though, she gets mad.
So I haven't quite yet decided if this is a good thing. Should I continue to hang out with her, enjoy the best friend and "hot college hookup" I never had when I was in College? Or should I take my friend's advice that she is dragging me down and keeping me from moving forward (in that I can find someone as "hot" as her but more what I want emotionally and attitude wise) and ditch the whole thing?
I'm torn. I do love her though.
Anyway, she's been my 'buddy' (you all know what I mean by that) for about 3 months now. Its great. She's great. Life is good.
Problem is: we're so different. We sometimes question why we're friends when "I get along with all my friends except her" and "she gets along with all of her friends except me". Problem is, I know most of her friends, and they are in a "stay away" stance right now because they don't see her going anywhere.
Me:
Just graduated college, getting over a really long term ex, moved back to my home town where she still lives from high school, have a new job which pays about 2 times more than my previous job, working out, losing weight, health problems getting better.
Her:
Lived on her own since high school, no college, wants to go and even though I offer to help she seems more interested in buying the car she can't afford. Increasingly turning into a smoker (turned from one a day to a pack a day over the past few weeks). Comfortable at her current job as a front desk clerk at a hotel, excited at the opportunity to "move up" within the company. Says her job is more stressful that mine because she has to deal with the customers all day while I work in server rooms and behind a desk (she doesn't understand the meaning of "on call" rotation but ok... (I'm not saying she doesn't work hard, she does)). Doesn't understand why I carry a black berry and cell phone around and why I am always answering them, her work "ends when she leaves", why can't mine (although she's recently beginning to understand this). She always wants to drink. Every night. We stop at a bar for her to get her fix.
Anyway, I really like her. She makes me smile, she's hot, and deep down a nice girl. Sure we argue over stupid things, but she makes me go bonkers heart pounding wise, and always has. I also see her with a bright future if she just gets her act together, and I've told her mult. times I'd be willing to help.
Last night on our way home from an awesome night (bowling, movie, lobster dinner (which she paid for actually)) she tells me "You know Matt, you'd have a chance with me (as a girlfriend) if you were more on time and weren't always focusing on technology on your waist". Part of me sees this as fallacies: I have never been on time and I'm always into the blackberry, mostly for work though. This is why I like her though. She's the only friend I have who points out fallacies of mine. At first i thought it was awesome: this girl is honest and makes me realize my weaknesses. But then I realized she's the only one who says I HAVE any weaknesses. Everyone else is like "You work full time and are on call, I understand." or "you had to stay late at the office so you're late for dinner, its cool". Not her though, she gets mad.
So I haven't quite yet decided if this is a good thing. Should I continue to hang out with her, enjoy the best friend and "hot college hookup" I never had when I was in College? Or should I take my friend's advice that she is dragging me down and keeping me from moving forward (in that I can find someone as "hot" as her but more what I want emotionally and attitude wise) and ditch the whole thing?
I'm torn. I do love her though.
