YAGT: My gf wants to meet some guy she met online UPDATE

[YOyoYOhowsDAjello]

Hi guys.

I've been going out with my gf for 4.5 years now and things are going great. We're very happy together and share a lot of interests. That said, she's been indicating that she wants to socialize with some other people sometimes. In particular, tomorrow she's planning on meeting some guy she met online.

It turns out this guy will be in town and she thought it would be cool to meet him. I'm going to be at work when they're planning on meeting. She hasn't mentioned anything about what they plan on doing once they meet other than going out to eat somewhere.

Should I be worried? Should I let her go? Please help me AT.

Originally posted by: chuckywang
Is it this guy?

:laugh:

Thanks AT, you were great.

Ladybuggy and I are fine

Originally posted by: LadyBuggy
You did a nice job making me sound like a real jerk, Sean. :heart:

I think halfway convincing until Agaboogaboo posted his pictures of you.

Oh, and HomeBrewerDude, if you come in here, the part about you being an ass was part of the joke

Uh oh, new problem:

Originally posted by: SarcasticDwarf
Dawn and I have decided that the best course of action is to kill you off and then we can get married.

 

[Garet Jax]

Yes you should be worried.

Why the hell is she meeting guys online when she is in a committed relationship with you?

 

[BoldAsLove]

Originally posted by: Garet Jax
Yes you should be worried.

Why the hell is she meeting guys online when she is in a committed relationship with you?

QFT

this makes me wonder whether shes trying to have a discreet hookup or something considering none of your or her friends know these online people, therefore she can easily get away with it. be worried. now. go talk to her and talk sense into her.

 

[Triforceofcourage]

Originally posted by: BoldAsLove

Originally posted by: Garet Jax
Yes you should be worried.

Why the hell is she meeting guys online when she is in a committed relationship with you?

QFT

this makes me wonder whether shes trying to have a discreet hookup or something considering none of your or her friends know these online people, therefore she can easily get away with it. be worried. now. go talk to her and talk sense into her.

This sounds very shady to me. I would be very cautious, something isn't right here.

 

[pontifex]

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sorry, but come on. man, these threads are getting ridiculous.


btw, i edited that down to 3 lines. it was originally 6 lines of laughing at you.

 

[jlee]

At least she told you about it...that's a good sign, IMHO..

Edit: But no, it doesn't look too great.

 

[waggy]

Yes you should be worried and no you really do not have a choice (well corect one anyway) in this.

if you say not to go she is going to get mad that you do not trust her. if you say sure and she has something going on with this guy then you screwed.

 

[Corporate Thug]

I personally would not be comfortable with my SO meeting up with a random person she meet online

 

[KarenMarie]

Originally posted by: Garet Jax
Yes you should be worried.

Why the hell is she meeting guys online when she is in a committed relationship with you?

I agree.

If she is happy with you, she would not WANT to go and have dinner with some other guy. It is especially inappropriate with your not being there. Even if her intentions are innocent, she is sending the wrong message to this other guy.

But, I still think it is inappropriate.

I would never, ever meet up with some guy that my b/f doesnt know while he is not there. Not only is it wrong, imho, but I have no desire to behave as such.

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

Sean was feeling like experimenting a few months ago and so I decided to finally post the pictures he had sent to me, maybe this is related?

http://www.ankit.cc/seanowned/4.jpg
http://www.ankit.cc/seanowned/3.jpg
http://www.ankit.cc/seanowned/2.jpg
http://www.ankit.cc/seanowned/1.jpg

 

[YOyoYOhowsDAjello]

Originally posted by: waggy
Yes you should be worried and no you really do not have a choice (well corect one anyway) in this.

if you say not to go she is going to get mad that you do not trust her. if you say sure and she has something going on with this guy then you screwed.

Yeah, I know it's not like I can lock her in a box or something

What should I say to her to try to get her to reconsider without sounding like a jerk?

 

[BornStar]

I don't believe this. I almost bought it until the last line.

 

[YOyoYOhowsDAjello]

Originally posted by: pontifex
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sorry, but come on. man, these threads are getting ridiculous.


btw, i edited that down to 3 lines. it was originally 6 lines of laughing at you.

 

[CellarDoor]

It'd be one thing if it was some guy she already knew. It'd be another thing if it was someone she didn't already know that she met at school/work etc. It's quite another thing that she wants to see some guy she doesn't know that she met online. It doesn't sound good to me.

 

[BoomerD]

Originally posted by: waggy
Yes you should be worried and no you really do not have a choice (well corect one anyway) in this.

if you say not to go she is going to get mad that you do not trust her. if you say sure and she has something going on with this guy then you screwed.

QFT, PLUS, since you're only BF/GF, you really can't stop her anyway...hell, ic you were married, you really can't stop her...all you can do is voice an opinion...and maybe try to reason with her...oops, reason with a woman? D'Oh...WTF was I thinking!??!

 

[KarmaPolice]

sounds shady but could be harmless. I have met a lot of people online in real life and a lot of the times its for no reason other then to just see who is actually on the other and and have some fun. Granted most have been guys, but the few girls I have met online I was not trying to seriously get with.

 

[BoldAsLove]

I have a plan for you...
tell her ur boss gave u the day off from work, and ask her if you can come along
if she says sure...you should be okay.
if not..or if she stutters or something...your in trouble. confront her then.
go go go!

 

[YOyoYOhowsDAjello]

Originally posted by: AgaBoogaBoo
Sean was feeling like experimenting a few months ago and so I decided to finally post the pictures he had sent to me, maybe this is related?

http://www.ankit.cc/seanowned/4.jpg
http://www.ankit.cc/seanowned/3.jpg
http://www.ankit.cc/seanowned/2.jpg
http://www.ankit.cc/seanowned/1.jpg

Why did you have to post those now?

I trusted you!

 

[Garet Jax]

Originally posted by: YOyoYOhowsDAjello
What should I say to her to try to get her to reconsider without sounding like a jerk?

Why do you care about sounding like a jerk? Maybe that'll smarten her up.

She is emotionally cheating on you.

You should feel violated.

The physical cheating will follow very soon.

 

[Tiamat]

Hah, go slap in WOTW and eat some bass.

You know her best outta all of us. Do what you feel is right given your knowledge.

 

[ChaoZ]

Go with her.

 

[YOyoYOhowsDAjello]

Originally posted by: BoldAsLove
I have a plan for you...
tell her ur boss gave u the day off from work, and ask her if you can come along
if she says sure...you should be okay.
if not..or if she stutters or something...your in trouble. confront her then.
go go go!

She knows my boss is a complete ass and wouldn't do that for me

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: KarmaPolice
sounds shady but could be harmless. I have met a lot of people online in real life and a lot of the times its for no reason other then to just see who is actually on the other and and have some fun. Granted most have been guys, but the few girls I have met online I was not trying to seriously get with.

were you in a relationship at the time though? if so, how did she feel about you meeting other women you met online?

 

[Ronstang]

Why are guys here so damned stupid, blind, and just plain ignorant when it comes to women? Open you fricken eyes. Wanting to meet a guy she met online is an indication she is SHOPPING FOR YOUR REPLACEMENT.

 

[KarmaPolice]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: KarmaPolice
sounds shady but could be harmless. I have met a lot of people online in real life and a lot of the times its for no reason other then to just see who is actually on the other and and have some fun. Granted most have been guys, but the few girls I have met online I was not trying to seriously get with.

were you in a relationship at the time though? if so, how did she feel about you meeting other women you met online?

For atleast one of them I was yes. Wasnt a big deal.