Welcome to college life.
You need to straighten it out with her if she's your friend or something more. If the latter, I wouldn't tolerate that type of BS. If you really do care about the guy you're with, why would you want to bang another guy? Unless it something you are holding back. In anycase, assuming you're in the complete right, that speaks volumes about her. Dump her sorry a$$. If in the end you two are really just friends, with uh perks, then treat it like that. Find someone else.
- Jan 23, 2002
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UPDATE:
So we talked last night. I basically said I love her, but if she has those feelings I can't do anything but let her go. She said she couldn't break up with me because she wants to be with me and knows she's being stupid in leaving something so good for something that is meaningless. She stated she was glad she was able to talk to me about it instead of holding it inside and that it helps talking to me about her thoughts instead of letting it bubble inside her. Helps her not feel that way anymore. In the end, she just described it as something you're not suppose to do so you felt like you want to. Like a kid not being allowed in the cookie jar. I remember she stated her intent was not to make-up or whatever with other guys, but having the option to was more in the line with what she was feeling.
Her biggest question was how this was going to work now that I will be home and working and she'll be at school. She said this could work out, and thought that during the weekday when she has her internship close by, she would sleep over a few days during the week. She'll also be able to hang out with the girls and have fun with them on the weekends, she said this was important because she doesn't want to miss out on last college memories with her girls. I told her I never cared who she hung out with or what she did, as long as guys are not involved past friendship, I couldn't care less. I don't have to hang out with her all the time, and I don't want to anyway. I have my brother who goes there too, I'll party it up with him in the weekend
She said this can work out like this.
Anyway, so I did offer to part ways, and got rejected, haha. She also wanted to come over the next day (today).
ATOT thoughts?
So we talked last night. I basically said I love her, but if she has those feelings I can't do anything but let her go. She said she couldn't break up with me because she wants to be with me and knows she's being stupid in leaving something so good for something that is meaningless. She stated she was glad she was able to talk to me about it instead of holding it inside and that it helps talking to me about her thoughts instead of letting it bubble inside her. Helps her not feel that way anymore. In the end, she just described it as something you're not suppose to do so you felt like you want to. Like a kid not being allowed in the cookie jar. I remember she stated her intent was not to make-up or whatever with other guys, but having the option to was more in the line with what she was feeling.
Her biggest question was how this was going to work now that I will be home and working and she'll be at school. She said this could work out, and thought that during the weekday when she has her internship close by, she would sleep over a few days during the week. She'll also be able to hang out with the girls and have fun with them on the weekends, she said this was important because she doesn't want to miss out on last college memories with her girls. I told her I never cared who she hung out with or what she did, as long as guys are not involved past friendship, I couldn't care less. I don't have to hang out with her all the time, and I don't want to anyway. I have my brother who goes there too, I'll party it up with him in the weekend
She said this can work out like this.Anyway, so I did offer to part ways, and got rejected, haha. She also wanted to come over the next day (today).
ATOT thoughts?
quakefiend420
Lifer
- Aug 26, 2004
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Originally posted by: Azurik
UPDATE:
So we talked last night. I basically said I love her, but if she has those feelings I can't do anything but let her go. She said she couldn't break up with me because she wants to be with me and knows she's being stupid in leaving something so good for something that is meaningless. She stated she was glad she was able to talk to me about it instead of holding it inside and that it helps talking to me about her thoughts instead of letting it bubble inside her. Helps her not feel that way anymore. In the end, she just described it as something you're not suppose to do so you felt like you want to. Like a kid not being allowed in the cookie jar. I remember she stated her intent was not to make-up or whatever with other guys, but having the option to was more in the line with what she was feeling.
Her biggest question was how this was going to work now that I will be home and working and she'll be at school. She said this could work out, and thought that during the weekday when she has her internship close by, she would sleep over a few days during the week. She'll also be able to hang out with the girls and have fun with them on the weekends, she said this was important because she doesn't want to miss out on last college memories with her girls. I told her I never cared who she hung out with or what she did, as long as guys are not involved past friendship, I couldn't care less. I don't have to hang out with her all the time, and I don't want to anyway. I have my brother who goes there too, I'll party it up with him in the weekend
Anyway, so I did offer to part ways, and got rejected, haha. She also wanted to come over the next day (today).
ATOT thoughts?
she doesn't want to leave behind the security but she wants to see what else is out there...sorry man, but that's my honest opinion...i'm sure it isn't what you want to hear...but the thing is, if she is having these kind of doubts, chances are she's eventually going to act on them...
quakefiend420
Lifer
- Aug 26, 2004
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My advice is for you to let her go and make her mistakes and in the meantime dont look for love but don't wait around for this other girl either. Just let things happen naturally.
There's also the possibility that her parents/friends are undermining the relationship. It least that was the case in my past relationship.
Saint Nick
Lifer
- Jan 21, 2005
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Originally posted by: Azurik
We're more in tune with our emotions... eh, lol.
Or maybe we're the only one with women
i think you mean to say smart (nerdy/geeky/etc) AND good looking [enough] to get t3h chicks.
- Jan 23, 2002
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Originally posted by: Kalbi
Originally posted by: Azurik
We're more in tune with our emotions... eh, lol.
Or maybe we're the only one with women
i think you mean to say smart (nerdy/geeky/etc) AND good looking [enough] to get t3h chicks.
Errr... that, yeah
- Jan 23, 2002
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She decided she wants to stay together and doesn't seem to be changing her mind. She actually seems rather happy on the phone now and was going to surprise me at my house with wine and a little sleep over, but I was busy playing poker with the boys and didn't have y phone around me.
secretanchitman
Diamond Member
- Apr 11, 2001
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LOL same here...dont dump your gf! shes too pretty to let go!
EDIT: read everything...i hope you stay with your gf.
Saint Nick
Lifer
- Jan 21, 2005
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Originally posted by: Azurik
UPDATE:
So we talked last night. I basically said I love her, but if she has those feelings I can't do anything but let her go. She said she couldn't break up with me because she wants to be with me and knows she's being stupid in leaving something so good for something that is meaningless. She stated she was glad she was able to talk to me about it instead of holding it inside and that it helps talking to me about her thoughts instead of letting it bubble inside her. Helps her not feel that way anymore. In the end, she just described it as something you're not suppose to do so you felt like you want to. Like a kid not being allowed in the cookie jar. I remember she stated her intent was not to make-up or whatever with other guys, but having the option to was more in the line with what she was feeling.
Her biggest question was how this was going to work now that I will be home and working and she'll be at school. She said this could work out, and thought that during the weekday when she has her internship close by, she would sleep over a few days during the week. She'll also be able to hang out with the girls and have fun with them on the weekends, she said this was important because she doesn't want to miss out on last college memories with her girls. I told her I never cared who she hung out with or what she did, as long as guys are not involved past friendship, I couldn't care less. I don't have to hang out with her all the time, and I don't want to anyway. I have my brother who goes there too, I'll party it up with him in the weekend
Anyway, so I did offer to part ways, and got rejected, haha. She also wanted to come over the next day (today).
ATOT thoughts?
i heard from a close friend of my girl's that she loves me. i'm going talk to her about that this weekend. i wonder how that will go :roll:
In my opinion, an Asian having a good looking white GF is like having a trophy GF.
Other people will be impressed as Asians don't hook up with good looking white females very often.
I mean I would love to also just because its somewhat like a forbidden fruit.
But after getting my appetite filled, I'd much rather settle with an Asian girl.
White females tend to bottom out once they pass 40.
Sorry for the generalization but its usually true.
Other people will be impressed as Asians don't hook up with good looking white females very often.
I mean I would love to also just because its somewhat like a forbidden fruit.
But after getting my appetite filled, I'd much rather settle with an Asian girl.
White females tend to bottom out once they pass 40.
Sorry for the generalization but its usually true.
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