YAGT: Going after a girl with a bf? *UPDATE 4*

[Stark]

Originally posted by: Nik
That's her? Cute++

so are you changing your opinion?

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Nik
That's her? Cute++

She's much prettier in person..She's freaking beautiful actually... See how HARD me being the good guy was???

damn i thought you were just kidding and thought that was an actress of some sort...

she's hot. and yes it must of been really hard for you to be a gentleman the night before.

pun intended

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Nik
That's her? Cute++

She's much prettier in person..She's freaking beautiful actually... See how HARD me being the good guy was???

damn i thought you were just kidding and thought that was an actress of some sort...

she's hot. and yes it must of been really hard for you to be a gentleman the night before.

pun intended

:laugh:

ah Tom you rock

 

[kinev]

Good for you for taking the high road. It can be difficult at times, but like Nik said, you have a sense of self-satisfaction and no "sleazy" feeling.

btw, didn't you have a London chick coming to visit or something?

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Nik
That's her? Cute++

She's much prettier in person..She's freaking beautiful actually... See how HARD me being the good guy was???

damn i thought you were just kidding and thought that was an actress of some sort...

she's hot. and yes it must of been really hard for you to be a gentleman the night before.

pun intended

She is an actress, that's how I met her I'm behind the camera in this shot.

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Nik
That's her? Cute++

She's much prettier in person..She's freaking beautiful actually... See how HARD me being the good guy was???

damn i thought you were just kidding and thought that was an actress of some sort...

she's hot. and yes it must of been really hard for you to be a gentleman the night before.

pun intended

:laugh:

ah Tom you rock

i try

he left himself wide open for that one

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: kinev
btw, didn't you have a London chick coming to visit or something?

I did.. she turned out to have a boyfriend.. argh.. I'm not having much luck with the women, am I?

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Nik
That's her? Cute++

She's much prettier in person..She's freaking beautiful actually... See how HARD me being the good guy was???

damn i thought you were just kidding and thought that was an actress of some sort...

she's hot. and yes it must of been really hard for you to be a gentleman the night before.

pun intended

She is an actress, that's how I met her I'm behind the camera in this shot.

note to freedomsbeat212: upload pic first, then link

 

[slackerinabox]

Oppps! this

 

[slightlyhuman]

you'll only act like prince charming the first few months.

ever heard the phrase, enjoy the roses while they last?

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Oppps! this

what exactly do you do for a living?

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Oppps! this

what exactly do you do for a living?

For a living? Marketing... For a serious hobby? Make sh1tty short films that no one would want to see

 

[ohnnyj]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
I know, this is very scummy. But there's this girl I really dig who's been dating this guy for a few months. We're very friendly and we hang out every now and then and, lately, I've been thinking about making my attraction clear. Now, if I don't do anything forceful (like kissing the taken girl), would this be so scummy? She's cute, smart, and fun to be around and I don't think her bf gives her the respect that she deserves anyways. The guy's a tool..

UPDATE - 4/7/2005
Very odd turn of events. So, this girl calls me last night hysterically crying. I ask her what's wrong and she can barely talk. She said that she's feeling alone and that she wanted to come over. I drive down to her apartment and pick her up. We go out for coffee and she explains that she's going through a really rough time and that her bf is being very cold and distant to her. Her mom recently died and she really needed some compassion but her BF keeps telling her to grow up. A total tool. Anyway, I take her back to my place and make her tea and we end up talking until 6 AM. Firstly, I told her that I was very attracted to her and that I shouldn't give her advice about her BF, one way or another as I'll be biased. Then I suggested that she not base her self worth on her bf and that she seriously talk to him - that they've been together for so long that she shouldn't throw it away based on one thing. We then watch a few simpsons episodes and I sleep on the couch.

I guess this was closure in a weird way. I proved mature enough not to take advantage of her when I easily could have. Then I insisted that she speak it over with her bf even though I really want that position... Finally, this night cemented my position as the asexual best friend. I'm bitter sweet about the whole thing. I'm glad that I'm that one person she decided to call but now know that I have absolutely no chance with her. But I feel like I did the right thing, as frustrating as that is.

Respect++

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Oppps! this

what exactly do you do for a living?

For a living? Marketing... For a serious hobby? Make sh1tty short films that no one would want to see

you know...that's a perfect pick up line for women....

interested in being in a movie?

 

[EmperorIQ]

good job about the updates. takes a good man to not take advantage.

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Oppps! this

what exactly do you do for a living?

For a living? Marketing... For a serious hobby? Make sh1tty short films that no one would want to see

you know...that's a perfect pick up line for women....

interested in being in a movie?

But then it would end with "then audition like everyone else since I'm not in charge of casting" ... doesn't really help that well since I make zero budget shorts and am not famous

 

[Stark]

so where's a link to the film she was in?

 

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
I know, this is very scummy. But there's this girl I really dig who's been dating this guy for a few months. We're very friendly and we hang out every now and then and, lately, I've been thinking about making my attraction clear. Now, if I don't do anything forceful (like kissing the taken girl), would this be so scummy? She's cute, smart, and fun to be around and I don't think her bf gives her the respect that she deserves anyways. The guy's a tool..

UPDATE - 4/7/2005
Very odd turn of events. So, this girl calls me last night hysterically crying. I ask her what's wrong and she can barely talk. She said that she's feeling alone and that she wanted to come over. I drive down to her apartment and pick her up. We go out for coffee and she explains that she's going through a really rough time and that her bf is being very cold and distant to her. Her mom recently died and she really needed some compassion but her BF keeps telling her to grow up. A total tool. Anyway, I take her back to my place and make her tea and we end up talking until 6 AM. Firstly, I told her that I was very attracted to her and that I shouldn't give her advice about her BF, one way or another as I'll be biased. Then I suggested that she not base her self worth on her bf and that she seriously talk to him - that they've been together for so long that she shouldn't throw it away based on one thing. We then watch a few simpsons episodes and I sleep on the couch.

I guess this was closure in a weird way. I proved mature enough not to take advantage of her when I easily could have. Then I insisted that she speak it over with her bf even though I really want that position... Finally, this night cemented my position as the asexual best friend. I'm bitter sweet about the whole thing. I'm glad that I'm that one person she decided to call but now know that I have absolutely no chance with her. But I feel like I did the right thing, as frustrating as that is.

Freedomsbeat212, I have you pegged completely. Now I understand that not only are you shy, you are a complete introvert except of course when you're doing your independent filming. So you always theorize till the sun comes down about every single girl you come across and have a crush on. It even appears that you think what if about every girl you meet. I see.... It also makes sense that you couldn't go out much with your ex-gf when you were together. Does your weight have anything to do with this? Thoughts more than actions works for you, so I won't take your posts about girls seriously anymore in regards to reality. However, I may join in theorizing too.

Concerning your question, answered generally, to be fair, the woman is not technically committed to him. So of course any unmarried man could feel free to hit on her. However, if she's willing to open up, then you can have her. The person she's with deserves someone better--provided he wasn't a control freak. And she'll do what she did to him to the new guy too--except of course if the new guy has intent to use her and dump her. And please spare me of that nonsense about the bf not treating her well. That's what all losers who want to steal significant others always say. At least be honest and up front about it. Now, off to read your update....

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Oppps! this

what exactly do you do for a living?

For a living? Marketing... For a serious hobby? Make sh1tty short films that no one would want to see

you know...that's a perfect pick up line for women....

interested in being in a movie?

But then it would end with "then audition like everyone else since I'm not in charge of casting" ... doesn't really help that well since I make zero budget shorts and am not famous

ahh shucks...i thought you were in charge of casting

are you a producer? video camera man?

 

[slackerinabox]

a) i don't link to /talk about my movies on atot anymore b) it's still in post production

 

[OvErHeAtInG]

Originally posted by: 91TTZ

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze

honestly, due to the way you acted, you have a better chance of a serious relationship after if/when they break up. That is if she isn't a psycho.

*confirmed* - you have absolutely NO clue what you're talking about.

He's in the "friend" category. Any man with real experience with women will tell you this. Or just read ATOT for a week and you'll find this out for yourself.

The only people who will disagree with this will be the "friends" who are oblivious enough to think they still have a chance.

I was great friends with a very attractive lady for, let's see 7 years. Then we had wonderful sex 2 or 3 times. Now we're still good friends.

Now, I grant you that this won't apply with most women because most women are superficial, manipulative, and insecure - and hence only go out with jerks. I simply have chosen to stop hanging out with /chasing after them. You grow up when you stop hanging out with those who aren't grown up. Now there are only first-rate, fun women in my life.

I've had one too many one night stands anyway with girls I would never bother wasting time on again... I don't just want to screw this girl... I'm glad I didn't....

Ah! Spoken like a real man.

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: DearQT

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
I know, this is very scummy. But there's this girl I really dig who's been dating this guy for a few months. We're very friendly and we hang out every now and then and, lately, I've been thinking about making my attraction clear. Now, if I don't do anything forceful (like kissing the taken girl), would this be so scummy? She's cute, smart, and fun to be around and I don't think her bf gives her the respect that she deserves anyways. The guy's a tool..

UPDATE - 4/7/2005
Very odd turn of events. So, this girl calls me last night hysterically crying. I ask her what's wrong and she can barely talk. She said that she's feeling alone and that she wanted to come over. I drive down to her apartment and pick her up. We go out for coffee and she explains that she's going through a really rough time and that her bf is being very cold and distant to her. Her mom recently died and she really needed some compassion but her BF keeps telling her to grow up. A total tool. Anyway, I take her back to my place and make her tea and we end up talking until 6 AM. Firstly, I told her that I was very attracted to her and that I shouldn't give her advice about her BF, one way or another as I'll be biased. Then I suggested that she not base her self worth on her bf and that she seriously talk to him - that they've been together for so long that she shouldn't throw it away based on one thing. We then watch a few simpsons episodes and I sleep on the couch.

I guess this was closure in a weird way. I proved mature enough not to take advantage of her when I easily could have. Then I insisted that she speak it over with her bf even though I really want that position... Finally, this night cemented my position as the asexual best friend. I'm bitter sweet about the whole thing. I'm glad that I'm that one person she decided to call but now know that I have absolutely no chance with her. But I feel like I did the right thing, as frustrating as that is.

Freedomsbeat212, I have you pegged completely. Now I understand that not only are you shy, you are a complete introvert except of course when you're doing your independent filming. So you always theorize till the sun comes down about every single girl you come across and have a crush on. It even appears that you think what if about every girl you meet. I see.... It also makes sense that you couldn't go out much with your ex-gf when you were together. Does your weight have anything to do with this? Thoughts more than actions works for you, so I won't take your posts about girls seriously anymore in regards to reality. However, I may join in theorizing too.

Concerning your question, answered generally, to be fair, the woman is not technically committed to him. So of course any unmarried man could feel free to hit on her. However, if she's willing to open up, then you can have her. The person she's with deserves someone better--provided he wasn't a control freak. And she'll do what she did to him to the new guy too--except of course if the new guy has intent to use her and dump her. And please spare me of that nonsense about the bf not treating her well. That's what all losers who want to steal significant others always say. At least be honest and up front about it. Now, off to read your update....

you assume a lot about him. don't be so quick to judge.

till he makes a post of "hi, i have a crush on this girl and too shy to make a move, please help!" then i'd be careful in what you say.

So far we know he has the ability to respect women.

 

[dug777]

how bout you tell him more posts on ATOT than ANYBODY else

i know i'd jump you for that

 

[IHYLN]

well you know the saying, nice guys finish last!

You are a tool for not screwing her but also a tool for letting the opportunity to pass by. This is the worst position to be in, lose-lose, so just find someone new imo

 

[dug777]

Originally posted by: IHYLN
well you know the saying, nice guys finish last!

You are a tool for not screwing her but also a tool for letting the opportunity to pass by. This is the worst position to be in, lose-lose, so just find someone new imo

:laugh: