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I get the fealing most of you think people are crazy because they say things like "God told me to" and you assume that they literally mean that. God doesn't audibly speak to people any more than he appears in your grilled cheese sandwhich. A lot of religious people will use a phrase like that to indicate a strong desire to be a blessing to some person they feel compassion for. Unfortunately, it seems as if you couldn't see passed the religious part of her generosity and be grateful for an act of heart.
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Sorry, I don't agree...she sounds nutty and you sound nutty for defending her like "you know".


She said that because God told her to do this then she had to give it to me.
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Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
First of all, I don't need charity. I especially don't need charity in the form of a $40 Macy's gift card.
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Gifts aren't given because "you don't need them;" they are given as an act of kindness.

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Surely, God knows that so I'm not sure where she came up with this "he told me to give it to you." Perhaps it was a bad game of telephone???
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Why are you so literal about this? You act like she just dials a number and gets a command. She mentioned God because her faith is what motivated her to try to be helpful.

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Secondly, I agree that it was generous act. I never said it wasn't. But I don't want or especially need anybody's financial contributions.
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It seems as if you're saying she was doing this as an insult to your income. You don't receive gifts come Christmas time or on your birthday or any other time because you financial situation is slipping away. Likewise, this lady felt like performing an act of benevolence to you totally seperated from your money making capabilities. The right thing to do would be to understand her intent, thank her, and move on. Give the card away if it was that insulting.

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
I make a living just fine on my own and she knows this as we've worked together for about 8 years. She should have just bought something herself and donated it to a local homeless shelter. I'm not quite sure why God didn't tell her that instead. 😕
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Again, it appears as if you're twisting this to make her be in the wrong. It seems like pride to me when you keep mentioning your financial abilities and how you don't need anything from anyone else because you are well-off. I mean do you seriously think like this every time you receive a gift?
 
Originally posted by: rbV5
I get the fealing most of you think people are crazy because they say things like "God told me to" and you assume that they literally mean that. God doesn't audibly speak to people any more than he appears in your grilled cheese sandwhich. A lot of religious people will use a phrase like that to indicate a strong desire to be a blessing to some person they feel compassion for. Unfortunately, it seems as if you couldn't see passed the religious part of her generosity and be grateful for an act of heart.
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Sorry, I don't agree...she sounds nutty and you sound nutty for defending her like "you know".


She said that because God told her to do this then she had to give it to me.
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What the hell are you talking about? Did you even think about what I said? 😕
 
Originally posted by: RapidSnail
Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
First of all, I don't need charity. I especially don't need charity in the form of a $40 Macy's gift card.
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Gifts aren't given because "you don't need them;" they are given as an act of kindness.

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Surely, God knows that so I'm not sure where she came up with this "he told me to give it to you." Perhaps it was a bad game of telephone???
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Why are you so literal about this? You act like she just dials a number and gets a command. She mentioned God because her faith is what motivated her to try to be helpful.

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Secondly, I agree that it was generous act. I never said it wasn't. But I don't want or especially need anybody's financial contributions.
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It seems as if you're saying she was doing this as an insult to your income. You don't receive gifts come Christmas time or on your birthday or any other time because you financial situation is slipping away. Likewise, this lady felt like performing an act of benevolence to you totally seperated from your money making capabilities. The right thing to do would be to understand her intent, thank her, and move on. Give the card away if it was that insulting.

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
I make a living just fine on my own and she knows this as we've worked together for about 8 years. She should have just bought something herself and donated it to a local homeless shelter. I'm not quite sure why God didn't tell her that instead. 😕
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Again, it appears as if you're twisting this to make her be in the wrong. It seems like pride to me when you keep mentioning your financial abilities and how you don't need anything from anyone else because you are well-off. I mean do you seriously think like this every time you receive a gift?
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OK, I get that you don't agree with me on this. :laugh:
 
Hey Smoochy, sorry but God told me to crap in your thread.

Edit: You can always take the gift card to Macy's and buy her a present with it. Then leave it on her desk when she's not around with a note that sais

Keep up the good work.

Your Friend,
God

Hehe. She'll either figure out that you really couldn't accept her gift or she'll freak out thinking she's the chosen one. Either way you don't owe her anything. She's not a scientologist is she(a la Will Smith thread)?
 
God is concerned with micromanaging our economy?


Let's hope "god" doesn't tell her to do anything bad.

"God told me that I need to take your testicles and keep them in my refrigerator. He also said that a chef's knife would be best, and that anesthetic is the work of Satan."
 
Originally posted by: Saulbadguy
Maybe you misheard her, perhaps she said "Bob"? Do you work with a Bob?
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lol.


Originally posted by: FoBoT
Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

So ATOT, how would you have handled it?
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FoBoT: Gee Whiz, Thanks! I didn't get you anything 🙁
nutbag: You are welcome, God Bless you. 🙂

<FoBoT goes to Macy's and buys a shirt>

The End
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Yep, that's the way to go I think.


Originally posted by: hanoverphist
Originally posted by: kranky
I have had the same experience (from the giving side, not the OP's).
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god told you to give a coworker a $40 macys gift card?
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I am going to assume he means a similar situation. I have done the same, I just felt called to help someone out. I don't pity them, I love them and want to share with them what I have been blessed with. As RapidSnail said, do you give people B-day gifts because you pity them and think they need financial assistance?


I can't even begin to address ZV's problems, holy crap.

 
Speaker + wireless mic + your deepest Morgan Freeman-esque voice = you getting laid by the fundy.


Edit: Does she know you're gay? If so, maybe she's trying to share "God's love" with you even though you're a sodomite.
 
Originally posted by: RapidSnail
Originally posted by: rbV5
I get the fealing most of you think people are crazy because they say things like "God told me to" and you assume that they literally mean that. God doesn't audibly speak to people any more than he appears in your grilled cheese sandwhich. A lot of religious people will use a phrase like that to indicate a strong desire to be a blessing to some person they feel compassion for. Unfortunately, it seems as if you couldn't see passed the religious part of her generosity and be grateful for an act of heart.
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Sorry, I don't agree...she sounds nutty and you sound nutty for defending her like "you know".


She said that because God told her to do this then she had to give it to me.
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What the hell are you talking about? Did you even think about what I said? 😕
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Did YOU even think about what you said?

Did YOU?

I'm talking about her INSISTANCE that God TOLD her. She told the OP twice, once while she was attempting to give it to the OP, and then bringing to point home by emphasising the fact that she was TOLD, so she HAD to. Why wouldn't she take no for an answer? God told her not to?

Sorry, but it all sounds nutty, even more so with your nutty little sermon. You act like people walk around unfamiliar with people of faith. I think people can recognize a zealot when they see one, and people are put-off by people that shove their dogma in their face.

You give her qualities of "compassion, love, generosity" simply because of her use of the word "God", and of course, pass your moral judgement on the OP...how predictable.

We live in world in which religion is increasingly associated with societal harmfulness and intellectual stagnation.
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Gee, do you realy wonder why with the "Holy War" in the middle east, scandalous behaviour of religious figures and the Priesthood, politicians using religion as a tool to spead their agenda and the attack of science and academia as a whole in the Bible Belt?

 
Originally posted by: thepd7
I can't even begin to address ZV's problems, holy crap.
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So you're saying that if someone you barely knew gave you essentially cash out of the blue, you would not feel indebted to them? That's just sad.

It's one thing for a friend or family member to give a gift because they know about you and they knew the item would be significant. And it's one thing for someone to give a gift as a means of recognizing when a you have gone above and beyond to help something that he or she is working on. But for a person who is essentially a stranger to give you a gift for no reason? How can a self-reliant, self-respecting, human being not feel indebted in that situation?

Giving anything to someone you don't know, for no reason, is presumptuous.

Let's face it, this woman did not give the OP the gift card out of the goodness of her heart. She gave it to him in order to make herself feel good. She didn't care one bit about how awkward it is for someone to take un-necessary charity. All she cared about was making herself feel all warm and fuzzy inside because she had done "god's work".

The "gift" was not a gift. It was given for selfish ends and its only purpose was to make the giver feel better about herself.

Would I have taken it? Yes. Would I have been gracious about it to the giver's face? Absolutely. It's only basic self-interest to keep up appearances around those you have to work with, no matter how nutty they are. But that's not going to keep me from calling a spade a spade when the giver's not around.

ZV
 
Originally posted by: Zenmervolt
Originally posted by: thepd7
I can't even begin to address ZV's problems, holy crap.
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So you're saying that if someone you barely knew gave you essentially cash out of the blue, you would not feel indebted to them? That's just sad.

It's one thing for a friend or family member to give a gift because they know about you and they knew the item would be significant. And it's one thing for someone to give a gift as a means of recognizing when a you have gone above and beyond to help something that he or she is working on. But for a person who is essentially a stranger to give you a gift for no reason? How can a self-reliant, self-respecting, human being not feel indebted in that situation?

Giving anything to someone you don't know, for no reason, is presumptuous.

Let's face it, this woman did not give the OP the gift card out of the goodness of her heart. She gave it to him in order to make herself feel good. She didn't care one bit about how awkward it is for someone to take un-necessary charity. All she cared about was making herself feel all warm and fuzzy inside because she had done "god's work".

The "gift" was not a gift. It was given for selfish ends and its only purpose was to make the giver feel better about herself.

Would I have taken it? Yes. Would I have been gracious about it to the giver's face? Absolutely. It's only basic self-interest to keep up appearances around those you have to work with, no matter how nutty they are. But that's not going to keep me from calling a spade a spade when the giver's not around.

ZV
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I completely understand what you're saying.

The difference between the OP and, for example, Kranky.. was that he knew of a situation, and was able to offer help.

In the OP's case, assuming he doesn't know this woman at all - other than they work in the same building - it would be a little more like ZV presents it.

 
Originally posted by: Throckmorton
Speaker + wireless mic + your deepest Morgan Freeman-esque voice = you getting laid by the fundy.

Edit: Does she know you're gay? If so, maybe she's trying to share "God's love" with you even though you're a sodomite.
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I'm not gay.

Originally posted by: Eli
Originally posted by: Zenmervolt
Originally posted by: thepd7
I can't even begin to address ZV's problems, holy crap.
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So you're saying that if someone you barely knew gave you essentially cash out of the blue, you would not feel indebted to them? That's just sad.

It's one thing for a friend or family member to give a gift because they know about you and they knew the item would be significant. And it's one thing for someone to give a gift as a means of recognizing when a you have gone above and beyond to help something that he or she is working on. But for a person who is essentially a stranger to give you a gift for no reason? How can a self-reliant, self-respecting, human being not feel indebted in that situation?

Giving anything to someone you don't know, for no reason, is presumptuous.

Let's face it, this woman did not give the OP the gift card out of the goodness of her heart. She gave it to him in order to make herself feel good. She didn't care one bit about how awkward it is for someone to take un-necessary charity. All she cared about was making herself feel all warm and fuzzy inside because she had done "god's work".

The "gift" was not a gift. It was given for selfish ends and its only purpose was to make the giver feel better about herself.

Would I have taken it? Yes. Would I have been gracious about it to the giver's face? Absolutely. It's only basic self-interest to keep up appearances around those you have to work with, no matter how nutty they are. But that's not going to keep me from calling a spade a spade when the giver's not around.

ZV
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I completely understand what you're saying.

The difference between the OP and, for example, Kranky.. was that he knew of a situation, and was able to offer help.

In the OP's case, assuming he doesn't know this woman at all - other than they work in the same building - it would be a little more like ZV presents it.
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I do know this lady and I have known her for 7-8 years. We live in the same area of town and a few times over the years have taken each other to work. She tells me about her family, etc. We're not strangers -- we've worked in offices next to each other for years. We're close to the same age (she's a few years older than me I think). I would not consider us friends though -- just co-workers.

The thing was, I was caught completely off guard by her doing this. There was no reason for her to do this (I'm not going through hard times or anything). If she'd wanted to just give it to me, she could have but instead said that "God told her to do it".

But I definitely agree with Zen when he said that she only did it to feel good about herself doing God's work. Thus my confusion on why I was picked instead of somebody who really needs help.
 
Everyone is giving the OP a hard time, but it will not be funny when his relationship with this co-worker becomes:

IT RUBS THE LOTION ON ITS SKIN OR ELSE IT GETS THE HOSE AGAIN!
NOW IT PLACES THE LOTION IN THE BASKET.
NOW IT PLACES THE LOTION IN THE BASKET.
PUT THE FVCKING LOTION IN THE BASKET!
 
I would have told her that God told me that he/she hates Macy's. Thus, if her god told her to give me a Macy's card, her god cannot be the true god, and is probably the devil. Ergo, she worships the devil.
 
I don't know what's funnier. The OP's situation, or the fact that 90% of the posters in this thread think the OP is a male, and keep putting her in male on female situations.
 
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