Why do so many people think money = women??

[MrSquished]

I'm not interested in a very awkward horrible rejection

I'm not trying to make anybody feel awkward

Then stay single. You don't have to be a giant douche to approach women in the real world, you can make those guys look bad by actually being a chill nice guy and doing it. Then it won't be awkward. That will make you stand out from the crowd once they get to know you.

 

[ClarityZedd]

Hmmm! Maybe you should think along the lines of "What does Steven Hawking have that I don't have?". Didn't he have two marriages and three kids?

the struggle is finding someone who is a quality prospect all around

I've had many many many many women who were heavily into me but they all had kids, weren't cute in face, weren't in shape, were too old for me, etc...

 

[ClarityZedd]

Then stay single. You don't have to be a giant douche to approach women in the real world, you can make those guys look bad by actually being a chill nice guy and doing it. Then it won't be awkward. That will make you stand out from the crowd once they get to know you.

hot girl at a gym with headphones on (99% of them never want to be approached) or hot girl at a bar with 8 of her friends there

explain to me how you approach in that situation without it being horribly awkward and excruciating?

 

[Ns1]

I'm not interested in a very awkward horrible rejection

I'm not trying to make anybody feel awkward

LOL bro you're going to be masturbating for a long time.

 

[Ns1]

hot girl at a gym with headphones on (99% of them never want to be approached) or hot girl at a bar with 8 of her friends there

explain to me how you approach in that situation without it being horribly awkward and excruciating?

you wait for them outside the gym and then follow them home. duh.

 

[ClarityZedd]

you wait for them outside the gym and then follow them home. duh.

You funny guy you

 

[Herr Kutz]

- very successful both in terms of how much I make and how well I manage finances

.....70,000 luxury sports sedan,....I vacation 8 times a year and go out to the best bars/clubs/restaurants/concerts/sports events/festivals in the area.

 

[Ns1]

 

[ClarityZedd]

I've been making 150K since I was 22. My house is paid for almost, car is paid for, everything else is paid for, I contribute the maximum 15% to my 401K and still save a decent amount per month

I hope to retire by 50

 

[Red Storm]

OP states he has no flaws, and blames everyone else around him.

Can you really not see that you might be the problem? Being able to identify and accept your own flaws is one of many important character traits. If you can't do that, then I am not surprised by your perceived predicament.

 

[Herr Kutz]

I've been making 150K since I was 22. My house is paid for almost, car is paid for, everything else is paid for, I contribute the maximum 15% to my 401K and still save a decent amount per month

I hope to retire by 50

15% of what? 15% of 185k is greater than the maximum yearly contribution to a 401k set by the IRS.

 

[ClarityZedd]

OP states he has no flaws, and blames everyone else around him.

Can you really not see that you might be the problem? Being able to identify and accept your own flaws is one of many important character traits. If you can't do that, then I am not surprised by your perceived predicament.

here's the thing- it's not like I get dates and relationships and screw it up by being a douchebag

I never even get an opportunity to showcase what kind of a person I am with anybody halfway decent.

 

[ClarityZedd]

15% of what? 15% of 185k is greater than the maximum yearly contribution to a 401k set by the IRS.

I tell them to take out whatever the max is. I have it set up at 15% but I'm sure it gets cut off in fall when I hit the max possible amount

 

[madoka]

I'm 29 and I'm on track to make 185K this year while living in a relatively cheap area (you can buy a beautiful 3000 sqr foot house for 350K). I have all the trappings of success - 70,000 luxury sports sedan, a very nice house by myself (only dude in subdivision anywhere near my age), I dress super super sharp, I vacation 8 times a year and go out to the best bars/clubs/restaurants/concerts/sports events/festivals in the area.

I'm also not bad looking at all - I'm about a 7/10 realistically and clearly workout. Im maybe 5'10 195 and built sorta like an NFL linebacker. Heavily masculine features in the face. Don't get me wrong - I'm no male model but I'm way way above average. i have a great social circle.

I thought maybe Tridentboy until I got to the bolded part.

5'10" = manlet

That's your problem right there.

 

[ClarityZedd]

I thought maybe Tridentboy until I got to the bolded part.

5'10" = manlet

That's your problem right there.

slightly above average height = manlet?

 

[IronWing]

slightly above average height = manlet?

Yep.


This thread can help…

https://forums.anandtech.com/threads/how-amazing-is-it-to-be-tall.2539889/

 

[ClarityZedd]

Yep.


This thread can help…

https://forums.anandtech.com/threads/how-amazing-is-it-to-be-tall.2539889/

lmao

 

[Herr Kutz]

I tell them to take out whatever the max is. I have it set up at 15% but I'm sure it gets cut off in fall when I hit the max possible amount

I have a hard time believing you are financially responsible if you really don't know what's going on with your retirement contributions. Oh, and the 70k car.

 

[deadlyapp]

yes and they all get 5474774744747474747447477888555 messages a day

I'm a good looking dude but I'm gonna be a worthless POS in comparison to the 6'4 male models messaging her. Come on, any decent looking woman on a dating site has standards high as the moon and will want a man who is top 0.00000001% of society.

This isn't true at all. I know plenty of guys who have had success with women (including myself) on dating apps. You'd be surprised how easily most women see through the bullshit on those apps. If you're even reasonably good looking, can hold a conversation, and don't come across as a huge douchebag, you'll find someone.

Also, you claim to have "tons of friends" and "no problem making friends" yet can't find anyone to date? Don't these friends have friends? Aren't some of them bound to be eligible bachelorettes? If they aren't introducing you or mentioning it, then you're fucked, there's something else wrong with you. Maybe you're a friendzone kinda guy. Maybe you give off a gay vibe.

 

[ClarityZedd]

I have a hard time believing you are financially responsible if you really don't know what's going on with your retirement contributions. Oh, and the 70k car.

I bought it slightly used for 50. It's a Lexus so I'm keeping it for a long while

I don't go through cars fast...that's a huge waste of money

 

[ClarityZedd]

This isn't true at all. I know plenty of guys who have had success with women (including myself) on dating apps. You'd be surprised how easily most women see through the bullshit on those apps. If you're even reasonably good looking, can hold a conversation, and don't come across as a huge douchebag, you'll find someone.

Also, you claim to have "tons of friends" and "no problem making friends" yet can't find anyone to date? Don't these friends have friends? Aren't some of them bound to be eligible bachelorettes? If they aren't introducing you or mentioning it, then you're fucked, there's something else wrong with you. Maybe you're a friendzone kinda guy. Maybe you give off a gay vibe.

I want something specific- a 22 to 29 year old girl, cute, fit but curvy, obviously single, decent job, no kids, intelligent, classy

the odds of any of my friends knowing somebody like that are slim to none and slim already left

As far as dating apps go, I'm sure you're having success on them but I strongly doubt you're going for same quality women I'm going for.

 

[ImpulsE69]

Your view of the world and what women want is greatly skewed.

If you did all that to land a model...got news for you, it doesn't work that way. That only works for gold diggers. They may be hot, but most likely once they snort up all your money they'll make you miserable. When it comes to your job and income, you do that for you and you alone. It means absolutely nothing when looking for 'love'. Once you are married, THEN it becomes about supporting someone and you better hope you're happy to be in that position, because in most cases it only goes downhill from there That 10 will work its way to a 5.

Also, maybe it's just me but most girls seem to be spitting out kids before they are 18 these days. If you find one at 25+ w/o a kid, you're lucky.

 

[madoka]

I dress super super sharp, I vacation 8 times a year and go out to the best bars/clubs/restaurants/concerts/sports events/festivals in the area.

I dress like a hobo (I've been mistaken for a homeless person), I have to work every day year round, and I rarely stray away from the dollar menu. But I'm not a manlet, so I win.

 

[sandorski]

Found the solution:

Shoes NSFW

 

[[DHT]Osiris]

I'd bet dollars to donuts you look, talk, and act, exactly like a car salesman.

Also, you're phenomenally conceited.

I'm giving a 4:1 odds on you not actually having worked for what you've earned either. I don't mean you didn't sell cars, I mean you didn't have to work for it. Given that, you don't know what trying means, nor do you know how to understand humility through failure.