Hotchic,
Thanks for your input, I appreciate it. And i know exactly what you're getting at, and I understand why you'd get that impression. I didn't mean to sound that way, however. I don't mean she is "supposed" to do any certain physical acts by any certain point, I don't even think about marriage, that's not a focus to me right now really, nor to her. Obviously (thank god). I think its clear enough that I didn't pressure her, but I didn't mean that she's "supposed" to kiss or do whatever before marriage or any time. We did kiss (her first), and it was everything I imagined (it wasn't my first kiss, but it was way better than with anyone I'd been with before).
I don't think it's only the physical aspect that needs to progress but like it or not, physical IS one aspect of a relationship, and ALL aspects need to progress, grow, mature, whatever. She had told me she loved me way before we even kissed, and that meant a lot to me coming from her. In my view that was a milestone, we had made progress in my opinion. So I hope that answers some of your questions