Why do I have to get this kind of news at work? While I'm on a call, no less?

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Wedesdo

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viper is 19 - he can't take alcohol

btw, I feel very sorry for you. :( it must be like a loved one dying...
 

Jumpem

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Viper's 19, but only a few hours from lots of "legal" fun up in Canada.

Once again, I'm really sorry dude.
 

Pretender

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Damn, I had a feeling this wouldn't be a happy thread. My condolenses to you.


BTW, why did the mod edit your thread and not make any visible changes?
 

Viper GTS

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To those who replied...

Thank you for your concern. Being at work in the middle of a 60+ minute call is not the ideal time to get such e-mails. No way to escape, no way to express anything, & leaving isn't an option. This was my only option. I really do appreciate the responses, it helped a lot. For the record, I'm home now, & things are a little clearer. Having had time to think about it, I realize that she's done this many times before. At least three times that I can think of right off the top of my head. If I choose to pursue it further, she'd probably change her mind. She's very fickle that way.

However, my sister posed a very serious question: Do you want to pursue it further? In the state it's in right now, I do not. I'm tired of riding the roller-coaster, one minute she's debating children's names & the next she's wishing her boy toy would invite her over for another make-out session. If a month from now she decides she's through playing games, then I'd definitely re-consider. But for now I think I'm going to write her back (or maybe call her, but that would make things unnecessarily rough) & pretty much say "OK." I don't feel like arguing it, I don't feel like making a big deal out of it. In a way it's almost a relief... I didn't have to do it. She did it for me. I'm not to blame, I kept my promise. Now I get to find somebody else. Not that I want anybody else, I want my best friend. But such is life.

Pretender...

The moderator removed the first word of my subject, which was a slang term for a plea to God to banish this situation to hell.

Oh, and one more thing for the record... I won't be 19 until June. Which brings up a whole 'nother issue... The women who ARE emotionally mature & know what the hell they want wouldn't give me the time of day because of my age. So I'm stuck, really.

Viper GTS
 

NovaTerra

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This was a long time coming. Neither of you are really mature enough (no offense) to make it in a long term relationship right now. Give her credit that she is cutting the cord so that you both do not get hurt. One day you will thank her for setting you free.

Good luck. Consider this a growth experience.
 

fir3wir3

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the longer you mourn about it the longer you're wasting your time man

I know this from many many experiences :(
 

Mister T

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Konichiwa, no worries man, I am 21.
<--- Takes the alchoholic beverage from Viper and hands him a nice big bottle of Robitussen

 

Mday

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viper, you'll get over it.

viper, you'll get over it.

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but you know what, you will. it'll take time...

in all seriousness, viper, can you HONESTLY tell me that you thought that relationship was a life long affair?

anyway, people will tell you to forget about her, but you know what? it doesn't happen readily, and it may not happen at all.

if you want someone to scream to, my PM is available =)

if you want a shoulder to cry on, you have friends.

if you want a buddy to drink with, look elsewhere, i don't drink ;-)

take some time to mourn. take some time to reflect. and when you're through, live on =) it's all we can do, it's what we always do.
 

bigd480

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Hey viper,

i've been readin about your probs lately and I sympathize... went through two similar episodes... one of em lasted 3 years, the other 1...

i am now engaged to someone that is absolutely wonderful and when i look back at the past stuff it makes me realize how lucky i am and that without going through all that previous crap i wouldn't fully appreciate what I do have...

main thing to keep in mind is that you get what you ask for... keep in perspective what you want in a relationship and look for someone who wants the same things...

 

Rich

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A word of hope...
A few weeks after I moved out. I met the most amazing woman. She was about to move to Nebraska (from Oklahoma) for a job. She was giving all her friends hugs. Although I hadn't seen her in two years, she gave me a great hug too. I had needed a hug for a long time. That was the most affection I had been given in a long time. I never expected to see her again. Tonight, my roomie decided I had enough seclusion. After putting together his dual 933 rig, he offered to take me out. Low, and behold, who turns up, but this woman I had a semi-crush on. I haven't dated in over 19 years, but she was too good to pass up. I made my move, and we ended up having a great time dancing, talking, kissing, etc. I'm not sure how I feel about this yet. I can't wait to see her again though. :)

Rich:) :) :)
 

Emulex

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dude you make the big cheese, you will have lots of better wimmen at your service..

remember, its the men who wear the pants, make the cheese around here.

Wimmen always outnumber men, they should be so lucky to have a fly dude like you.

 

GaryTcs

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Viper, sorry she hurt you. Keep busy, and hang out with some other girls. They don't have to be prospective lovers, but nothing cures a heartache like a new woman.
 

Varis

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Hey Viper, I dont know you.. But damn.. that is screwed up.. Trust me .. I can relate to your experience. IT SUCKS!!!! It made me drink when I was 19.. Hey.. if they are old enought to go to war.. I think they are old enough to drink.. at the privacy of their own home at least..
 

warcleric

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Viper: there is a silver lining here.....you are now at rock bottom, you have nothing to lose, go ask out the best looking girl you see in your area right now!!! Like I said what do you have to lose?
 

Lily27

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I'm so sorry Viper. U are such a sweet guy, i'm sure sarah will come to regret her decision. In the meantime i sincerely hope you are able to find another as special as sarah was to you.
 

Optimus

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Viper - maybe she is counting on you pursuing this? In that case it may be time to call her on it - a letter saying basically &quot;If you ever get your life together, call me - but I'm not waiting around in the meantime&quot;. Maybe she needs to honestly face that this isn't another game, this is for real, and she has to choose between remaining immature and you.

I guess what I mean is close the door, but let her know she can knock on it again if she wises up.

Good luck, man - remember that this too shall pass.
 

bigbootydaddy

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man im so sorry, you know you gots my love...



<< My one comfort is that I know there's someone better out there for you >>



i hate when girls think they can think for you and know what you feel. like they are chosing for you. But maybe its cuz im bitter about mine. anyhoo, dont be afraid to let her know how you feel.