Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
I know, this is very scummy. But there's this girl I really dig who's been dating this guy for a few months. We're very friendly and we hang out every now and then and, lately, I've been thinking about making my attraction clear. Now, if I don't do anything forceful (like kissing the taken girl), would this be so scummy? She's cute, smart, and fun to be around and I don't think her bf gives her the respect that she deserves anyways. The guy's a tool..
UPDATE - 4/7/2005
Very odd turn of events. So, this girl calls me last night hysterically crying. I ask her what's wrong and she can barely talk. She said that she's feeling alone and that she wanted to come over. I drive down to her apartment and pick her up. We go out for coffee and she explains that she's going through a really rough time and that her bf is being very cold and distant to her. Her mom recently died and she really needed some compassion but her BF keeps telling her to grow up. A total tool. Anyway, I take her back to my place and make her tea and we end up talking until 6 AM. Firstly, I told her that I was very attracted to her and that I shouldn't give her advice about her BF, one way or another as I'll be biased. Then I suggested that she not base her self worth on her bf and that she seriously talk to him - that they've been together for so long that she shouldn't throw it away based on one thing. We then watch a few simpsons episodes and I sleep on the couch.
I guess this was closure in a weird way. I proved mature enough not to take advantage of her when I easily could have. Then I insisted that she speak it over with her bf even though I really want that position... Finally, this night cemented my position as the asexual best friend. I'm bitter sweet about the whole thing. I'm glad that I'm that one person she decided to call but now know that I have absolutely no chance with her. But I feel like I did the right thing, as frustrating as that is.