WWYD if your child was gay?

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glutenberg

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Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
Originally posted by: glutenberg

Just because you're gay does not mean you can't reproduce. It's not as if we don't have in vitro fertilization.

w...t...f...

Did you completely sleep through sex-ed? Homosexuals CANNOT reproduce according to natural reproductive means. Homosexual = partnering with the same sex. Partnering with the same sex = no way to conceive children under current evolutionary constraints unless medical intervention is utilized in the form of test-tube, in-vitro with a third-party, et al. Since it takes 1 man and 1 woman, there would have to be women and men out there who just want to become breeding grounds and breeders so that homosexual couples can enjoy child-rearing.

Until evolution deems it so, homosexuals are not meant to reproduce hence the viewpoint some people have that homosexuality is biologically unnatural. Not my viewpoint exactly but a viewpoint out there nonetheless.

And there are. Ever hear of a surrogate mother? Where the hell have you been living? I thought this was common knowledge.

Google is your friend.

For a straight couple who cannot conceive because one or the other is barren is a perfectly acceptable use of surrogacy. For a homosexual couple who weren't designed to have children is not an acceptable use of surrogacy in my opinion. As some of you like to point out, being gay is a genetic disposition...with that genetic disposition comes the fact you aren't designed to have children. You want to claim that homosexuality is not chosen and you are born that way but you don't want to accept the limitations of that design. You'd rather say, "Just use a surrogate mother to negate evolutionary design. They do it all the time for straight couples where one/both partners can't contribute to impregnation." The difference is, one couple was created to procreate and the other wasn't. Sorry, Jules, you can't change evolution.

That's the same argument as being born infertile. Obviously nature chose for you to be that way and thus you weren't meant to be a breeder. Sorry, you're out of luck. Fact of the matter, technology and medicine are the two major contributing factors in the extension of human lives. You might as well say people who have weak immune systems should not have preventative medicine administered to them because nature chose for them to be bred out of existence. How about the person born with a handicap? Guess we should toss them out there and hope they can fend for themselves. Thus, by being sentient creatures we have created measures to surpass biological constraints. It makes no sense to argue that gays aren't meant to reproduce in the time context in which you live.
 

zoiks

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Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: K1052
Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
Originally posted by: fatdragondzc
sleep on it and wen i wake up hopefulli its all a dream. if not, time make a new baby and start from scratch. label this one failure and send it off.

We have many good, contributing members who happen to be gay.
You may not continue to post such verbal abuse on our forums.
Doing so again may be reason to suspend your posting privileges for an indefinite period of time.

Is that clear?

AnandTech Moderator hzl

Not trying to call a mod out here, but please explain why ATOT also has many good, contributing members who happen to be Catholic, Christian, et al and they suffer worse abuse at the hands of many agnostic, atheistic and anti-religion posters? Why are the anti-religious posters not sent on vacation/banned or at least held to the same standards mods like holding someone who posts something regarding anything but positive responses regarding homosexuality? I mean ffs, a topic was locked because someone called people who think Tony Romo is good "Tony Romo-Homo's" (which is quite fifth-grade but made me chuckle regardless) but I've seen more than one post bashing/flaming/attacking religious beliefs that had mods posting within...

I don't agree with the mod crackdown on this topic but give the poor persecuted Christan shtick a rest. Religion threads are always a lightning rod of controversy whenever they pop up in these forums, this is to be expected. You are (or should be) capable of defending your position so no special protection should not be granted.

Another thing you should note, hzl has a friend who is gay. Personally, I find hzl's reaction a double standard. No one can say anything less then positive about gays without being warned with a ban stick?

And don't bother bringing up the special protection factor. Any subject can be just as sensitive as any other.

I agree with you as well. I have nothing against hzl but I should be able to express my disagreement with homosexuality if thats what I want to do.
 

waggy

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Dec 14, 2000
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Originally posted by: zoiks
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: K1052
Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
Originally posted by: fatdragondzc
sleep on it and wen i wake up hopefulli its all a dream. if not, time make a new baby and start from scratch. label this one failure and send it off.

We have many good, contributing members who happen to be gay.
You may not continue to post such verbal abuse on our forums.
Doing so again may be reason to suspend your posting privileges for an indefinite period of time.

Is that clear?

AnandTech Moderator hzl

Not trying to call a mod out here, but please explain why ATOT also has many good, contributing members who happen to be Catholic, Christian, et al and they suffer worse abuse at the hands of many agnostic, atheistic and anti-religion posters? Why are the anti-religious posters not sent on vacation/banned or at least held to the same standards mods like holding someone who posts something regarding anything but positive responses regarding homosexuality? I mean ffs, a topic was locked because someone called people who think Tony Romo is good "Tony Romo-Homo's" (which is quite fifth-grade but made me chuckle regardless) but I've seen more than one post bashing/flaming/attacking religious beliefs that had mods posting within...

I don't agree with the mod crackdown on this topic but give the poor persecuted Christan shtick a rest. Religion threads are always a lightning rod of controversy whenever they pop up in these forums, this is to be expected. You are (or should be) capable of defending your position so no special protection should not be granted.

Another thing you should note, hzl has a friend who is gay. Personally, I find hzl's reaction a double standard. No one can say anything less then positive about gays without being warned with a ban stick?

And don't bother bringing up the special protection factor. Any subject can be just as sensitive as any other.

I agree with you as well. I have nothing against hzl but I should be able to express my disagreement with homosexuality if thats what I want to do.

if it was just a thread talking about other things or a gay member makeing a post then no.

but in a thread such as this asking a persons opionion you should be able to to.
 

K1052

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Aug 21, 2003
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Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: K1052
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: K1052
Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
Originally posted by: fatdragondzc
sleep on it and wen i wake up hopefulli its all a dream. if not, time make a new baby and start from scratch. label this one failure and send it off.

We have many good, contributing members who happen to be gay.
You may not continue to post such verbal abuse on our forums.
Doing so again may be reason to suspend your posting privileges for an indefinite period of time.

Is that clear?

AnandTech Moderator hzl

Not trying to call a mod out here, but please explain why ATOT also has many good, contributing members who happen to be Catholic, Christian, et al and they suffer worse abuse at the hands of many agnostic, atheistic and anti-religion posters? Why are the anti-religious posters not sent on vacation/banned or at least held to the same standards mods like holding someone who posts something regarding anything but positive responses regarding homosexuality? I mean ffs, a topic was locked because someone called people who think Tony Romo is good "Tony Romo-Homo's" (which is quite fifth-grade but made me chuckle regardless) but I've seen more than one post bashing/flaming/attacking religious beliefs that had mods posting within...

I don't agree with the mod crackdown on this topic but give the poor persecuted Christan shtick a rest. Religion threads are always a lightning rod of controversy whenever they pop up in these forums, this is to be expected. You are (or should be) capable of defending your position so no special protection should not be granted.

Another thing you should note, hzl has a friend who is gay. Personally, I find hzl's reaction a double standard. No one can say anything less then positive about gays without being warned with a ban stick?

And don't bother bringing up the special protection factor. Any subject can be just as sensitive as any other.

I know one or two gay people myself.

So do I, what's your point?

I happen to be one of those people....

I know hzl has a gay friend and while her heart was in the right place I don't agree with the call. Religion is the least deserving of getting the kid gloves given its scope of possible topics and history. Not to mention the fundamental difference (that any rational person can acknowledge) between an inborn characteristic and a learned one.
 

JulesMaximus

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Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
Originally posted by: glutenberg

Just because you're gay does not mean you can't reproduce. It's not as if we don't have in vitro fertilization.

w...t...f...

Did you completely sleep through sex-ed? Homosexuals CANNOT reproduce according to natural reproductive means. Homosexual = partnering with the same sex. Partnering with the same sex = no way to conceive children under current evolutionary constraints unless medical intervention is utilized in the form of test-tube, in-vitro with a third-party, et al. Since it takes 1 man and 1 woman, there would have to be women and men out there who just want to become breeding grounds and breeders so that homosexual couples can enjoy child-rearing.

Until evolution deems it so, homosexuals are not meant to reproduce hence the viewpoint some people have that homosexuality is biologically unnatural. Not my viewpoint exactly but a viewpoint out there nonetheless.

And there are. Ever hear of a surrogate mother? Where the hell have you been living? I thought this was common knowledge.

Google is your friend.

For a straight couple who cannot conceive because one or the other is barren is a perfectly acceptable use of surrogacy. For a homosexual couple who weren't designed to have children is not an acceptable use of surrogacy in my opinion. As some of you like to point out, being gay is a genetic disposition...with that genetic disposition comes the fact you aren't designed to have children. You want to claim that homosexuality is not chosen and you are born that way but you don't want to accept the limitations of that design. You'd rather say, "Just use a surrogate mother to negate evolutionary design. They do it all the time for straight couples where one/both partners can't contribute to impregnation." The difference is, one couple was created to procreate and the other wasn't. Sorry, Jules, you can't change evolution.

What the hell does this have to do with evolution? :confused: I thought we were talking about gay couples having children so I pointed out a way that they could. Who the hell are you to say whether or not surrogacy is an acceptable option for gay couples? I've got news for you, they already do.
 

0roo0roo

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Sep 21, 2002
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Originally posted by: Turin39789
Originally posted by: soonerproud
Originally posted by: Marlin1975
Originally posted by: Juno
accept the fact your child is gay because it is the way he/she was born; you can't really control him/her.

p.s.: i would scream if my child is gay but uh..


Fixed for ya.

Unless YOU had to choose to be heterosexual? Or maybe you forced yourself to be hetero and try to control your desire for men?

Most are born gay. There are cases of people choosing to be gay or bisexual to buck societal norms. This is really popular in the Punk Rock scene.

Punk makes you gay?

it doesn't or else more punk rock people would do it. the ones that do are bi, and if they are more likely to admit it because they are punk, well that might throw some people off.

if deep down you really believe in your heart that you can choose, well i have some bad news for ya, you are bi hehe. core desire isnt learned, no one learned to be hungry.
 

zach0624

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I wouldn't care if my child was gay, all though it would probably make life harder them then if they were hetero. There is nothing wrong with being gay but in our society it is a much harder life style to live and probably wouldn't want them to be gay because of the extra crap they have to take from people who are jerks. There are a few out of the closet gay kids in my school and they are no different than everyone else. One who just graduated was head of the cheer squad and another pwns everyone at gears of war, but the shit they have to take just is amazing and I thought I took a lot of shit for being a nerd.

Edit: if any of you are wondering I am a christian
 

Rio Rebel

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Making the statement that gay people should be killed ("post birth abortion") is not acceptable, regardless of your feelings about homosexuality. This thread is not against forum rules, so it has not been locked. In the past, we may have locked it. Under our present approach, we give you the benefit of the doubt that you can discuss something like this without violating our terms.

This is not a hard one, folks. Advocating killing off gay people is not a gray area, regardless of what any of us think about the subject of homosexuality.
 

Taejin

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Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
I really think hairy butts and anal sex come to mind whenever straight guys think of gay guys.

Is this true?

yes to the anal sex, but not the hairy butts.

but now that you mention it.. o_O
 

Skacer

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Originally posted by: Rio Rebel
Making the statement that gay people should be killed ("post birth abortion") is not acceptable, regardless of your feelings about homosexuality. This thread is not against forum rules, so it has not been locked. In the past, we may have locked it. Under our present approach, we give you the benefit of the doubt that you can discuss something like this without violating our terms.

This is not a hard one, folks. Advocating killing off gay people is not a gray area, regardless of what any of us think about the subject of homosexuality.

What about killing off your own offspring, in a tongue-in-cheek manner?


I guess the question here is, who is the victim? And why is this being made about "killing off gay people". Is killing off straight people ok? If my fictitious baby is straight its ok to say I'd ghost them off the peer w/ a brick on the gas pedal?
 

jagec

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Originally posted by: Skacer
Originally posted by: Rio Rebel
Making the statement that gay people should be killed ("post birth abortion") is not acceptable, regardless of your feelings about homosexuality. This thread is not against forum rules, so it has not been locked. In the past, we may have locked it. Under our present approach, we give you the benefit of the doubt that you can discuss something like this without violating our terms.

This is not a hard one, folks. Advocating killing off gay people is not a gray area, regardless of what any of us think about the subject of homosexuality.

What about killing off your own offspring, in a tongue-in-cheek manner?


I guess the question here is, who is the victim? And why is this being made about "killing off gay people". Is killing off straight people ok? If my fictitious baby is straight its ok to say I'd ghost them off the peer w/ a brick on the gas pedal?

Well, it's OK to talk about killing people if they're fat, or tailgating you, or conspiracy theorists, or RIAA, or Iraqis, or Christians, or rednecks, or smokers, or computer novices, or racists, or people who drink and drive. So clearly this IS a grey area. But it's not OK to joke about gay people, which means they must be on a different plane than the rest of us.

I for one welcome our well-groomed queer overlords, and remind them that as a valuable internet personality, I would be invaluable in rounding up the straights to toil in their massive underground acid mines...
 

TheFamilyMan

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Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

What the hell does this have to do with evolution? :confused: I thought we were talking about gay couples having children so I pointed out a way that they could. Who the hell are you to say whether or not surrogacy is an acceptable option for gay couples? I've got news for you, they already do.

Do you have no reading comprehension at all? What do you mean you are confused as to what this has to do with evolution? According to most, if not all, of the homosexuals on ATOT, they were born that way; i.e. evolution dictated they be born the way they are. We were talking about how gay couples could have children and I stated they could not. It's not hard. Until a man's colon somehow begins holding an egg and creating a vessel for life, a male homosexual couple CANNOT have children. Until a woman can produce both sperm and egg, a female homosexual couple CANNOT have children. They have to employ the use of another woman's and/or a male's sperm and utilize someone as nothing more than a breeder.

And you ask who the hell am I to say that surrogacy is not acceptable for gay couples...that's my opinion. I say it is not an acceptable use for surrogacy and is not what surrogacy is intended for. Again, I state that if you want to be gay, then accept your homosexuality with all the pros (your wardrobe doubles if you are the same size as your partner, etc) as well as all the cons (you were born that way as you state and, therefore, cannot have children). Accept the fact that until some giant evolutionary leap occurs and men start bearing life and women start reproducing asexually, homosexual couples were not designed to have children. Be homosexual, live your life inclusive of everything that goes along with it.
 

Turin39789

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Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

What the hell does this have to do with evolution? :confused: I thought we were talking about gay couples having children so I pointed out a way that they could. Who the hell are you to say whether or not surrogacy is an acceptable option for gay couples? I've got news for you, they already do.

Do you have no reading comprehension at all? What do you mean you are confused as to what this has to do with evolution? According to most, if not all, of the homosexuals on ATOT, they were born that way; i.e. evolution dictated they be born the way they are. We were talking about how gay couples could have children and I stated they could not. It's not hard. Until a man's colon somehow begins holding an egg and creating a vessel for life, a male homosexual couple CANNOT have children. Until a woman can produce both sperm and egg, a female homosexual couple CANNOT have children. They have to employ the use of another woman's and/or a male's sperm and utilize someone as nothing more than a breeder.

And you ask who the hell am I to say that surrogacy is not acceptable for gay couples...that's my opinion. I say it is not an acceptable use for surrogacy and is not what surrogacy is intended for. Again, I state that if you want to be gay, then accept your homosexuality with all the pros (your wardrobe doubles if you are the same size as your partner, etc) as well as all the cons (you were born that way as you state and, therefore, cannot have children). Accept the fact that until some giant evolutionary leap occurs and men start bearing life and women start reproducing asexually, homosexual couples were not designed to have children. Be homosexual, live your life inclusive of everything that goes along with it.

The word "can" implies ability, and they are biologically able to breed.

If you are refusing to give homosexuals your consent to breed, you should use "may" and "may not".
 

Zysoclaplem

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Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

What the hell does this have to do with evolution? :confused: I thought we were talking about gay couples having children so I pointed out a way that they could. Who the hell are you to say whether or not surrogacy is an acceptable option for gay couples? I've got news for you, they already do.

Do you have no reading comprehension at all? What do you mean you are confused as to what this has to do with evolution? According to most, if not all, of the homosexuals on ATOT, they were born that way; i.e. evolution dictated they be born the way they are. We were talking about how gay couples could have children and I stated they could not. It's not hard. Until a man's colon somehow begins holding an egg and creating a vessel for life, a male homosexual couple CANNOT have children. Until a woman can produce both sperm and egg, a female homosexual couple CANNOT have children. They have to employ the use of another woman's and/or a male's sperm and utilize someone as nothing more than a breeder.

And you ask who the hell am I to say that surrogacy is not acceptable for gay couples...that's my opinion. I say it is not an acceptable use for surrogacy and is not what surrogacy is intended for. Again, I state that if you want to be gay, then accept your homosexuality with all the pros (your wardrobe doubles if you are the same size as your partner, etc) as well as all the cons (you were born that way as you state and, therefore, cannot have children). Accept the fact that until some giant evolutionary leap occurs and men start bearing life and women start reproducing asexually, homosexual couples were not designed to have children. Be homosexual, live your life inclusive of everything that goes along with it.

All your surrogate mothers are belongs to us.
 

Rio Rebel

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I did not make the comments above to open debate. I made them to close it, by explaining that the rule is clear and will be enforced.

I understand why some people have questioned our position earlier in this thread, and we have let that go, given the circumstances. From this point, we expect you to handle any questioning of mod decisions in the appropriate manner, and not here in this thread. If you believe any of us have acted inappropriately or inconsistently, there is a forum to express that concern.

There will be no further discussion of mod decisions in this thread. Thank you for your understanding.

Rio Rebel
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TeamZero

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I'd congratulate him/her on having the courage to go against the norm and be themselves.
 

TehMac

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I would be regretful, but I would still love him/her: God gave them to me as a gift, and I shouldn't question God's authority. In my falliable being, I would be disapointed. But I'd be sure to have other children, because I want to see my grandchildren. ;)
 

manowar821

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Originally posted by: Turin39789
Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

What the hell does this have to do with evolution? :confused: I thought we were talking about gay couples having children so I pointed out a way that they could. Who the hell are you to say whether or not surrogacy is an acceptable option for gay couples? I've got news for you, they already do.

Do you have no reading comprehension at all? What do you mean you are confused as to what this has to do with evolution? According to most, if not all, of the homosexuals on ATOT, they were born that way; i.e. evolution dictated they be born the way they are. We were talking about how gay couples could have children and I stated they could not. It's not hard. Until a man's colon somehow begins holding an egg and creating a vessel for life, a male homosexual couple CANNOT have children. Until a woman can produce both sperm and egg, a female homosexual couple CANNOT have children. They have to employ the use of another woman's and/or a male's sperm and utilize someone as nothing more than a breeder.

And you ask who the hell am I to say that surrogacy is not acceptable for gay couples...that's my opinion. I say it is not an acceptable use for surrogacy and is not what surrogacy is intended for. Again, I state that if you want to be gay, then accept your homosexuality with all the pros (your wardrobe doubles if you are the same size as your partner, etc) as well as all the cons (you were born that way as you state and, therefore, cannot have children). Accept the fact that until some giant evolutionary leap occurs and men start bearing life and women start reproducing asexually, homosexual couples were not designed to have children. Be homosexual, live your life inclusive of everything that goes along with it.

The word "can" implies ability, and they are biologically able to breed.

If you are refusing to give homosexuals your consent to breed, you should use "may" and "may not".

Indeed.

I could choose to nail another guy, but I don't because I'm attracted to women by biology.

Gays choose not to do it with the opposite sex because they're attracted to their own sex by biology. The organs still function.

I can't believe we need to even point this out to TheFamilyMan.

Why should it matter if you feel uncomfortable with it, anyway, TheFamilyMan? It's not your choice, you're not fighting to protect any kind of sanctity of family or marriage. They're not harming you, or the kids they want to raise as their own.

What's your real problem?

I see you talking a lot, but not a whole lot is actually being said. It seems almost like you're trying to cover up your own blatant fear and hate for gays by using more flowering language. Much in the same way I've seen others do, time and time again.

Am I wrong?