Wow...just wow..

[Baked]

Sometimes the most normal people are the most likely to commit suicide. There are people who keep it all inside and then there are those to let it all out. I am and prefer the latter. Sigh...

 

[Jeff7]

Originally posted by: BlinderBomber

Originally posted by: PaulNEPats

Originally posted by: Fritzo
Good lord...amazing how people can't deal with problems. So sad.

It's hard to understand until you've walked a mile in their shoes.

I'm glad someone else said it.

Yeah. It is interesting how insensitive too people can be when they hear about someone being in the grips of depression. Common things to hear might be "oh, get over it." To which the depressed person just feels like screaming "Goddammit, don't you think I WANT to get over it, dipsh!t?!?!?" Like you actually want to be depressed all your life.

But depression can bring with it a sense of despair. So you're depressed, and you have no hope of anything better outside of your depression, so you just feel like there's no point to getting help, because by your own view, there IS nothing better out there. Fighting depression is a long process that can take a significant investment of time, money, and effort. Knowing that, and thinking that there's no hope for anything better = no point in making the investment in a cure. That can be part of the reason contributing to a decision of suicide - it seems like it is the one and only way to finally end the suffering.

For this reason too, those with deep depression might not want suicidal feelings known. Tell someone, and they say, unintentionally insensitively, "Oh boo hoo, stop whining," well that sure hurts to hear when you're already feeling down. So you think that that's what's going to happen if you speak up about what's deeply troubling you, so you tell no one.

Even worries that if anyone finds out that you are suicidal, that they'll lock you up in a hospital or something like that, so you can't hurt yourself. Then, the one last thing that you do feel in control of - your control over your own existence - is taken away from you.

This seems odd to me. None of them wanted to go down there? If you thought someone you loved might had tried to shoot themselves, wouldn't the first instinct be to run to that person as fast as you could (with the phone in one hand calling 911)..?

No, not really. You have an argument with someone, then they go downstairs by themselves, and you hear a gunshot. You'd be hesitant to go down there because you fear what you might see next.
That's why no one would really want to just rush down after hearing the gunshot.

 

[timosyy]

My friend's father committed suicide last year. No warning, no notes... 3 kids (two in high school, one newly born), large house, good community, 4 cars... he just walked out one night and decided it wasn't worth living anymore.

*sigh*

These are the things that make you really wonder.

My condolensces.

 

[czech09]

Originally posted by: timosyy
My friend's father committed suicide last year. No warning, no notes... 3 kids (two in high school, one newly born), large house, good community, 4 cars... he just walked out one night and decided it wasn't worth living anymore.

*sigh*

These are the things that make you really wonder.

My condolensces.

Agreed.

 

[timosyy]

And since someone posted Jimmy Eat World - Hear You Me earlier in the thread...

Savatage- Alone You Breathe

You believed in things that I will never know
You were out there drowning but it never showed
Till inside a rainswept night you just let go

...

You've thrown it all away
And now we'll never see the ending to the play
The grand design, the final line
And what was meant to be

...

Tomorrow and after
You tell me what am I to do
I stand here believing
That in the dark there is a clue

 

[grrl]

My condolences atybimf.

I'm living in Korea right now and it amazes me how common suicide is here. In the last week I've heard of almost a dozen people who have committed suicide. Actually, one was a family of 4 murder-suicide deal - father was $200k in debt. The son of a professor at my school killed himself at the beginning of the week, in another city 4 college students checked into a hotel room and offed themselves, another dude killed himself because he was $20k in debt and two women killed themselves along with him for unknown reasons. It's absolutely f*cked up.

 

[atybimf]

Originally posted by: fatty4ksu
Any article about this?

The online Obitiuary hasn't been updated yet.

Thanks to everyone for the support. His funeral was today. About the whole town was there I imagine.