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why do i fall for guys who treat me like dirt?!

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<< After listening to Dr. Drew and Adam Corolla (sp?) for over a year, this situation has reared its ugly head a few times. Basically, Pulse8 summed up what Dr. Drew would always say:
<<I'd say it's more a self-esteem issue with you, kat. Sometimes women with low self-esteem will date guys who treat them poorly because they don't feel they deserve better>> >>



and now for adam:

where's daddy?
 


<< why why why cant i just have feelings for someone nice?
 >>


99% of these "nice ones" aren't exactly 'good looking' or 'hot' by most people's standards.

face it, being good looking gets to people, often in a negative way.

give some ugly duckling's a chance and you may be surprised. I don't mean go for a disgusting hideous person but just ...well you know what i mean 😉
 
it's common for girls to look for that extra spark in a relationship, thinking that the added excitement will improve the relationship. For guys, putting down a girl is often a cover for their own lack of self-confidence, as they try and prove that they are better then the girl, by constantly putting the girl down. You've heard it plenty of times but it's something that you'll have to understand yourself, that most of the best relations start as friends, and the best relations are those that start as friends, go intimate, revert back to good friends, then go even further as you realize just what you have. Keep looking, keep your guard up, and remember to laugh and learn from each situation; one day you'll be explaining this to someone else.
 


<< maybe its because when i want someones attention and they dont give it to me it drives me INSANE. >>



YUP, and there are A LOT of guys out there that will play off of that too!!
 


<< im not all about looks!
some of the nice guys are super cute.

 >>


you almost contradicted yourself there 😉 "some" of the nice guys? what about the other ones?
i know a relationship can't work out without some form of physical attraction, but still....i am betting these guys that treated you like crap were "hot" in your books, right?
btw i'm also NOT implying you are shallow! just trying to bring up a point i guess 🙂
 


<< maybe its because when i want someones attention and they dont give it to me it drives me INSANE.
 >>



I'm sorry, did you just say something? I guess I wasn't paying attention.
 


<< I wonder the exact same thing.

I consider myself a nice guy and I can't understand why all these attractive and decent girls continue to date guys that treat her like sh*t?!?!

One of the questions of life that I'll never undertand >>






Yeap, we all go for bad guys... it's a nice,simple, pat explaination for supposedly nice guys who don't want to look to themselves for answers as to why they aren't getting the bedroom action they feel they're entitled to 😀


On a personal level, I'm a very strong woman in all sorts of ways, and the type of guys who snivel about how "nice" they are and how it's not fair that other guys get the girls wouldn't get the time of day from me.
 


<<

<< Demand real dates, like dinner and a movie.
Make him wait a month for a kiss.
Make him wait 6 months for a what-what. >>


like i said the guys i like treat me like crap, they dont care about me. >>



Then its time to forget about those losers and move on. If they dont care about you... why doy ou care about them?
 
Hey I'm HOT and and your proverbial knight in shining armor to boot (sans a bit of modesty 😉 )

All my girl friends wonder why I'm not taken. One reason is because I have really high standards -- I won't date girls who don't have most of these: family values, ambition, patience, honesty, integrity, and a dozen other things.. Looks are secondary to personality..
There's a careful balance of qualities in a woman that put her in the "date-able" range.. I am VERY nice - almost too much so (but I'm figuring that out) and as a result I expect some reciprocation in any form.. I don't like being walked on and will bolt at the first sign of that.

One key thing: we know for a fact that all girls are crazy. It's the ones that KNOW this fact and can deal with it that are desireable.
 


<< Yeap, we all go for bad guys... it's a nice,simple, pat explaination for supposedly nice guys who don't want to themselves for answers as to why they aren't getting the bedroom action they feel they're entitled to >>







Gee, Thanks I REALLY needed that!!!
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Skulking off...............................................
 

eakers, you are talking about a challenge...well i think a nice guy is far more challenging than your typical ass. in different ways of course...
 


<< why is it that lately i keep falling for guys who treat me badly?! boys with gf who just want a booty call, boys who dont appreciate me, boys who dont respect me

the dumb thing is i see it happening, i say "wow im going to get hurt" or "why am i chasing this boy?! he should be chasing me"

and then i meet guys who are cute and fun and soooooooooo nice and take me on dates but i dont want to be their date-date, i just want to be freinds and have fun. these are the kinds of guys that deserve my time and more than friends thing.

why why why cant i just have feelings for someone nice? >>



Hehehe...just as I thought.

Nice guys are no challenge for you. You are so full of yourself that you think you can change the world, one bad boy at a time.

I had a term for women like you, when I was single:
Receptacle. I used to search for women like you, date you, have sex with you, and then go onto the next one--because none of you were interesting enough to keep around.

You will either learn to come to grips with reality, and settle down with a nice guy. Or you will continue to think you can change some
"bad boy" and make him a good man. If you choose the latter, one day, it will come to you that you have to marry the guy to make him change. Then you will think that you have to give him a baby to make him change. But he won't change, and you will be miserable...far more miserable than now.
 
Hey Eakers, I just noticed that you're planning a meeting here in Toronto. If you're type is tall, dark and handsome I can solve your problem! 😀

So where will the get-together going to be held? (sorry, I'm too lazy to read the other thread...)
 


<< eakers, you are talking about a challenge...well i think a nice guy is far more challenging than your typical ass. in different ways of course... >>



not in the way she probably wants... i think she meant to say challenging to get the attention of.
 
You deserve it then...you see what is happening yet you continue the cycle. Therefore I have no pity for you.

You're just like the women I used to date. Ever since I turned from Mr Niceguy into Mr.Jerk, they all have been nice to me.

Stop complaining and do something about it! Your need for attention on ATOT is obviously high.

"Oh guy treat me like trash" in turn get geek's pants all wet with answer "I'll treat u like a princess eakers"

Sad..but true.
 
Seen it happen many times. Women falling for men that treat them like dirt. I guess it's the challenge to change them or tame them. There's a woman I know, incredibly attractive, smart, funny, just fun to be around but she's seeing some guy who's already cheated on her twice (they broke up after those) but now they're back together.

WTF????
 
Sadly I think ImTyping hit the nail right on the head!!

Hopefully you will see this and do something about it before it's too late.

The human mind is such a complex organ and does such strange things................
 


<< Right now I'm trying both routines. I'm being an asshole to one girl, and a TLC guy to another. We'll see how this works out....

(there's no actual relationship between me and either of them yet, so don't say I'm a cheating asshole or anything) >>


Funny I'm trying the same here I'm being myself with one (chronic nice guy 🙁) which isn't going well and being a sarcastic jerk to another which is going surprisingly good..

Women don't make any logical sense to me...
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Relationships:

Ugly ppl: claim every1 who is good looking is superficial and should go with the "ugly" guy and he will be nice yatta yatta yatta

pretty ppl: claim they arent superficial yet continue to go out with ppl who treat them like dirt and wonder why

there will always be exceptions!!!!!


i think ImTyping is right and Tantos as well
 


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<< Right now I'm trying both routines. I'm being an asshole to one girl, and a TLC guy to another. We'll see how this works out....

(there's no actual relationship between me and either of them yet, so don't say I'm a cheating asshole or anything) >>


Funny I'm trying the same here I'm being myself with one (chronic nice guy 🙁) which isn't going well and being a sarcastic jerk to another which is going surprisingly good..

Women don't make any logical sense to me...
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lol, "nice guys" walk about pretending they are all hearts and flowers and everything nice but in reality they want the same thing the supposed "jerks " or "bad guys" want,


The difference between the "bad guys" and the supposed "nice guys" is that the bad boys are generally pretty direct about what they're about and what they want from you, they're real as opposed to a guy who tries to hide what he's really about under a layer of niceness that's more suited to a woman than a man all in the hopes of scoring himself some nookie. This type is particularly nasuating when their efforts fail and they then snivel about bad boys getting all the play.



Forget the act, be yourself.. the women will follow.. 😉
 


<< The difference between the "bad guys" and the supposed "nice guys" is that the bad boys are generally pretty direct about what they're about and what they want from you, they're real as opposed to a guy who tries to hide what he's really about under a layer of niceness that's more suited to a woman than a man all in the hopes of scoring himself some nookie. This type is particularly nasuating when their efforts fail and they then snivel about bad boys getting all the play. >>



Cynical, aren't we? 😉
 


<<

<< The difference between the "bad guys" and the supposed "nice guys" is that the bad boys are generally pretty direct about what they're about and what they want from you, they're real as opposed to a guy who tries to hide what he's really about under a layer of niceness that's more suited to a woman than a man all in the hopes of scoring himself some nookie. This type is particularly nasuating when their efforts fail and they then snivel about bad boys getting all the play. >>



Cynical, aren't we? 😉 >>




lol, no,not at all ,just a woman who likes the real 😀
 
baffled2:

i love how every nice guy is an act to you.

you cant possibly HONESTLY THINK that every nice guy is just an act?

ever heard of abstinence? some ppl actually follow that, they still engage in relationships.

I think you should really think about ur response, maybe you just met alot of jerks idk but i do know that not every "nice guy" is a jerk in disguise just wanting some "nookie"
 
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