Why do asians only hang out with other asians?

[Viperoni]

I chill with a couple of asian guys, but for the most part, I would agree that asian people seem to have their own clique.

 

[toant103]

Originally posted by: her209
Because anyone who hangs out with non-asians is labeled a twinkie.

EDIT: I'm asian and I generally hang out with asians and non-asians.

Banana

 

[toant103]

Originally posted by: cw42
it's cuz u live in VA, there's not enough asians there

however, with the case of fobs, i'd say the majority of them only hang out with other fobs.

hmmmmmmm, there are bunch of them in Northern VA

 

[Shlong]

When I went to Japan, I hung out with a lot of whites & I've also noticed a lot of whites hanging out with each other in groups. Maybe people want to hang out with people who they relate more to?

 

[Juno]

Originally posted by: Viperoni
I chill with a couple of asian guys, but for the most part, I would agree that asian people seem to have their own clique.

I'm not in one of cliques. I don't chill with asians even I'm an asian myself.

 

[EvilYoda]

Still going? Any news ideas in the last 2 pages?

 

[Robor]

I think it's mostly because it's easier. I think you'd find that most of the "asians only hanging out with other asians" share the same (primary) language.

 

[UglyCasanova]

I'm white and hang out with mostly white people. I used to hang out with black guys a lot but that was mainly due to drug deals lol (and no I'm not kidding ). I've noticed on campus though that the whites and blacks will hang out with each other, but the real good friends of each are usually someone of the same color. Also the Indians hang out with the Indians and the asians seem to hang out with the asians. And I don't really see latinos lol. I haven't yet finished my extensive research on this though.

 

[imthebadguy]

its a fact of life that people feel most comfortable with people similar to themselves ....

 

[masterxfob]

Originally posted by: richardycc
because we have better things to talk about other than chicks/guys, beer, partying and sports. :roll:

i can't really think of much else that i talk about with friends and i don't see how it would be different for any other american. i'm an asian male and 99.9% of my conversations somehow involve woman (and the problems they create ) or sports.

 

[UglyCasanova]

Originally posted by: masterxfob

Originally posted by: richardycc
because we have better things to talk about other than chicks/guys, beer, partying and sports. :roll:

i can't really think of much else that i talk about with friends and i don't see how it would be different for any other american. i'm an asian male and 99.9% of my conversations somehow involve woman (and the problems they create ) or sports.

You don't sit around working random problems on your calculators?



Opposite sex.......?

 

[SnoPearL69]

Well, first question is, does the OP go to MIT Because really, it's kind of true at MIT, unless you're one of those I-try-really-hard-to-be-"Asian-American" types. Not sure why it happens, but all the asians here know each other and hang out with one another in sub-groups. In a place where there are just as many asians as caucasians, maybe this isn't THAT much of a surprise.

For me, I've been in America since I was 6, so I don't have any trouble with the language. In fact, I'd feel far inferior having a Chinese conversation with someone else lol. I've had mostly white and black friends all my life growing up. But when I got to college, for some reason I ended up with all asian friends. It's the funniest thing. The first person I met was asian. The next person was also asian. Then everyone I knew threw them was asian. And so on and so on. I found it amusing. But, it happens. Not like I tried. And I do socialize with non-asians, just not in a regular group at college.

In comparing my asian friends now with my non-asian friends from before, I would say that I am more comfortable with my asian friends. Don't get me wrong, I love my old friends to death, but there were things that they could never relate to me about. I might be accustomed to American culture, but my family is still very rooted in asian culture. I can't even discuss the things that we do at home without getting made fun of (non-hurtfully). But with my asian friends, we all understand the family stuff we gripe about. We all like the same kinds of asian food and we can go to the same places to hang out and eat and shop for asian groceries. I find that to be really nice. Lastly, this isn't meant to be stereotypical, but a lot of non-asian people do like to drink and party and do illegal things, from my experience. Some asians do it too, but in general, asian parents bring up their children to be straight-edged. The ones that are more wild, I stay away from them. It's just not my thang. There are a lot of asians that don't need to booze it up to have fun, and they enjoy being around one another for that reason.

There. My 2 pennies.

 

[tata]

basically,Asian male is a little shy to foreign female

 

[masterxfob]

Originally posted by: tata
basically,Asian male is a little shy to foreign female

 

[HombrePequeno]

I almost thought the OP was talking about UW. There's always a group of FOBs sitting outside of the library smoking.

I guess it's understandable that the FOBs stick together, seeing as how it's hard to integrate when you have a hard time speaking English and have a harder time conveying your ideas to other people. That's not true for the average Asian though. All of the Asians in my fraternity don't really hang out with other Asians (don't strictly hang out with them anyway).

 

[Orsorum]

I hang out with asians and I'm white.

 

[deejayshakur]

Originally posted by: cw42
it's cuz u live in VA, there's not enough asians there

however, with the case of fobs, i'd say the majority of them only hang out with other fobs.

yea this is true for the most part. i am an abc, but the past few years i started hanging out with fobs to improve my cantonese and learn about the other half of my cultural identity. previously, i had a mix of friends: white, black, brown, yellow, grey, you name it. i learned that fobs tend to stay around other fobs both because of the outside animosity from other nationalities (especially other abc's making fun of fobs' inability to speak 'popper englesh') as well as the closed-minded mentality by fobs themselves to only associate with other fobs. my roommate was an exception to this (hk fob but had many ethnically diverse friends), but my hk fob cousin and her friends fit the stereotype well. i'm in the sf bay area.

 

[deejayshakur]

Originally posted by: PHiuR
im asian and i mostly hangout with the white folks..and a couple other darker skin peeps...
i want to hangout with more asians...how can i do this? HMPH

move.

 

[user1234]

most asians own laundramats

 

[edmundoab]

Well my experience is that its hard to blend into a different culture.
Topics are different. Leisure and way of hanging out.

I've been in the US for 4 years.
never really have a group of american friends that I can really hang out with.
I mean classes, sports and etc.. yeah sure..

but outside there, its just never the same.
Perhaps Im in the midwest where blacks and whites are more..

If I were in California or New York it maybe a different scenario
But what I am saying is that its not suprising to see Asians just hanging around ourselves in the end.

 

[AznAnarchy99]

i happen to live in a city with all mexicans so thats who i hang out with..

 

[imported_kkcleung]

well.. it depends on what generation of asian....
if it's first, then most likely, the asian and shy and wants to hang out with asians only

otherwise, they do mingle.. and some end up hating hanging out with other asians

 

[ikickpigeons]

I myself am, half asian and half a mixture of caucasian nationalities, i find myself hanging out with everyone BUT other asians. I dont know why this is. One reason is that their arent many asians here in sun valley. The other, is that im in an entrapping situation where i really am not asian or white, im exactly half. So which race do i identitfy with? None i guess, so im growing up in a racial sterile enviorment and view. The reason other people might just hang out with their own race is they may feel security and/or racial power. Possibly the black power thing?

 

[VIAN]

This is the case at my college. I see blacks and whites together all the time, but the asians never mingle. Why?

For the same reasons that Brasilians, according to observations done while in highschool, hang out with other Brasilians, why Hispanics hang out with other Hispanics, and so on and so forth.

1. They don't know/care how to speak English.

2. They are too proud of what they are.

 

[Taejin]

Originally posted by: abc

Originally posted by: mooncancook
Well one of my housemate during school was a multi-generation Asian and all his friends including gf are whites. But for me I speak fluent chinese and just ok english, and with a heavy dose of asian culture background, I find it difficult to hang out with Americans. When I was among a group of whites at school I really felt like an outsider.

I.

I have a friend who hung out with tons of white teen friends when he was that age, growing up. He stopped when it came to college because he realized his 'white friends' would deep down NEVER accept him equal to another White friend.

In other others, he realized the set limits on their friendship to him.


and for myself, I had a white friend tell me... hey stand over there.... and I wondered what the heck was going on...

Then I realized, he had a bunch of his fellow 'WHITE" friends in the neighorbhood pass by, and he at that moment didnt want to be associated with me. To this day I remmeber that, and I remember them saying 'Gee, you changed' to the 'friend' of mine who told me to stand over there.

Few years later from that another 'white' friend, started hanging with a bunch of his ultra 'Italian' friends, and when walking past my door front one day, my friend did not even turn his head to acknowledge me.


Would a white 'buddy' EVER be treated like this from his Asian buddies? They can't say they have had this kind of doublestandard experience growing up.

(before people start saying oh I know a Brad that had an Asian buddy and when Brad went to the Asian buddy's house the Asian's parents started calling him White Ghost in Chinese and Brad only found out because the Asian buddy told him afterwards... well no, that's indirect, I'm talking about friends treating friends directly.)


There's more crap I've seen in my life from 'mingling'.

Well what do you expect?

I attended a rather affluent white elementary school growing up - and all those white pricks made fun of the asians because "we didn't have eyes" and "ching chong chang".

Honestly, if kids are subscribing to these kinds of stereotypes, then what kind of adults do you think they'll be?