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why do i fall for guys who treat me like dirt?!

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<< baffled2:

i love how every nice guy is an act to you.

you cant possibly HONESTLY THINK that every nice guy is just an act?

ever heard of abstinence? some ppl actually follow that, they still engage in relationships.

I think you should really think about ur response, maybe you just met alot of jerks idk but i do know that not every "nice guy" is a jerk in disguise just wanting so "nookie" >>




you're making one crucial mistake here... you are assuming that women think men are jerks for wanting nookie !!!

Desire is a very natural part of the human condition, supposed "bad guys" are generally more direct in their expression of it, if they get turned down they dust themselves off and move on.. they don't whine endlessly about it !



 


<< Aw. 🙁

You just need the right nice guy who knows how to play bad and keep the excitement up.

They're rare. I've never met another like me. 😉 🙂 >>



Well...nice to meet you cuz I'm one of those....I've thought that for the longest...its a wonderful thing isn't it 🙂 amazing things could be accomplished with this simple philosophy..

Good man...
 


<< Forget the act, be yourself.. the women will follow.. >>


Um, but they ARE being themselves...that is the whole problem. And if they try to be a "bad boy" it usually blows up in their face because it's not them.

I also think your assumption that all men are after the same thing is ridiculous. Maybe you've just never had the pleasure of meeting any, but some guys, believe it or not, want genuine companionship and someone intelligent who they can relate to, not just booty and nothing else (booty won't keep the relationship alive when you're 75 either). Getting any sex is just a bonus to me, and makes it all that more good when you like the person that much.

 


<< Ugly ppl: claim every1 who is good looking is superficial and should go with the "ugly" guy and he will be nice yatta yatta yatta >>



I will be the first person to tell you that I am ugly. I did not worry about the superficiality of potential dates. I just acted like a jerk and treated them badly. I dated a lot of good looking women using this method.

The good looking woman thinks: "boy this guy must REALLY have something going on, if he looks like that and still treats me like crap!"
 
no, i realize girls can want sex just as much as guys but that doesnt mean every1 is after it all the time on the prowl. some people actually want meaning relationships. doesnt mean they will NEVER have sex just means its not necessarily all they want.
 


<< who are you guys kidding, most guys want nookie, even nice guys, but nice guys are too pussy to go after it.
>>


of course we all want it (badly) but some people make it seem like that's the only reason a guy wants to be with a woman. this is stupid. i can't say enough good things about my g/f and none have to be sex related.
 
like i said ImTyping there will be exceptions. i just made that ASSUMPTION from personal experience

<< who are you guys kidding, most guys want nookie, even nice guys, but nice guys are too pussy to go after it.
>>


of course we all want it (badly) but some people make it seem like that's the only reason a guy wants to be with a woman. this is stupid. i can't say enough good things about my g/f and none have to be sex related.


i agree with this ^^^^
 


<<

<< who are you guys kidding, most guys want nookie, even nice guys, but nice guys are too pussy to go after it.
>>


of course we all want it (badly) but some people make it seem like that's the only reason a guy wants to be with a woman. this is stupid. i can't say enough good things about my g/f and none have to be sex related. >>



yea, but i think what baffled was trying to say is that a lot of nice guys are nice because they think they can get some that way, or whatever. not all nice guys are nice just for the sake of being nice.
 


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I've met a total of one girl who likes the nice guys >>



not even my mom liked nice guys. lol

what's that old saying? "nice guys finish last"
 


<<

<< Forget the act, be yourself.. the women will follow.. >>


Um, but they ARE being themselves...that is the whole problem. And if they try to be a "bad boy" it usually blows up in their face because it's not them.

I also think your assumption that all men are after the same thing is ridiculous. Maybe you've just never had the pleasure of meeting any, but some guys, believe it or not, want genuine companionship and someone intelligent who they can relate to, not just booty and nothing else (booty won't keep the relationship alive when you're 75 either). Getting any sex is just a bonus to me, and makes it all that more good when you like the person that much. >>





let's try this again... because I don't recall ever saying that nookie is all a guy wants from a woman. However,in the initial flirtation /attraction stages of a relationship which is what is being discussed here I'd say the physical aspects of the thing are pretty close to the top of the list on the part of both parties.

 
find a nice guy that doesn't want you. then u can have both a challenge and be happy!

<--with the NICEST guy ever and very happy 🙂
 


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<< who are you guys kidding, most guys want nookie, even nice guys, but nice guys are too pussy to go after it.
>>


of course we all want it (badly) but some people make it seem like that's the only reason a guy wants to be with a woman. this is stupid. i can't say enough good things about my g/f and none have to be sex related. >>



yea, but i think what baffled was trying to say is that a lot of nice guys are nice because they think they can get some that way, or whatever. not all nice guys are nice just for the sake of being nice. >>




ding,ding !! we have a winner... thank you,that's exactly the point I was trying to make !!!
 
"good Girls" seem lotsa times to want to be used,rode hard put away soaking wet and satisfied by some "bad Boy"😉
keep looking,and if you need a Booty call hahaha call me when you are in Albany nY,:Q
seriously,its human nature to want to rebel a bit, hang in there!!! 😛
 

"The difference between the "bad guys" and the supposed "nice guys" is that the bad boys are generally pretty direct about what they're about and what they want from you, they're real as opposed to a guy who tries to hide what he's really about under a layer of niceness that's more suited to a woman than a man all in the hopes of scoring himself some nookie. This type is particularly nasuating when their efforts fail and they then snivel about bad boys getting all the play"




Spoken like a true woman baffled2.

There are many differences between a mans thought process and a womans.

Believe me, being a man I can assure you there ARE nice guys that can't help the way they are, and jerks.

To some jerks it comes naturally, others practice at being that way.

Then you get women that fall for jerks, get mad that they couldn't change them and get smacked around by them. Then they come to us nice guys complaining about them and saying "Gee why couldn't I fall for a nice guy like you?" Two days later they are back with the A$$hole again.

Believe me I've been there. I almost got beaten to death trying to help a woman out of a situation like that years ago when I was in the Marines.

If you are attracted to jerks, plan to except the and expect the worse. But when it happens, don't come crying to your "Friend" expecting him to be sympathetic........
 


<< yea, but i think what baffled was trying to say is that a lot of nice guys are nice because they think they can get some that way, or whatever. not all nice guys are nice just for the sake of being nice. >>


ding,ding !! we have a winner... thank you,that's exactly the point I was trying to make !!!

*bows*

i hang around a lot of very very smart people. book smart that is, and there are a lot of "nice" guys... i know how they think...
 


<< Spoken like a true woman baffled2.

There are many differences between a mans thought process and a womans.

Believe me, being a man I can assure you there ARE nice guys that can't help the way they are, and jerks.

To some jerks it comes naturally, others practice at being that way.

Then you get women that fall for jerks, get mad that they couldn't change them and get smacked around by them. Then they come to us nice guys complaining about them and saying "Gee why couldn't I fall for a nice guy like you?" Two days later they are back with the A$$hole again.

Believe me I've been there. I almost got beaten to death trying to help a woman out of a situation like that years ago when I was in the Marines.

If you are attracted to jerks, plan to except the and expect the worse. But when it happens, don't come crying to your "Friend" expecting him to be sympathetic........ >>




there is a real difference between desiring a man who is forthright and direct and in wanting a "jerk" who smacks you around or otherwise abuses you.Trust me, I know the difference 😉
 


<< yea, but i think what baffled was trying to say is that a lot of nice guys are nice because they think they can get some that way, or whatever. not all nice guys are nice just for the sake of being nice.
>>


Then they're sadly mistaken because if you act like an ass you can screw another girl every week. Sadly I actually know people who do this. Manwhores i guess you would call them! :Q

it's easy as hell to tell if someone is faking being a nice person though, only an idiot wouldn't know. however it's quite easy to be a jerk since we all have it in us! 😀
 


<< 2 reason's,

an A$$hole male = "Alpha", women are attracted to this

the other is you end up staying with Mr Alpha to try to "Change his ways" >>



I agree 100% on the first one. I think young girls, no matter how many Xena's there are on TV, know that it's a man's world. It's biology.

 
this may sound radical, but why don't you take a small vacation from relationships? it'll give you time to clear your head and give you some time to reconnect with yourself. you say that it's the nice ones that you don't want to date-date. then don't date-date them! just concentrate on having fun and being friends with him. after a while, if the attraction is there, the friendship will blossom into a really great relationship and you'll be really happy! until then, just take a break from dating and have a good time.
 


<< this may sound radical, but why don't you take a small vacation from relationships? it'll give you time to clear your head and give you some time to reconnect with yourself. you say that it's the nice ones that you don't want to date-date. then don't date-date them! just concentrate on having fun and being friends with him. after a while, if the attraction is there, the friendship will blossom into a really great relationship and you'll be really happy! until then, just take a break from dating and have a good time. >>


good advice.

night AT. 🙂
 


<<
its hard to communicate with someone that doesnt want to talk and just wants to make out.

*kat. <--🙁 >>



maybe you're just too hot. i call it "the beauty burden." no one takes you seriously, everyone wants to nail you, etc.
 
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