Why do I have to get this kind of news at work? While I'm on a call, no less?

[Viper GTS]

For one, she didn't have the stones to do it face-to-face.

That's kinda hard from Oregon to PA. We frequently communicate via e-mail, so it's not all that unusual. The hard part, though, is getting it at work. I still have an hour left, & between shaking, trying not to cry, & trying to do my job I have my hands full.



Viper GTS

 

[Adul]

Sorry about the newz man, that is really is suck.

 

[toph99]

that sucks maybe being at work will keep your mind busy, at least i hope it does. wish it turned out better for ya

and listen to ChrictonsGirl(forgive me if i spelled that incorrectly ) mine two-timed me twice

 

[Hamburgerpimp]

Viper, I suggest you join my thread and grab some drinks. They alcohol is starting to flow in here.

 

[Azraele]

Viper: I read the other thread (link's somewhere here) where you elaborated on what was going on with her. As hard as this is going to sound, I think she was right to leave you. Note: it was NOT your fault. You were committed to her 100% and she was stringing you along while wanting to play around with the other guy. In the long run, she spared you. You were patient with her, and now you're going to have to patient again, since this is going to take time to heal.

Best of luck to you and again, I'm sorry it had to happen. She lost one heck of a catch in you.

 

[XMan]

Viper,

I'm sorry, I didn't realize that it was a LDR. Still, a phone call would have been kinder, and not at work.

 

[Azraele]

<<The hard part, though, is getting it at work. I still have an hour left, &amp; between shaking, trying not to cry, &amp; trying to do my job I have my hands full.>>

Hang in there.

 

[Rich]

I'm really sorry to hear this Viper. I know how you feel. I got the email 2 hours before my birthday from my wife of 16 years. She also happened to be screwing her skydiving instuctor. I still don't know what happened to my life. I'm finally starting to get to the point where I don't almost send the guys wife an email everyday telling her everything that has been going on. Not to mention the husband of the other gal he's involved with. They all want to be Mormans, but don't want their spouses to know. Be glad you broke up fairly early and don't have kids. She did the right thing, although in a Chickensh*t way, by breaking it off if she wasn't as committed to the relationship as you. I believe mine would have let things go along if I hadn't accidentally found out about it. It's going to be really had to trust a woman again for me. I'd trow in some advice, but I need some good advice myself.

Rich

 

[Azraele]

Rich: Sorry to hear about your experience too. I wish I knew what to tell you other than to try to put it behind you and to not blame yourself. Somethimes things like this happen and they stink, but it doesn't make it your fault. Time will help.

 

[Daniel]

Sorry to hear that, it's going to be hard, very hard. My advice, don't try to jump into some rebound thing and think it will help you forget about it. What others said about at least finding out now is true, when you are talking marriage then something happens it is worse, at least you didn't go through with it.
Trust me I had a almost 5 year relationship ended over a phone call, and the person lived 10 mins away, it will be a long hard road but you will be the stronger, smarter person for it.
Daniel

 

[luv2chill]

Sorry Viper...

This too shall pass...

l2c

 

[Rich]

Thanks Azraele, It gets easier everyday. One of the best suggestions I received was from my ex sister-in-law, who my brother cheated on. She said &quot;Just put a little wall around your heart for a while. Get lots of sleep (big help when you finally get to the point you can sleep), and email me often to talk if you need to.&quot; Having friends helps.

Rich

 

[Yuckysgf]

I'm so very sorry, Viper. You'll always find a comforting shoulder here.

I agree with the others. What kind of respectable woman would express her feelings through an e-mail? Not even a phone call.

 

[jeffnoblacks]

Find one not so disrespectful to you. You be better in long way.

 

[konichiwa]

Sorry Vip...:frown:

*hands viper an alchoholic beverage*

Just remember...tomorrow's another day.

 

[FrogDog]

I didn't think it was humanly possible, Viper, But that both sucks, and blows.

 

[skywhr]

Thats super suck, sorry to hear it

 

[Mister T]

Viper, Sarah is right about 1 thing:

That there is definitely someone better for you than her.

Konichiwa, can I have one too? Someone should be drinking with Viper...

 

[flippinfleck]

Viper, I am sorry to hear the news. Just don't dwell on it, go out and hoot n holler at some women at the local meat market. Makes it all go away.

 

[Jumpem]

I'm sorry Viper, this really does suck.

Like everyone else said find a couple friends, and head down to the strip club for a few rum and cokes.

 

[UWDawg]

Same thing happened to me last year with my girlfriend of three years. Felt like someone gutted me. Just don't dwell on it too long or you will never get over it.

 

[Scrapster]

head down to the strip club for a few rum and cokes.

Whoa, didn't think they served alcohol at strip clubs.

 

[Total Refected Power]

Viper:

I think we all saw it coming the other day. Doesn't make it any easier though. But it is for the best.

 

[GL]

Yeah they've got a knack of good timing don't they Sorry to hear about this. But just make sure it's over...don't be like me and let the break up drag on into a break-up &amp; get back-together cycle. And man, don't let her play that guilt trip on you...the wording of that was just so much of a guilt-trip. Treat yourself to something that you wouldn't normally - i.e. new computer part, computer game, weekend vacation, night out on the town. You'll need it...and route any e-mails, ICQ messages, phone calls from her into a temporary holding folder that you'll look at a few days from now...for the time being you need to clear your head and just not communicate with her at all.

-GL

 

[Elita1]

Translation to that email: &quot;Here's one last stab and twist before I go&quot;.
Well she certainly went with a bang, didn't she:frown:
&quot;If I even ever get married&quot;, indeed. Nice touch.
I hate it when women treat good guys like this.

Viper I am so, so sorry!
Time will ease the pain, useless as those words may seem but they are true.
Bless you for being such a decent guy.
I'll keep you in my prayers.