YAGT: Possible Pregnancy yet some Old feelings have returned...

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dirtboy

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My advice is that if this kid could be yours, which I couldn't tell... is get her to a doc ASAP and get some pill to get rid of that kid before it's too late.
 

Yax

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Be nice to her till after the abortion. Then tell her that you're in love with another girl too. Make something up if you need to and see her reaction. She'll dump you like you should have dumped her. Its that simple.

 

Viper GTS

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Oct 13, 1999
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Contrary to popular belief, the ability to sustain an erection does not make you prepared to have sex.

Please do the world a favor & keep your dick to yourself until you're mature enough to handle the consequences. And tell your girl to keep her legs together.

Viper GTS
 

jjones

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Relying upon the decisions of other people to determine the course of your life sucks. Do the right thing about the pregnancy if it is in fact yours. Given the situation, I would determine beyond doubt that it were mine. Second, assuming she is pregnant and it is in fact mine, I would support the girl in whatever her decision about it was and face up to my responsibilities. Last, I would move on with my life, leaving her behind. If at some point she decides to catch up, I might let her back into my life depending upon the circumstances.
 

Isla

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Originally posted by: thawolfman
Welllllll....my girl found out that she might be preg last Wednesday, and didn't come to me with the news right away...She was pretty much scared to tell me, and I guess she was out at the mall or whatever and her ex-bf of two years saw her all upset and stuff and came up and talked to her...I guess she felt comfortable talking about it to him and stuff, and she had spent some time with him over the next few days until she called me up crying on Saturday night.

She told me all about everything, and was honest about the whole situation, which I appreciated, and we had cleared everything up as of Saturday night. I asked her if she had anything else to tell me, and she told me no. So I go home with her, we watch "The Ring" which is a taaaaaaadddddddd bit trippy, and then goto sleep. We get up, get breakfast, and she goes back to lay down...I come up and ask her how she's feeling, and she says that we have to talk again, and proceeds to tell me that over the past few days some feelings for her ex have come back. How much does it hurt to hear a girl say "I Love You but I Love Mike too" man that fvcking killed right there.

Anyways, she was basically confused as to what she wants, doesn't know if me and her rushed into this, doesn't know if she wants to be with him, or doesn't know if she wants to be single. It's a whooooole big mess, and she was basically looking for me to try to help her through. The best thing that came to my head was for her to take some time away from everybody. I was thinking something more like a vacation, but she just chose to see that me and the ex don't contact her in any way for a week (until next Sunday.)

So here I sit, wondering what to do for a week, wondering if she's playing me to be with the ex (which I doubt...I hope), and just plain wondering if this is really all worth my wondering....The thought of losing her back to the ex would just plain kill me since I've heard of everything he's put her through, and just the thought of losing her in general really hurts. It's been a nice 10 weeks that we've been together, probably some of the best weeks of my life, and to have that all taken away would just make me :(

So yeah, that's my rant...any ideas on what I can do to keep busy and STOP worrying about if she's with the ex or not?

Edit for some Clarification:
She took some cheap-o CVS pregnancy test on Wednesday, and it came up Positive or Pregnant or whatever the fvck those things say, and yes, I'm the father. The plan of action is to take another test next week and then to contact planned parenthood as to what our options are. It's really too soon for both of us to have a kid, and plus if she's having feelings for her ex then wtf would I want a kid with a girl like that for? Also, I've known the girl for 3 years so it's not like we just met...feelings have been around from the past for her and for me...


Tell her this.

Unless she plans on abortion, it's not all about her anymore. The days of self centered belly-button lint picking are over, that is if she wants to be a half way decent parent. The most important thing is now the child she is carrying and will raise. If the two of you decide to have the baby, she needs to grow up FAST.

<---been there, done that, and a better person for it.
 

Isla

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Originally posted by: thawolfman
Originally posted by: KEV1N
How old are you? I'm 22 and if I were in your position, I honestly would talk to my GF about abortion. This is what I would do if I were in your position.

I'm 21 and she's 18.

And we've already talked a little about abortion and have decided that's pretty much what we'd be doing...:eek:

Ah, I didn't see that.

Well, in cases like these, it is probably for the best. Hope she learns something from it.
 

Jugernot

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I'd say, if the baby is yours, it's your responsibility to provide some financial support if needed/wanted, EVEN if she chooses the other guy. Sorry, it's your responsiblity.

As for her having feelings for the other guy, let her have him. If you don't, you'll always be the guy she settled for... that ain't a good place to be.
 

Storm

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Nov 5, 1999
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How accurate was that pregnancy test?

I hope you get a more accurate one...

If this is in fact a false positive, I freaking hope it scared the living flaming gun-toting sh!t out of you, because
you two were careless that July 4th weekend.

If she's really pregnant, I hope you guys pick the best decision for you and learn from it.

Good luck
 

XZeroII

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Jun 30, 2001
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This may sound heartless, but you are a total moron. When you have sex, you run the risk of pregnancy. LIVE WITH IT. You both made the decision. You say you're not old enough? You were old enough to have sex, you were old enough to get drunk...how old are you? Or are you some punk kid who thinks he's all cool because he's having sex and getting drunk at 16? The fact that she is looking to her ex is not surprising since it could be a difficult time, but there is nothing you can do. Deal with it and use your head next time.

 

Storm

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Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
/bookmarks this thread for later purposes as to why "hit it" can be a bad idea

- M4H

Seriously this should go with amnesiac's girl guide as a case study :p.
 

Koing

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Best wish's for whatever happens.
 

Bleep

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I can see it now, girl gets pregnant by a guy that treats her like crap, girt tells guy "I am Pregnant" guy says too bad you are on your own, girl gets boyfriend drunk and they have sex, girl says I am pregnantm boy says it's mine I just know it. I think I will go on Anandtech for adivice but not take it but will feel better about it. She should have the baby and give it up for adoption, she will have a sore gizmo for a while and maybe that will teach her a lesson( dont fall in love with someones sex organ.) you are a dumbass. and she is dumber.

Bleep
 

Kelvrick

Lifer
Feb 14, 2001
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There some new pill that costs almost as much as a first trimester abortion. I had a scare myself so I had to research; we've been going out for about a year and a half and the condom ripped on us. Never was so relieved to hear of it a few days ago. Best to talk to the doctor because I couldn't find out much on the side effects and such.

It'll be about 300-400 bucks for either the pill or the operation I believe. Good luck on what happens man. After she pulls this, I wouldn't give her much slack though if she has more "feelings" for her ex-ex's.
 

digitalsm

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Jul 11, 2003
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Ummm why the fvck are you waiting? Go to Planned Parenthood or a Dr tomorrow, and have an accurate test done.
 

Dudd

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Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
/bookmarks this thread for later purposes as to why "hit it" can be a bad idea

- M4H

Why do you think DH|TB has become so popular? It's the cool way of birth control! :)
 

SagaLore

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Originally posted by: thawolfman
Welllllll....my girl found out that she might be preg last Wednesday, and didn't come to me with the news right away...She was pretty much scared to tell me, and I guess she was out at the mall or whatever and her ex-bf of two years saw her all upset and stuff and came up and talked to her...I guess she felt comfortable talking about it to him and stuff, and she had spent some time with him over the next few days until she called me up crying on Saturday night.

She told me all about everything, and was honest about the whole situation, which I appreciated, and we had cleared everything up as of Saturday night. I asked her if she had anything else to tell me, and she told me no. So I go home with her, we watch "The Ring" which is a taaaaaaadddddddd bit trippy, and then goto sleep. We get up, get breakfast, and she goes back to lay down...I come up and ask her how she's feeling, and she says that we have to talk again, and proceeds to tell me that over the past few days some feelings for her ex have come back. How much does it hurt to hear a girl say "I Love You but I Love Mike too" man that fvcking killed right there.

Anyways, she was basically confused as to what she wants, doesn't know if me and her rushed into this, doesn't know if she wants to be with him, or doesn't know if she wants to be single. It's a whooooole big mess, and she was basically looking for me to try to help her through. The best thing that came to my head was for her to take some time away from everybody. I was thinking something more like a vacation, but she just chose to see that me and the ex don't contact her in any way for a week (until next Sunday.)

So here I sit, wondering what to do for a week, wondering if she's playing me to be with the ex (which I doubt...I hope), and just plain wondering if this is really all worth my wondering....The thought of losing her back to the ex would just plain kill me since I've heard of everything he's put her through, and just the thought of losing her in general really hurts. It's been a nice 10 weeks that we've been together, probably some of the best weeks of my life, and to have that all taken away would just make me :(

So yeah, that's my rant...any ideas on what I can do to keep busy and STOP worrying about if she's with the ex or not?

Edit for some Clarification:
She took some cheap-o CVS pregnancy test on Wednesday, and it came up Positive or Pregnant or whatever the fvck those things say, and yes, I'm the father. The plan of action is to take another test next week and then to contact planned parenthood as to what our options are. It's really too soon for both of us to have a kid, and plus if she's having feelings for her ex then wtf would I want a kid with a girl like that for? Also, I've known the girl for 3 years so it's not like we just met...feelings have been around from the past for her and for me...

OMG

LOSERS, LOSERS EVERYWHERE
 

spaceman

Lifer
Dec 4, 2000
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10 weeks is a blip on the radar man.
Kick her ass to the curb if you have any respect for yourself.
 

SagaLore

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Originally posted by: thawolfman
If she is pregnant there are no plans to have the child. We already talked about that a bit on Saturday night. Neither of us are prepared to deal with a child at this time, and as much as it is our mistake, this is what we agreed on...

Edit: She tried to make it my decision, but there's no way in hell I would decide something like this on my own. I straightened that one out pretty fast, and we agreed on abortion if she is infact pregnant... *sigh*

Stop having sex. If you're not ready to be responsible for the consequences of sex, you shouldn't have sex.

Let's kill some babies. :beer:
 

Ulfwald

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July 4th? Man, she is probably scamming you. Most Pregnancy tests won't even show a valid result until after a full month. Most Dr.s wont even see a woman who thinks she is pregnant until after she is at least 2 months pregnant.

Kick her to the curb and tell her to grow up.
 

Ornery

Lifer
Oct 9, 1999
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Wow. What's stopping her from having the baby, raising it, and making you pay till it's 18 years old? That's right... NOTHING! She could just live with her ex and not marry him. You could be paying for their beer, pot and birth control for the next 18 years!