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why do i fall for guys who treat me like dirt?!

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<< why is it that lately i keep falling for guys who treat me badly?! boys with gf who just want a booty call, boys who dont appreciate me, boys who dont respect me >>



Ok, if you really must know why... It's because you haven't learned to communicate properly. This is almost always the reason why relationships stop improving and start degrading. Learn to communicate.
 
most of the women i've dated loved to be treated like crap..........[most] women love to be dominated, it's in the genes. nice guys are viewed as weak, therefore not considered "good" mates, a strong man breeds strong children. it's instinctual, they can't help it.
 
cuz if every nice guy you meet you want to keep them as your friend (ie not put your relationship with them as a friend in jepordy(sp?), thus banishing them to the fiery depths of platonic hell), the only guys left are the assholes
 


<< cuz if every nice guy you meet you want to keep them as your friend (ie not put your relationship with them as a friend in jepordy(sp?), thus banishing them to the fiery depths of platonic hell), the only guys left are the assholes >>



Very good point
 
I wonder the exact same thing.

I consider myself a nice guy and I can't understand why all these attractive and decent girls continue to date guys that treat her like sh*t?!?!

One of the questions of life that I'll never undertand
 
I'm the nice guy too... I dunno why all these stupid guys treat girls like dirt, I like to think I treat almost everyone (except people i dislike for obvious reasons) like I like to be treated, especially women. damn them bad dudes!!! :|
 
i dont think this phenomenon will ever be figured out, unfortunately.

ive seriously considered trying to be a jerk to girls, just to see if it would work. but i can never bring myself to do it.

oh well. ill just settle for having the coolest female friends in the world (for now anyway).
 


<< Before you meet your prince, you've got to go around kissing a lot of toads. >>


paul rules! 😛



*kat. <--🙁
 
Demand real dates, like dinner and a movie.
Make him wait a month for a kiss.
Make him wait 6 months for a what-what.
 
why is it that lately i keep falling for guys who treat me badly?! boys with gf who just want a booty call, boys who dont appreciate me, boys who dont respect me

the dumb thing is i see it happening, i say "wow im going to get hurt" or "why am i chasing this boy?! he should be chasing me"

and then i meet guys who are cute and fun and soooooooooo nice and take me on dates but i dont want to be their date-date, i just want to be freinds and have fun. these are the kinds of guys that deserve my time and more than friends thing.

why why why cant i just have feelings for someone nice?

damn, so that's why i can't get a date. guess i'll learn how to be an asshole now.
 


<< Demand real dates, like dinner and a movie.
Make him wait a month for a kiss.
Make him wait 6 months for a what-what. >>




Uhhhh, that would be another EOF.
 


<< cuz if every nice guy you meet you want to keep them as your friend (ie not put your relationship with them as a friend in jepordy(sp?), thus banishing them to the fiery depths of platonic hell), the only guys left are the assholes >>



Hmm... two women in this thread acknowledge this as a good point. Mr. NeuroSynapsis, do ya have any more info that could be of use to us guys here? 🙂 I have a friend who prob. could benefit greatly from this point - something I don't think either of us really thought about, when we discussed relationships.
 
Girls need to start looking for guys with small penises -- they always treat girls right. *Ahem*, I'm speaking on behalf of a friend, of course....
 
You are prolly only falling for attractive guys, and attractive guys can afford to treats girls like crap. What you need to do is go out with an ugly guy. He would be very nice to you out of fear that you would leave him.
 
I feel bad for you eakers, but that usually the way it goes. If you are a nice guy to a girl you like you either a) wind up as just be friends or b) taken advantage of. There was an old saying during the cold war "Never show weakness in front of the Soviets". That's pretty much the situation with girls. The funny the only times its difference is under unusual circumstance like if you started off as friends and it developed from there or it is the sister/close friend of another close friend. Why? Because there's someone else to answer to. Hope that helped, don't give up though, eventually you'll find the right guy 😉
 
I think you don't want to hurt the relationships you have with the nice guys. If you date them, you risk losing them. If they're just your friend there isn't any risk.
 
Thats because you want boys that treat you like crap. Try dating a few men and stop looking for the bad boys and the ones that treat you like crap.
 
After listening to Dr. Drew and Adam Corolla (sp?) for over a year, this situation has reared its ugly head a few times. Basically, Pulse8 summed up what Dr. Drew would always say:

<<I'd say it's more a self-esteem issue with you, kat. Sometimes women with low self-esteem will date guys who treat them poorly because they don't feel they deserve better>>

Rahvin got it too, and this one hits a little closer to the bullseye:

<<Thats because you want boys that treat you like crap. Try dating a few men and stop looking for the bad boys and the ones that treat you like crap. >>
 
hmmm....


I'm very glad I never gave into the tempatation to participate in the type of ego role playing this thread is talking about.

Stay your course men! Once you've figured out how you feel don't let anyone else's insecurities alter your idea of correct behavior.

Eakers, once you figure out how you feel perhaps this will be a lot easier, I imagine.

<---Happily married to a beautiful woman who dumped an a**hole (my roommate😉) for a nice guy 🙂


PS - I'm having a hard time understanding why you don't want to date your friends... doesn't that mean you will only date your enemies... I think it goes a bit deeper than low self esteem, kinda seems like you won't date anyone you have respect for... what does that mean... you're only interested in those you have no respect for? geez Eakers.... got a shrink yet? 😉
 


<< Try dating a few men and stop looking for the bad boys and the ones that treat you like crap. >>



Thats true as well, to an extent.

Some guys DO grow out of the a$$hole stage, but as is evident from ATOT, some NEVER DO! 😉
 
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