With such a high divorce rate why are so many people getting married?

[Amplifier]

My dad had four brothers and between them there have been four divorces. I've heard the divorces rate is between 50 and 62 percent. So why are people getting married especially without a prenup.

Is it because you're considered a loser if you aren't married?
Is it because people think it's the right thing to do?
Is it that parents pressure their kids into marriage?

I've been seeing the same girl for half a year now but I wouldn't even think about marrying her. Even if you love the girl and want to spend the rest of your life together why get married?

 

[Skunkwourk]

you'll never know unless you try...

 

[SirChadwick]

Originally posted by: Amplifier
My dad had four brothers and between them there have been four divorces. I've heard the divorces rate is between 50 and 62 percent. So why are people getting married especially without a prenup.

Is it because you're considered a loser if you aren't married?
Is it because people think it's the right thing to do?
Is it that parents pressure their kids into marriage?

I've been seeing the same girl for half a year now but I wouldn't even think about marrying her. Even if you love the girl and want to spend the rest of your life together why get married?

B/C it's what women want.

 

[SVT Cobra]

Its because people fall in love in our society and move too quickly. No ones thinks they are going to get a divorce when they get married.

 

[DivideBYZero]

If you have to ask...

 

[dullard]

Amplifier, you have a 100% chance of dying. So why did you even bother to be born. You have a 100% chance of getting rid of your car / computer / stereo / whatever, so why do you even bother to buy them in the first place?

Life isn't about the final outcome, life is about the process. The marriage process is very wonderful even if it ends badly. I myself got married, wife cheated, I divorced her. No need for a prenup here because by law everything is split 50/50 in Nebraska, split to the penny. I'm excited to someday get married again. The benefits of marriage are worth it.

 

[Ika]

Originally posted by: DivideBYZero
If you have to ask...

 

[BobDaMenkey]

So many people getting married is what helps keep the divorce rate high. So maybe it's more of a question as to why people are getting divorced so frequently/quickly?

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: Amplifier
My dad had four brothers and between them there have been four divorces. I've heard the divorces rate is between 50 and 62 percent. So why are people getting married especially without a prenup.

Is it because you're considered a loser if you aren't married?
Is it because people think it's the right thing to do?
Is it that parents pressure their kids into marriage?

I've been seeing the same girl for half a year now but I wouldn't even think about marrying her. Even if you love the girl and want to spend the rest of your life together why get married?

Are your parents still married?
I think the chances of you divorcing your wife/husband are greater if your parents did the same. You just find it acceptable. My parents have been married for 30 years....So, to answer your question, some people still believe in marriage and everything it means.

 

[Kobota]

because people are sure that it is not going to be them that gets divorced:roll:, just like the other 50% thought.

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: Amplifier
My dad had four brothers and between them there have been four divorces. I've heard the divorces rate is between 50 and 62 percent. So why are people getting married especially without a prenup.

Is it because you're considered a loser if you aren't married?
Is it because people think it's the right thing to do?
Is it that parents pressure their kids into marriage?

I've been seeing the same girl for half a year now but I wouldn't even think about marrying her. Even if you love the girl and want to spend the rest of your life together why get married?

Only way to start a family... financial benefits... Love... Commitment... a partner in crime

What's not to understand? I think the reason marriages fail so much now is because people don't take them seriously, and are too selfish... I'm getting married in October...

I see my marriage as the commitment to work on the relationship from now til the day I die...

when I honestly look at my own mortality, the fact that I only get one go around at life.... this is without a doubt the woman I want my one life to be with.

-Max

 

[JS80]

for the poon duh

 

[GasX]

Eliminate the people who are married multiple times and the numbers change.

Do you want to have a marriage that lasts? Don't get married until you have been with a person for a couple of years and wait as long as you can handle. The older you are when you get married, the better your chances for a succesful union - something to do with maturity...

 

[mordantmonkey]

They are trying to get in now before it's ruined by the gays. <--- SARCASM

DISCLAMER: this post is entirely sarcastic, i apologize if this went undetected and anyone, homosexual or otherwise, took offense. unless you took offense because you did pick up on the sarcasm and you are a bigoted homophobe, in which case i have no problem offending you.

 

[Baked]

Because men are synonymous w/ sex fiends and women are synonymous w/ gold diggers. Oh, and everybody's shallow.

 

[DougK62]

Because people's attitudes have changed. Everyone is in a "me first" mentality. It wasn't like this many years ago when my parents got married...

 

[FallenHero]

too many people get married for the wrong reasons. Personally, I hope to marry my best friend. If we can never tire of each other and make each day interesting, then its worth it. It's also gonna take some effort, but I'm tired of the dating game. I want kids, I want to be able to come home and listen to someone bitch while I bitch at the same time. I want to be able to coach my kids soccer team. I want to experience everything life has to offer me.

And no, it's not an all me attitude. I want to make the person I marry happy and support her regardless of her choices. It takes some sacrafice, but its not one that she would ask me to do...I would do it out of love and committment to make things work.

 

[SirChadwick]

Originally posted by: dullard
Amplifier, you have a 100% chance of dying. So why did you even bother to be born. You have a 100% chance of getting rid of your car / computer / stereo / whatever, so why do you even bother to buy them in the first place?

Life isn't about the final outcome, life is about the process. The marriage process is very wonderful even if it ends badly. I myself got married, wife cheated, I divorced her. No need for a prenup here because by law everything is split 50/50 in Nebraska, split to the penny. I'm excited to someday get married again. The benefits of marriage are worth it.

Wow, how did it work out for you to only get 50% of everything when SHE is the one who cheated? If a guy cheats on a woman and it ends in divorce, doesn't he lose everything?

 

[Strk]

I'd say a lot of people are pressured into it, especially in the south. One thing is for sure, those who put off marriage tend not to get divorced later on. If you ever look up marriage/divorce statistics, one thing you'll notice quickly is that the lower the median marriage age, the higher the divorce rate. And the higher median marriage age, the lower the divorce rate. Age is a tremendous factor.

Also, if you look up the divorce rates for the country, you'll see a bit of irony on who is the lowest and who is the highest

 

[Specop 007]

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You tell me.

 

[dullard]

Originally posted by: SirChadwick
Wow, how did it work out for you to only get 50% of everything when SHE is the one who cheated? If a guy cheats on a woman and it ends in divorce, doesn't he lose everything?

Not in Nebraska. Nebraska is a no-fault state for divorce. Anyone can get divorced at any time for any reason. Conversely, whatever reason you have doesn't matter because your reasoning isn't considered by the court as evidence.

The only time reasons for the divorce is considered by the courts is if you are fighting for child custody and the reasons could endanger the child. But even then, the financial parts are split 50/50.

 

[broon]

The divorce rate is not that high.

 

[shortylickens]

Originally posted by: F22 Raptor
Its because people fall in love in our society and move too quickly. No ones thinks they are going to get a divorce when they get married.

Thats what I was gonna say.
They all think it wont happen to them. And they wouldnt even bother if they thought it would lead to divorce.

I am one of the handful of smart people who knows damn well it will happen.
I really dont want to be married ever. I can be happy with a nice girl and leave it at that.
But so many of my married and divorced friends say that the girl will get antsy, and then I have to make a choice one way or the other.

 

[Garet Jax]

Originally posted by: FallenHero
...It's also gonna take some effort...

...It takes some sacrafice...

These are the reasons people divorce - they underestimate how much work it takes to stay together. It is one of the most difficult things any one will do. They only thing more difficult is raising kids.

The reason why people do it is because the payout is so great. The reward for fighting through all the obstacles is second only to those you experience while raising kids.

 

[iroast]

Relationships take alot of work to keep them healthy. Communication + financial stability are the two key factors. If either one or both break down, you're in trouble. The reward, however, is priceless.