That was also something in the back of my mind if we had taken another test next week and it infact comes up that she's preg...
Where do you go about getting those anyways?
My post is for the kid's sake.
If she goes back with the ex, then just let it be and leave them. If she goes back to you and you guys really can't afford having a kid, I would definitely suggest giving it up for adoption (or take the pill)
You two have only been together for 10 weeks, I don't think it's really time to make such a big commitment of having a kid together.
But whatever it is, I hope you two clear things up by next week.
If she goes back with the ex, then just let it be and leave them. If she goes back to you and you guys really can't afford having a kid, I would definitely suggest giving it up for adoption (or take the pill)
You two have only been together for 10 weeks, I don't think it's really time to make such a big commitment of having a kid together.
But whatever it is, I hope you two clear things up by next week.
I wouldn't wait a week and do a crappy drug store test, go to the doctor or planned parent hood now. This is info you need to know man. Why did you get a girl you've been going out with for such a short period of time pregnant? If you couldn't wait why didn't she get the morning after pill the next day? Damn........
You're really worried about what she's going to do about her ex and you, but you've got much larger things to be concerned with.
You're really worried about what she's going to do about her ex and you, but you've got much larger things to be concerned with.
If she is pregnant there are no plans to have the child. We already talked about that a bit on Saturday night. Neither of us are prepared to deal with a child at this time, and as much as it is our mistake, this is what we agreed on...
Edit: She tried to make it my decision, but there's no way in hell I would decide something like this on my own. I straightened that one out pretty fast, and we agreed on abortion if she is infact pregnant... *sigh*
Edit: She tried to make it my decision, but there's no way in hell I would decide something like this on my own. I straightened that one out pretty fast, and we agreed on abortion if she is infact pregnant... *sigh*
I believe that's done after the baby is born.
Look. I'm not trying to be patronising, but if you're old enough to have sex you're old enought to be a parent.
You should not be allowed to excuse yourself from this responsibility, though yes I'd rather see the child thoughtfully taken care of.
<--My wife of 5 years was 20 when we got pregnant. I was 22. I love my wife and kids, wouldn't change a thing.
Trust me, I believe it. I can only hope that either the test was wrong or that she was BS'ing me about the whole thing.
I'd just rather her not be pregnant regardless of who she chooses to be with...
Originally posted by: thawolfman
Trust me, I believe it. I can only hope that either the test was wrong or that she was BS'ing me about the whole thing.
I'd just rather her not be pregnant regardless of who she chooses to be with...
Damn.
YOU FvCKING SLEPT WITH HER!!! WHAT DID YOU THINK WAS GOING TO HAPPEN.
Don't play off like you can't handle it. Be a man and step up.
Hmm..
Well I can tell you my story. I was with a girl for a year and then she later told me about some other guy. She always told me she loved me and not him. This other guy was a family friend and he was always going to her house and she would just say she didnt like him.. but she never said anything bad about him and only positive (ex: he is a great guy, etc).
A month later she tells me she doesnt know who she wants. I stuck around for 6 months.. was hurt for these 6 months and wasted my life being sad over some chick.
What I am trying to say is leave her and never look back. She will hurt you it is a given. Trust me. It sucks and it will hurt but in a couple months you will look back and laugh at all this and you will realize she was crap.
Well I can tell you my story. I was with a girl for a year and then she later told me about some other guy. She always told me she loved me and not him. This other guy was a family friend and he was always going to her house and she would just say she didnt like him.. but she never said anything bad about him and only positive (ex: he is a great guy, etc).
A month later she tells me she doesnt know who she wants. I stuck around for 6 months.. was hurt for these 6 months and wasted my life being sad over some chick.
What I am trying to say is leave her and never look back. She will hurt you it is a given. Trust me. It sucks and it will hurt but in a couple months you will look back and laugh at all this and you will realize she was crap.
And for future refrence, they came out with these things called C-O-N-D-O-M-S. Look into it, would save you a lot of greif right now
They were used all but once...
Edit: 4th of July...we were both a liiiiiiiitle drunk, and didn't have any where we were at, so we just went for it...I pulled out though...
Originally posted by: thawolfman
They were used all but once...
Well as they say it only takes one time, and one sperm out of millions....
Condom + Birth control (if the girl can take it) = Marlin got no kids.
How old are you? I'm 22 and if I were in your position, I honestly would talk to my GF about abortion. This is what I would do if I were in your position.
Originally posted by: thawolfman
They were used all but once...
Edit: 4th of July...we were both a liiiiiiiitle drunk, and didn't have any where we were at, so we just went for it...I pulled out though...
well I guess you just learned why pulling out isnt safe.... best of luck to you
I'm 21 and she's 18.
And we've already talked a little about abortion and have decided that's pretty much what we'd be doing...
Good for you. Hope for the best:beer:Originally posted by: thawolfman
I'm 21 and she's 18.
And we've already talked a little about abortion and have decided that's pretty much what we'd be doing...
I don't think anyone here really knows how to read.
Personally I've been though what you are going through. So I know how you are feeling and how she feels, most likely.
The worst thing you could do is "get out of the relationship" so don't listen to these idiots that have never even seen a vagina.
I'm pro choice so I can't give you advice on what to do as to the pregnancy, all I can tell you is regardless of how you feel and what you'd prefer to do about it. Ultimately it is her decision and you will have to live with it. My point being you may have as on or daughter in 9 months.
I wouldn't try to intervene between her and Mike. Be adult about it. Give her, her space. If she is pregnant she's probably not thinking straight anyhow. Just be supportive. The more supportive you are the more attracted she will to that seeing as how she will need a responsible man in her life, not someone who will treat her wrongly. And also, try not to bring up the fact that this guy has treated her badly that may just push her further away from yourself and closer to him.
21 and 18 is nothing try being 14....
You know you wont be the only person on earth that has had a baby at a young age and still manage to finish his education, get a good job and provide for his family. There are determined people who do this every day. How much determination do you have? People will try to knock you down... It's not impossible though.
Seriosuly and I cannot stress this enough, DO NOT take the majority (not all) of the stupidass replies in this thread into consideration. I've never heard stupider things in my life.
Personally I've been though what you are going through. So I know how you are feeling and how she feels, most likely.
The worst thing you could do is "get out of the relationship" so don't listen to these idiots that have never even seen a vagina.
I'm pro choice so I can't give you advice on what to do as to the pregnancy, all I can tell you is regardless of how you feel and what you'd prefer to do about it. Ultimately it is her decision and you will have to live with it. My point being you may have as on or daughter in 9 months.
I wouldn't try to intervene between her and Mike. Be adult about it. Give her, her space. If she is pregnant she's probably not thinking straight anyhow. Just be supportive. The more supportive you are the more attracted she will to that seeing as how she will need a responsible man in her life, not someone who will treat her wrongly. And also, try not to bring up the fact that this guy has treated her badly that may just push her further away from yourself and closer to him.
21 and 18 is nothing try being 14....
You know you wont be the only person on earth that has had a baby at a young age and still manage to finish his education, get a good job and provide for his family. There are determined people who do this every day. How much determination do you have? People will try to knock you down... It's not impossible though.
Seriosuly and I cannot stress this enough, DO NOT take the majority (not all) of the stupidass replies in this thread into consideration. I've never heard stupider things in my life.
i feel your pain man. hate to say it but if she can even have feeligns for another guy, she's not 100% in love with you, and it's not worth keepign the relationship.. abortion sounds good.. guess it's time to move on..
People that DON'T want children always seem to get pregnant really easily, whereas my sister and her husband have been trying to conceive for months with no such luck.
Makes me want to vomit.
Makes me want to vomit.
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