dude get on that...don't let it go....be proactive...as much as the emotional stuff may get in the way, you now have much more serious things to worry about...and in the end, you need to watch out for yourself...granted you guys have become really close in such a short amount of time, but that still doesn't mean you can 100% trust her....don't get mad at me for saying that, but i'm just saying it from a friend to another friend....
Originally posted by: yayo
I don't think anyone here really knows how to read.
Personally I've been though what you are going through. So I know how you are feeling and how she feels, most likely.
The worst thing you could do is "get out of the relationship" so don't listen to these idiots that have never even seen a vagina.
I'm pro choice so I can't give you advice on what to do as to the pregnancy, all I can tell you is regardless of how you feel and what you'd prefer to do about it. Ultimately it is her decision and you will have to live with it. My point being you may have as on or daughter in 9 months.
I wouldn't try to intervene between her and Mike. Be adult about it. Give her, her space. If she is pregnant she's probably not thinking straight anyhow. Just be supportive. The more supportive you are the more attracted she will to that seeing as how she will need a responsible man in her life, not someone who will treat her wrongly. And also, try not to bring up the fact that this guy has treated her badly that may just push her further away from yourself and closer to him.
21 and 18 is nothing try being 14....
You know you wont be the only person on earth that has had a baby at a young age and still manage to finish his education, get a good job and provide for his family. There are determined people who do this every day. How much determination do you have? People will try to knock you down... It's not impossible though.
Seriosuly and I cannot stress this enough, DO NOT take the majority (not all) of the stupidass replies in this thread into consideration. I've never heard stupider things in my life.
Pregnate or not, this girl isn't sure if she wants him in her life. If she isn't pregnate, my advice is to walk away. I've been hurt in the past by a girl who was consistently unsure of what she wanted. I played into the situation and it wasn't good for either of us. I should have walked way back when it all first started.
If she is pregnate and the baby is yours, then step up and do the right thing. Be a father, or help her out with what ever choice she makes. Only do this if she wants you to, and only in the capacity that she wants. It is your responsibility to help take care of the situation.
If she isn't pregnate, when she talks to you next week there are only two answers to the question "Do you want to be with me?" Either yes, or anything else. Anything else and you walk.
That is my advice. Take it for what it is worth.
Ryan
msi1337
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my position is like many of the others... if you weren't ready for the responsibility of intercourse, you shouldn't have participated. One question I would also pose is that with the world the way it is today, you had been dating this girl for less than 2 months and you felt it was appropriate to have unprotected intercourse?
that just seems very risky. Whether you had known the girl for a while or not, you do not know everything about their past.
Take pride in yourself and start practicing safer sex.
As far as the situation with the girl, the main issue is that she is younger than you, which means while woman mature faster than men do, she is still in the stage where she wants to feel free and "experience" life (so to speak). You seem like a genuine person, but maybe a little too committed to her at this point. If you are making her feel like she is being suffocated in the relationship, she may want to escape that feeling. The girl in this situation doesn't seem to know what she wants at this point. That can lead to a lot of heartache for you if she decides to go with the other guy.
If it were me, I would give her time to clear her head. Within a couple weeks she should have time to sort out what she wants right now. If she is indeed pregnant that would change the situation a bit, and if she does get an abortion the chances of your relationship lasting are a lot slimmer. When a woman aborts her baby most hold a lot of feelings inside like resentment, denial, and the overall sense of loss.
anyways, best of luck in everything, I pray that it will work out for you!
that just seems very risky. Whether you had known the girl for a while or not, you do not know everything about their past.
Take pride in yourself and start practicing safer sex.
As far as the situation with the girl, the main issue is that she is younger than you, which means while woman mature faster than men do, she is still in the stage where she wants to feel free and "experience" life (so to speak). You seem like a genuine person, but maybe a little too committed to her at this point. If you are making her feel like she is being suffocated in the relationship, she may want to escape that feeling. The girl in this situation doesn't seem to know what she wants at this point. That can lead to a lot of heartache for you if she decides to go with the other guy.
If it were me, I would give her time to clear her head. Within a couple weeks she should have time to sort out what she wants right now. If she is indeed pregnant that would change the situation a bit, and if she does get an abortion the chances of your relationship lasting are a lot slimmer. When a woman aborts her baby most hold a lot of feelings inside like resentment, denial, and the overall sense of loss.
anyways, best of luck in everything, I pray that it will work out for you!
Don't try to come up with excuses... its obvious already that you know nothing and should not reproduce, just by your replies in this thread. You find pleasure in others misfortunes.
Go fvck with someone that is stupid enough to carry a conversation with you. Miserable loser.
SagaLore
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Excuses? I don't even understand what that is supposed to mean.
But yes I am swelling with incredible joy just by this misfortune, my life is complete now this person is suffering. :evil:Oh great. Everyone, let's all hold hands and rejoice now that we have another person just like us, who knocked up a girlfriend of 10 weeks. Male sluts unite! :beer:
Just because I was lucky enough to avoid a situation like this, does not make me any less sensitive to the subject. I don't have to relate by experience to evaluate by wisdom.
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