With such a high divorce rate why are so many people getting married?

[dr150]

Because people confuse extreme lust for love and get married sooner rather than later.

What kids should do is shack up with each other for about 2-3 years as the ultimate litmus test of whether you'll be happy with each other long term-wise.

Divorces were lower when people listened to their religions, but now liberal attitudes has whittled down homage to church dogma rules.

 

[IGBT]

..they fail because they're making judgements and decisions based on feelings rather then thinking things thru.

 

[meltdown75]

Why get married? Not even going to waste time answering that one. You'll get 100 different answers from 100 different people. There's no one "reason". Everyone has different motives for what they do.

My hypothesis on the high divorce rates is that people's motives are messed up when it comes to marriage. Sally marries John because she wants a house and car and everything that John's wallet can provide. John marries Sally because he is madly in love with her and wants her to birth his children. Unfortunately, Sally didn't sew enough of her wild oats before she met John, so she starts sucking off the milkman. John did all his partying and whoring around earlier in life, so he's cool with a steady peice of snatch and he's glad that it's Sally. And of course, the situation is often reversed, where the guy is getting a peice of ass on the side. And on and on, yadda yadda boom divorce. So many different people, and countless scenarios.

Basically when the two people have different motives and inspiration for marriage, there could be trouble. The ones that last are those with good communication, and with each person plainly laying out what they want from life, and how the other person can help them achieve it. *imho*

 

[ruffilb]

Originally posted by: Kobota
because people are sure that it is not going to be them that gets divorced:roll:, just like the other 50% thought.

 

[OrganizedChaos]

because a 50% divorce rate dosen't demean the sanctity of marrige nearly as much as gays marrying. so that makes it ok.

<-- lives in mass. mass usually has lowest divorce rate by state, but were considered the heathens.

<-obvious troll

 

[Strk]

Originally posted by: OrganizedChaos
because a 50% divorce rate dosen't demean the sanctity of marrige nearly as much as gays marrying. so that makes it ok.

<-- lives in mass. mass usually has lowest divorce rate by state, but were considered the heathens.

<-obvious troll

We're quite a bit lower than many other states

(It's a PDF)

 

[JS80]

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: SirChadwick
Wow, how did it work out for you to only get 50% of everything when SHE is the one who cheated? If a guy cheats on a woman and it ends in divorce, doesn't he lose everything?

Not in Nebraska. Nebraska is a no-fault state for divorce. Anyone can get divorced at any time for any reason. Conversely, whatever reason you have doesn't matter because your reasoning isn't considered by the court as evidence.

The only time reasons for the divorce is considered by the courts is if you are fighting for child custody and the reasons could endanger the child. But even then, the financial parts are split 50/50.

even with a prenup?

 

[Fenixgoon]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome

Originally posted by: Amplifier
My dad had four brothers and between them there have been four divorces. I've heard the divorces rate is between 50 and 62 percent. So why are people getting married especially without a prenup.

Is it because you're considered a loser if you aren't married?
Is it because people think it's the right thing to do?
Is it that parents pressure their kids into marriage?

I've been seeing the same girl for half a year now but I wouldn't even think about marrying her. Even if you love the girl and want to spend the rest of your life together why get married?

Are your parents still married?
I think the chances of you divorcing your wife/husband are greater if your parents did the same. You just find it acceptable. My parents have been married for 30 years....So, to answer your question, some people still believe in marriage and everything it means.

qft, my parents are going on 30 years this september... people just dont place enough important on marriage anymore.. it's like "you've ONLY been divorced once?" as if one divorce is the average (sadly, it is beginning to become just that).

 

[dullard]

Originally posted by: JS80
even with a prenup?

I honestly don't know how prenups enter that part of the equation in this state. In Nebraska you can (a) agree yourself on how to split the items/money or (b) let the courts do it for you. I choose route (a). I didn't have a prenup which is just coming to that agreement before you get married instead of before you get divorced. However, even if you do (a), the judge has final say.

 

[CKent]

<generic comment about people being stupid>

 

[Ausm]

I was thinking with the wrong head in my case.


Ausm

 

[desy]

Statistically
married over age 25 80% stay together
21-25 - 50%
under 21 - 80% divorce rate

 

[Strk]

Originally posted by: Fenixgoon

Originally posted by: krunchykrome

Originally posted by: Amplifier
My dad had four brothers and between them there have been four divorces. I've heard the divorces rate is between 50 and 62 percent. So why are people getting married especially without a prenup.

Is it because you're considered a loser if you aren't married?
Is it because people think it's the right thing to do?
Is it that parents pressure their kids into marriage?

I've been seeing the same girl for half a year now but I wouldn't even think about marrying her. Even if you love the girl and want to spend the rest of your life together why get married?

Are your parents still married?
I think the chances of you divorcing your wife/husband are greater if your parents did the same. You just find it acceptable. My parents have been married for 30 years....So, to answer your question, some people still believe in marriage and everything it means.

qft, my parents are going on 30 years this september... people just dont place enough important on marriage anymore.. it's like "you've ONLY been divorced once?" as if one divorce is the average (sadly, it is beginning to become just that).

Out of curiousity, how old were they when they got married?

 

[Playmaker]

Originally posted by: desy
Statistically
married over age 25 80% stay together
21-25 - 50%
under 21 - 80% divorce rate

Source?

 

[desy]

Statistics Canada Census data
our divorce rate is slightly less than the US at 1/3 of marriages failing instead of 1/2 like the US but culturally we are pretty much the same.
Bottom line is the more mature you are the more likely you can avoid a bad marriage and work on any issues.
What so magical about that? It was a module in my University sociology class

 

[Shadowknight]

People have an over-romanticised view of marriage in part due to the media, and they also think they for a long-term relationship, with or without children, the only way to stay together is that they HAVE to get married to guarantted permanence, or to not look bad in public due to "living in sin." Some people who feel fine in an exclusive relationship aren't able to deal with marriage because they feel they are "trapped" since they are in a binding contract by both religious and legal standards. The ease and social acceptability of divorce in modern times make it less "shameful" compared to previous times as well as an easy out if they don't like how things are going, as opposed to working to make the relationship work by such methods as oh, say, TALKING TO THEIR SPOUSE or even going to marriage counseling.

 

[Fox5]

Because it only takes a few months to decide to get married and a day to get married, but then you have the rest of your life to decide to get divorced.

Marriage is an outmoded concept that few have the willpower to see through anymore.

 

[Strk]

Originally posted by: Playmaker

Originally posted by: desy
Statistically
married over age 25 80% stay together
21-25 - 50%
under 21 - 80% divorce rate

Source?

Link

I don't really feel like looking hard, but this site uses the CDC for its source, so I assume it's accurate.

 

[MustangSVT]

LMAO that's the stupid question of the day. thanx


with 100% fatality rate, why do you bother living? :roll:

 

[Gravity]

Originally posted by: JS80
for the poon duh

Ha! The p00n tends to dry up after marriage. ask me how I know.....

Gravity

 

[Modular]

Originally posted by: Kobota
because people are sure that it is not going to be them that gets divorced:roll:, just like the other 50% thought.

This is where you are wrong.

The majority of people who get divorced went into marriage because they had divorce as their trump card. If you truly believe that marriage is a one-time thing (barring cheating/death), then you will make it work. Otherwise you were too weak of a person to get married in the first place.

So basically what I am saying is that people need to grow up and take responsibility for their actions. When you get married, you stay married.

 

[Liviathan]

Originally posted by: F22 Raptor
Its because people fall in love in our society and move too quickly. No ones thinks they are going to get a divorce when they get married.

I do. That's why I walked away from a long relationship last year. I have no desire to get married. Not for me. She kept asking me why wouldn't get married and I told her, it doesn't solve anything for me. So it's better she finds someone that will give her what she wants.

But I always said, whats the point of marriage when you are just going to end up in divorce. Sorry if that bothers people, but i'm a realist.

 

[dullard]

Originally posted by: Liviathan
I do. That's why I walked away from a long relationship last year. I have no desire to get married. Not for me. She kept asking me why wouldn't get married and I told her, it doesn't solve anything for me. So it's better she finds someone that will give her what she wants.

But I always said, whats the point of marriage when you are just going to end up in divorce. Sorry if that bothers people, but i'm a realist.

What is the point of being BF/GF for a long time if all you are going to do is break up? Just skip the thing entirely and you'll be better off.

Why get married?
[*]Expression: To express your love publically, legally, and spiritually.
[*]Excitement: To have a fun day on your wedding.
[*]Profit: Make a killing off of wedding gifts (don't be stupid and pay more for the wedding/reception than you get in gifts).
[*]Taxes: To save thousands on your tax bills. While there is a marriage penalty, that is rare and only for the rich. But there is a marriage benefit which is common, massive, and helps almost everyone. You automatically can inherit gifts from your wife/husband tax free. Good luck ever getting a thing from your BF/GF and then expect to pay taxes.
[*]Approval: To live your life legally, meet your religions requirements, and to have your grandmother smile.
[*]Hospitals: You can visit your wife/husband in the hospital emergency room, you can't visit your long term BF/GF.
[*]Commitment: Your BF/GF wants it, why don't you want to make him/her happy?
[*]Financial: Paperwork such as mortgages, etc. give you a lot more flexibility if you are married.
[*]Etc.

There are hundreds of significant and strong reasons to get married. There is absolutely no good reason not to get married if you are in a good, strong relationship. In the worst case, you file for divorce and split your items. If you are in a long term relationship you have the same pain, the same item splitting, etc that a divorce has.

 

[SVT Cobra]

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: Liviathan
I do. That's why I walked away from a long relationship last year. I have no desire to get married. Not for me. She kept asking me why wouldn't get married and I told her, it doesn't solve anything for me. So it's better she finds someone that will give her what she wants.

But I always said, whats the point of marriage when you are just going to end up in divorce. Sorry if that bothers people, but i'm a realist.

What is the point of being BF/GF for a long time if all you are going to do is break up? Just skip the thing entirely and you'll be better off.

Why get married?
[*]Expression: To express your love publically, legally, and spiritually.
[*]Excitement: To have a fun day on your wedding.
[*]Profit: Make a killing off of wedding gifts (don't be stupid and pay more for the wedding/reception than you get in gifts).
[*]Taxes: To save thousands on your tax bills. While there is a marriage penalty, that is rare and only for the rich. But there is a marriage benefit which is common, massive, and helps almost everyone. You automatically can inherit gifts from your wife/husband tax free. Good luck ever getting a thing from your BF/GF and then expect to pay taxes.
[*]Approval: To live your life legally, meet your religions requirements, and to have your grandmother smile.
[*]Hospitals: You can visit your wife/husband in the hospital emergency room, you can't visit your long term BF/GF.
[*]Commitment: Your BF/GF wants it, why don't you want to make him/her happy?
[*]Financial: Paperwork such as mortgages, etc. give you a lot more flexibility if you are married.
[*]Etc.

There are hundreds of significant and strong reasons to get married. There is absolutely no good reason not to get married if you are in a good, strong relationship. In the worst case, you file for divorce and split your items. If you are in a long term relationship you have the same pain, the same item splitting, etc that a divorce has.

:thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup:

Absolutely. If I was in a strong loving relationship and we had been together long enough, I wouldn't hesitate to consider marriage.

 

[T9D]

I think the women are raising the divorce percentage now adays. They know they can just give up and start over with someone else and take the guy for all kinds of money and assets. So there is a lot less motivation for sticking it out.