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YAGT: No kiss on first date= bad sign?

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Originally posted by: FrankyJunior
Wow, a girl with values that doesn't sleep around. RUN AWAY!

And, ummm, what's with the choice of movies?
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no, no, no.. I'm not judging her - I just don't want to bark up the wrong tree and waste energy. I'm totally fine if she's not into me or just wants to take things slow, it's the mixed signals of hanging on me while on my bed but not kissing me that's confusing me...

as for the movie choice - we met up at 8 and drank/spoke until midnight. we were trying to find something to do and all the theaters were closed - i suggested a goofy, short movie because we were too tired for anythign deep (we got to my place around 1:30).. So, yeah, I have good taste in music but an 80 minute movie that didn't require much though fit the bill.. it's a fun movie for when you're drunk or stoned, trust me!
 
Originally posted by: KarenMarie

Hahaha... maybe i am becoming a prude in my old age. but i am just soooo not into strangers laying in my bed and putting their tongue in my mouth... gross.
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:brokenheart:
 
Originally posted by: Nikamichi
She probably has herpes.
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well, doesn't like 70% of the population have the herp anyways?

just kidding, just kidding.. though she's a R.N. so I'd be able to get meds if I need them..
 
As you grow older you will learn that woman use POP, the power of ........ against you.
This is their only effective weapon they can use that will work every time, so relax, go ask her on another date and watch her body language, if she speaks to you with her head down and eyes peering up at you, then suck the tongue out of her head, if she speaks to you with her head held high while peering down at you, run for the hills.
 
Originally posted by: jjones
It's probably very likely you just have bad breath. Fix the halitosis and your second date will go better.
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i'm actually very, very concious of personal hygiene - i'm indian so am used to hanging out with relatives who forget to shower and wear deoderant. I showered 3 times that day (before work, after wokring out, 20 minutes before our date), brushed my teeth twice and listerined... i even have these powerful mint thingies for emergencies (i popped one when she used the restroom).. i've got that covered 😉
 
There are some girls I've dated where the first kiss does not happen for several dates in fact, and some where it happens on the first. Not that big of a deal.

However, the situation you described sounds awfully weird to me, so traditional logic may not apply.
 
Originally posted by: crustyoldman
As you grow older you will learn that woman use POP, the power of ........ against you.
This is their only effective weapon they can use that will work every time, so relax, go ask her on another date and watch her body language, if she speaks to you with her head down and eyes peering up at you, then suck the tongue out of her head, if she speaks to you with her head held high while peering down at you, run for the hills.
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um...head down eyes peering up indicates low self esteem or lack of confidence. Head up indicates that you're confident in what you say, or that you have self-confidence in general. Either one can lead to tongue-sucking....
 
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: Nikamichi
She probably has herpes.
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well, doesn't like 70% of the population have the herp anyways?

just kidding, just kidding.. though she's a R.N. so I'd be able to get meds if I need them..
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What are you looking for here? Just sex or a relationship?
If you are going for a relationship don't try getting her drunk or anything.
She even has a good job. That is a major plus.
 
I'd be weirded out if a girl kissed me on the first date. I mean, you barely know the person after just one date.
 
2nd dates are the always the best...just kiss her good night real quick on the lips suttle dont try to french...make it innocent.
 
Originally posted by: Chryso
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: Nikamichi
She probably has herpes.
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well, doesn't like 70% of the population have the herp anyways?

just kidding, just kidding.. though she's a R.N. so I'd be able to get meds if I need them..
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What are you looking for here? Just sex or a relationship?
If you are going for a relationship don't try getting her drunk or anything.
She even has a good job. That is a major plus.
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I am more of fan of sleep with first, then negotiate the terms of the relationship after. At least this way at the very worst you are FWB not just stuck in friends zone after weeks of courting.
 
Originally posted by: gregshin
2nd dates are the always the best...just kiss her good night real quick on the lips suttle dont try to french...make it innocent.
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its not highschool EDIT: Hollywood has your brainwashed.
 
Originally posted by: crustyoldman
You have a lot to learn Accipiter22.
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Agreed.

The head down/lookup up is a sure dead give away that the girl is REALLY into you/wants you. It's like a big red flashing/flirting sign. Even better it means she respects you.

 
Originally posted by: gregshin
2nd dates are the always the best...just kiss her good night real quick on the lips suttle dont try to french...make it innocent.
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I prefer first dates. I've had a lot better first dates than second dates, because I expend so much energy picking an activity/location/outfit/etc.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: crustyoldman
You have a lot to learn Accipiter22.
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Agreed.

The head down/lookup up is a sure dead give away that the girl is REALLY into you/wants you. It's like a big red flashing/flirting sign. Even better it means she respects you.
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the classic doggy dinner bowl look. hahaha
 
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: gregshin
2nd dates are the always the best...just kiss her good night real quick on the lips suttle dont try to french...make it innocent.
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its not highschool EDIT: Hollywood has your brainwashed.
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it aint high school chief and it happened to me and i was 27 at the time and i've had my fair share of dates and women.
 
Originally posted by: CPA
dude, your first "date" consisted of the Spongebob Movie? sad, just sad.
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Actually, I think I was uncharacteristically smooth, all things considered.. here's my reasoning...
a. I'm a laid back guy but look like a dweed/nerd. You know, button down shirt to a date/traditional sort with a job in publishing. my aim for the night was to show her that I'm responsible and can have fun, i think i did that.
b. we started at a book reading - high brow entertainment
c. moved onto a video arcade - low brow entertainment
d. had a long conversation over drinks - shows that i'm responsible, career driven and serious about my life
e. came back to my place to see spongebob, showing that I can be serious but also have a goofy/light hearted side. she laughed when i suggested it and the movie was so pointless that making a move was easy, she wasn't engrossed by the plot

what do you guys suggest? fight club? schindlers list?
 
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