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[Alex]

Originally posted by: OOBradm

Originally posted by: theprodigalrebel

Originally posted by: Iron Addict
You free now brother. B!tches they come they go.

She still hasn't returned/called, has she?

Well, the phone conversation i had in question lasted almost 3 hours. Turns out she was full of more lies than OJ Simpson. I was heartbroken, and I was doing everything in my power during the call to try to get her back. After i hung up, slept, and thought about it, I realized that Its not even worth salvaging. Shes a fvcking b1tch for doing what she did and me clinging to her will only make her happy because then she has Chris and me too. Fvck that.

But yeah, during the conversation we said we'd call each other often and keep in touch. The next day i decided she could go Fvck herself, but i havent told her. Im just gonna not answer her phone calls and let her figure it out.

that's a good way to go about it!

if you just straight up tell her then she'll get mad and it won't hurt as much but if you ignore her for a while and then maybe one day pick up the phone and be like "what??? can't you take a hint??? fsck off!!!" that'll be a nice way to sink that dagger in!

 

[OOBradm]

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[RallyMaster]

Originally posted by: OOBradm
She worked with this guy over the summer, they went out after work a few times with their work crew. I never thought anything of it. My first instinct after i heard all of this was to try to work things out. I seriously love the girl. But, it's not worth it and im just going to end up hurting myself more than i am right now. So, time to forget and move on. She said she still Wants to talk and stay close because she sees things for us in the future, but not now. but honestly, after all of this behind my back, I don't think i could ever trust her enough to date her again.

yeah, that's the good way to take it. move on and get a new one. plenty o' fish in the sea as they always say...

 

[postmortemIA]

Originally posted by: OOBradm

Originally posted by: loic2003
What do you mean *almost* funny? Clearly it *IS* funny, and I'm sure you'll laugh about it soon enough just as we're all laughing now.

It's really old news that long distance relationships don't work, and you're living proof of this. I was in a relationship when I went to uni, and it only lasted maybe 4 months of me being at uni. Never mind... sh!t happens and we all move on. It's not like shari/whatever was the love of your life. I guess this is one of your first lessons at your new college there.

In essence, yeah it sucks, especially being sh!t-canned the way you were, but you'll be fine soon enough and will be out humping women like there's no tomorrow.


Oh.... and pics of shari?

facebook main pic

Here she is! now it tells more of a person
http://img209.imageshack.us/img209/6462/moddgs4.jpg

 

[IceBergSLiM]

Originally posted by: OOBradm

Originally posted by: loic2003
What do you mean *almost* funny? Clearly it *IS* funny, and I'm sure you'll laugh about it soon enough just as we're all laughing now.

It's really old news that long distance relationships don't work, and you're living proof of this. I was in a relationship when I went to uni, and it only lasted maybe 4 months of me being at uni. Never mind... sh!t happens and we all move on. It's not like shari/whatever was the love of your life. I guess this is one of your first lessons at your new college there.

In essence, yeah it sucks, especially being sh!t-canned the way you were, but you'll be fine soon enough and will be out humping women like there's no tomorrow.


Oh.... and pics of shari?

facebook main pic

cute but nothing to dwell on.

 

[SpanishFry]

she said she "loves" him? What a bitch. It's one thing to cheat, but to sit there and form this serious relationship is low.

 

[sao123]

Originally posted by: OOBradm
I had been dating this girl, whom i will call Shari, for three years now. Were Juniors in college now, she goes to Boston U, I go to Penn State Main. Weve done the long distance thing two years now, and I was comfortable with it and life was pretty good.

Now, im talking to her on AIM this past saturday, just bullsh!tting with her, and we get on the subject of drinking.

She says: "I actually stopped drinking until thanksgiving break at least."
I reply: "Oh, why is that?"
She responds "Well, remember Chris from work? he has a bad alcohol problem and I told him if he stops drinking then i would too"
"Well thats nice of you" I said.

Now, at this point in time, soemthing rubbed me wrong. we kept talking for abuot 5 minutes, when i just randomly blurted out "Is Chris going to be a problem between us when we go back home for break?"

She doesnt say anything for 3 minutes, then says "maybe."
I respond with a "WTF?"
she responds with "Im going to be honest - im going to visit him on the 6th of October"
And the conversation ends on that note.

Now, its about 12:30 in the morning, and im lying down trying to sleep, but i can't because my mind is racing. At about 3 AM, after tossing and turning and letting my mind wander places I was scared of it going, I decided i needed to call her.
So i call her, and at this point in time i was pretty upset so my voice sounded very shaky and sad
she answers "hi"
I say "Hi, shari..... *slight sob*"
she says back "Babe, whats wrong? I love you, Chris. Are you ok?"



Three years of my life gone in one sentence.
I'm never talking to her again.

Im curious what if anyhting was said after the bolded part... either an argument ensued, or the OP just hung up... something is missing though...

 

[OOBradm]

Originally posted by: sao123

Originally posted by: OOBradm
I had been dating this girl, whom i will call Shari, for three years now. Were Juniors in college now, she goes to Boston U, I go to Penn State Main. Weve done the long distance thing two years now, and I was comfortable with it and life was pretty good.

Now, im talking to her on AIM this past saturday, just bullsh!tting with her, and we get on the subject of drinking.

She says: "I actually stopped drinking until thanksgiving break at least."
I reply: "Oh, why is that?"
She responds "Well, remember Chris from work? he has a bad alcohol problem and I told him if he stops drinking then i would too"
"Well thats nice of you" I said.

Now, at this point in time, soemthing rubbed me wrong. we kept talking for abuot 5 minutes, when i just randomly blurted out "Is Chris going to be a problem between us when we go back home for break?"

She doesnt say anything for 3 minutes, then says "maybe."
I respond with a "WTF?"
she responds with "Im going to be honest - im going to visit him on the 6th of October"
And the conversation ends on that note.

Now, its about 12:30 in the morning, and im lying down trying to sleep, but i can't because my mind is racing. At about 3 AM, after tossing and turning and letting my mind wander places I was scared of it going, I decided i needed to call her.
So i call her, and at this point in time i was pretty upset so my voice sounded very shaky and sad
she answers "hi"
I say "Hi, shari..... *slight sob*"
she says back "Babe, whats wrong? I love you, Chris. Are you ok?"



Three years of my life gone in one sentence.
I'm never talking to her again.

Im curious what if anyhting was said after the bolded part... either an argument ensued, or the OP just hung up... something is missing though...

It turned into a 3 hour long conversation.
First it was me yelling profanities at the top of my lungs.
Then it turned into me asking for an explanation of everything
Then, she started crying and saying she was confused but she still loved me and didnt want to hurt me
Then, I felt bad for her, so we both were trying to figure out how we could make things work.
We actually ended up joking around a bit.
then the phone was hung up.

I slept, woke up, and realized I was just holding on to a dream.

 

[sao123]

Originally posted by: OOBradm

Originally posted by: sao123

Originally posted by: OOBradm
I had been dating this girl, whom i will call Shari, for three years now. Were Juniors in college now, she goes to Boston U, I go to Penn State Main. Weve done the long distance thing two years now, and I was comfortable with it and life was pretty good.

Now, im talking to her on AIM this past saturday, just bullsh!tting with her, and we get on the subject of drinking.

She says: "I actually stopped drinking until thanksgiving break at least."
I reply: "Oh, why is that?"
She responds "Well, remember Chris from work? he has a bad alcohol problem and I told him if he stops drinking then i would too"
"Well thats nice of you" I said.

Now, at this point in time, soemthing rubbed me wrong. we kept talking for abuot 5 minutes, when i just randomly blurted out "Is Chris going to be a problem between us when we go back home for break?"

She doesnt say anything for 3 minutes, then says "maybe."
I respond with a "WTF?"
she responds with "Im going to be honest - im going to visit him on the 6th of October"
And the conversation ends on that note.

Now, its about 12:30 in the morning, and im lying down trying to sleep, but i can't because my mind is racing. At about 3 AM, after tossing and turning and letting my mind wander places I was scared of it going, I decided i needed to call her.
So i call her, and at this point in time i was pretty upset so my voice sounded very shaky and sad
she answers "hi"
I say "Hi, shari..... *slight sob*"
she says back "Babe, whats wrong? I love you, Chris. Are you ok?"



Three years of my life gone in one sentence.
I'm never talking to her again.

Im curious what if anyhting was said after the bolded part... either an argument ensued, or the OP just hung up... something is missing though...

It turned into a 3 hour long conversation.
First it was me yelling profanities at the top of my lungs.
Then it turned into me asking for an explanation of everything
Then, she started crying and saying she was confused but she still loved me and didnt want to hurt me
Then, I felt bad for her, so we both were trying to figure out how we could make things work.
We actually ended up joking around a bit.
then the phone was hung up.

I slept, woke up, and realized I was just holding on to a dream.

So she admitted to having mulitple simultaneous relations...

being lonely and doing exactly this are the reason why 99% of LD relationships fail. You always fall in love with someone you see every day, despite holding on to the one you love from far away.

 

[sswingle]

Caller ID FTW! Sure helps avoid situations like that.

 

[nsx98]

why do girls like losers? i think they like to feel needed or something. if she's being with a loser over you, it's her loss man. good to see you're taking it in stride.

 

[yowolabi]

Originally posted by: OOBradm
Well, the phone conversation i had in question lasted almost 3 hours. Turns out she was full of more lies than OJ Simpson. I was heartbroken, and I was doing everything in my power during the call to try to get her back. After i hung up, slept, and thought about it, I realized that Its not even worth salvaging. Shes a fvcking b1tch for doing what she did and me clinging to her will only make her happy because then she has Chris and me too. Fvck that.

But yeah, during the conversation we said we'd call each other often and keep in touch. The next day i decided she could go Fvck herself, but i havent told her. Im just gonna not answer her phone calls and let her figure it out.

You're a smarter man than most. She was already telling Chris she loved him? Even if/when they break up, she's not coming back to you.

It's over, there's nothing that can be salvaged from the relationship, and any more time you spend on her is wasted... except this time it would be entirely your fault because you know the situation. Luckily you're still in college and are able to get back on the market quickly.

 

[Steve]

Props to you for being strong.

 

[zebano]

Originally posted by: MX2times
Al least she was honest with you when you confronted her with it. Could've been drawn out a lot longer and become a lot worse. Count your blessings.

Honest? After she f-ed up and called him Chris. Honesty would have been telling him half a year (or whenever) ago that she met this Chris dude and was falling for him.

Good call OP. Have a couple of beers, time heals all wounds.

 

[iamme]

:beer:

 

[ngvepforever2]

At least she found someone else who has a voice similar to yours :laugh:. j/k, you'll be fine man... it's all about letting go and moving on...and drinking lots of :beer:

Good luck

ng

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: OOBradm
I had been dating this girl, whom i will call Shari, for three years now. Were Juniors in college now, she goes to Boston U, I go to Penn State Main. Weve done the long distance thing two years now, and I was comfortable with it and life was pretty good.

Now, im talking to her on AIM this past saturday, just bullsh!tting with her, and we get on the subject of drinking.

She says: "I actually stopped drinking until thanksgiving break at least."
I reply: "Oh, why is that?"
She responds "Well, remember Chris from work? he has a bad alcohol problem and I told him if he stops drinking then i would too"
"Well thats nice of you" I said.

Now, at this point in time, soemthing rubbed me wrong. we kept talking for abuot 5 minutes, when i just randomly blurted out "Is Chris going to be a problem between us when we go back home for break?"

She doesnt say anything for 3 minutes, then says "maybe."
I respond with a "WTF?"
she responds with "Im going to be honest - im going to visit him on the 6th of October"
And the conversation ends on that note.

Now, its about 12:30 in the morning, and im lying down trying to sleep, but i can't because my mind is racing. At about 3 AM, after tossing and turning and letting my mind wander places I was scared of it going, I decided i needed to call her.
So i call her, and at this point in time i was pretty upset so my voice sounded very shaky and sad
she answers "hi"
I say "Hi, shari..... *slight sob*"
she says back "Babe, whats wrong? I love you, Chris. Are you ok?"



Three years of my life gone in one sentence.
I'm never talking to her again.

Damn, thats rough.

 

[SophalotJack]

Originally posted by: dabuddha

Originally posted by: SophalotJack

Originally posted by: OOBradm

Originally posted by: SophalotJack
has the OP handed in his man card yet?

cuz it is pathetic to not see what's coming....lol.

First of all that night was the first time i had heard his name in a month. Secondly, that entire story took place within a period of a few hours. I dont think it was "pathetic" of me to not see what was coming. I considered myself a trusting boyfriend who didnt fret if she hung out with some of her dude friends. I think its pathetic of you to come here and hit me while im down. have some respect, man.

EDIT: and to everyone else, thanks for all the encouraging words. It's time for me to sleep. 'night ATOT.

Respect? You want respect?

Start by respecting your-fricken-self and see what's coming to you if you don't take action.
:roll:
You are in a LD relationship with an apparent hoe that likes to spend her free time with the same dudes day in and day out... regardless of how YOU feel.

It's not going to end well for this relationship. If you even want to call it that.

Apparently you have a reading comprehension problem

The only way I can explain my point of view is based on what I read BEFORE the OP kept updating / changing his fricken OP.

The version I read was that he was thinkg about talking to her soon in his subtitle.

Of course I am an idiot for commenting on what I read at the time.

 

[Sqube]

The OP changed his OP once. One minute after he posted it. That's what the edited date and time indicates.

You answered two hours after the OP created the thread, which is why I think a lot of people have issue with what you're saying. Maybe you just had the page open for a really long time before replying and didn't bother to refresh, I don't know. I'm just trying to help you understand why people are taking issue with your statements.

And after looking at all of his posts, I really don't see what you saw at any point before your post that would indicate that he was trying to make it work. He said he thought about trying to work it out, and then woke up the next day and realized that was madness.

I think we all understand where everyone's coming from, so let's just leave it alone and get back to discussing the OP.

 

[acole1]

Man, I feel your pain. Even reading about it gave me that sick feeling. :brokenheart:

But things are sure to get better now! :beer:

 

[Dacalo]

What a hoe. That's total BS when she is saying she loves you but didn't want to hurt you. Uh, hurt you? Of course not, not when she loves another guy named Chris! :roll:

I bet you if it was the other way around, she would be trying to demonize you, and how you "used" her and such. What a whore.

 

[crt1530]

So what have we learned?

 

[apac]

Originally posted by: crt1530
So what have we learned?

ROFL!

 

[T9D]

Stupid whores. Makes me want to punch her

 

[Darthvoy]

Originally posted by: crt1530
So what have we learned?

wow dude...you have been so fvcking naive. What a fvcking bitch. Just move and never talk to her again. Ever.