what would you do if your GF hit you?

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fLum0x

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So, my GF and i have been dating for around 5 years. We were out with a bunch of friends from my work place. She gets along with them well and was having a good time. She could not drink because of some meds she was on so she was the DD for the night. Obviously we all get tipsy/drunk and i make a rude comment to her. She slaps me across the face in front of everyone basically. It was semi joking because she knows i was just playing around. I joke with her a lot and she is used to it, although with other people around, she felt like she needed to do something about it i guess.

We go back home and i was fully sober about 3 hours later laying in bed and she was apologizing. Obviously, i was like, "so what? you hit me, but i am not hurt or anything". So she felt bad and she was almost crying because she was so sorry.

So anyways, she hits me and then i come into work this morning to everyone saying sh1t like "if she hits you, you have every right to swing back" and i was like "wtf?! no you dont hit her no matter what". I just wont hit i female if i can help it by any means. I am basically at work swallowing pride with them because they are ripping me a new ahole about it but i am staying in her defense.

what do you guys think and what would you do about the situation?
 
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J0hnny

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You were basically castrated in front of all your friends. She would have been dumped the minute I got home no matter how much she apologizes.
 
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astrocase

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You should never hit a woman. That's not to say it won't happen if I'm getting my ass kicked though.
 
DainBramaged

DainBramaged

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Jun 19, 2003
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Physical violence in a relationship is never a solution to any problem. IMO it is a bigger reason to break up than cheating.
 
PricklyPete

PricklyPete

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Hitting is a bit much, but if she was doing it playfully...that's not really a big thing. Obviously from her crying and how the people at work mentioned it, it didn't come across playful and she wasn't really being playful otherwise she wouln't be so appologetic.

I'd say you both need to work on things...

1) you need to stop making rude comments to her in public.
2) she needs to learn not to hit people...regardless of how mad she is with them. Is she going to hit your kids that way when they piss her off. Kids will make unbelievably rude comments on a daily basis.
 
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tweakmm

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May 28, 2001
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The same thing I've done with every other hit from a woman. A quick sneer and a turn of the cheek.

If I saw it coming I would have caught it or hit it away. Women hits are easy to do like that.

I would not tolerate being emasculated in public though. I'd probably yell very loudly for that bitch to never do that again.
 
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MisterJackson

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Jun 19, 2004
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And you call yourself a pimp....you sir are her ho!

Seriously, don't worry what others at work think, you just do what you feel is right. Consider this, had you hit her back they'd still be talking sh1t about you at work this morning, only in a much different light, and possibly while you sat in jail.
 
Krazy4Real

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Oct 3, 2003
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What was the comment?

Also, if she's really sorry she'll write a letter to each person that was there saying she was wrong and she's sorry. :)
 
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JeffreyLebowski

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It all depends on the type of hit. If she slaps me for saying something stupid, then nothing. If a woman is going to hit me with a closed fist or any type of weapon, then all hats are off. I will beat the holy living piss out of her.
 
sao123

sao123

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Originally posted by: fLum0x
So, my GF and i have been dating for around 5 years. We were out with a bunch of friends from my work place. She gets along with them well and was having a good time. She could not drink because of some meds she was on so she was the DD for the night. Obviously we all get tipsy/drunk and i make a rude comment to her. She slaps me across the face in front of everyone basically. It was semi joking because she knows i was just playing around. I joke with her a lot and she is used to it, although with other people around, she felt like she needed to do something about it i guess.

We go back home and i was fully sober about 3 hours later laying in bed and she was apologizing. Obviously, i was like, "so what? you hit me, but i am not hurt or anything". So she felt bad and she was almost crying because she was so sorry.

So anyways, she hits me and then i come into work this morning to everyone saying sh1t like "if she hits you, you have every right to swing back" and i was like "wtf?! no you dont hit her no matter what". I just wont hit i female if i can help it by any means. I am basically at work swallowing pride with them because they are ripping me a new ahole about it but i am staying in her defense.

what do you guys think and what would you do about the situation?
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What you said will determine whether you deserved it or not. Its cool to joke alone, but in public, you can embarrass people easily.
WTF DID YOU SAY???!? TELL US NOW!!!!!:|
 
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PowerMacG5

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Woman want equality, right? If they can hit me, I can hit them. Simple enough. Oh wait, they want their cake, and to eat it too.
 
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PowerMacG5

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Originally posted by: astrocase
Originally posted by: JeffreyLebowski
holy living piss
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That's some scary stuff. You need to date better women. That's just not right.
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If woman want equality, and they feel it is ok for them to hit us, then it is ok for us to hit them (if justified). I am not talking about beating up a woman giving her love marks for the hell of it, I am talking about if she punches me, I have every right in the world to punch her back.
 
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BobDaMenkey

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A playful poke or punch or slap to some body part is no biggie as a reaction to a rude comment. However a slap across the face is an incredibly huge nono. My ex did that to me once, and even to we had been just goofin off prior too, the second she connected with my face I stopped flat out. I stood up(dumping her to the floor cuz she was on my lap) and just stared at her. It's something I just can't let fly, no matter the reason.

I'd take it from the profuse appologizing she realized what she did was wrong. However a big slip like that is a bit hard to forgive. Especially considering the fact that you were drunk(doesn't really change what you said, just the context). I'd have a talk about why she did it and why she thought it was a good idea. She obviously regrets it, but you need to know if she'd pull something like that again. And if she would, or you think she might, I'd probably bail. It's just not acceptable.
 
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IMaN00BieGF

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I hit my ex-boyfriend in his sleep when I found out he was cheating on me.. He was shocked and didn't know what to say and denied it ofcourse, but I had evidence. I had never been violent like that before so even I was concerned. I guess he wasn't too angry at me since he was guilty.
 
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y2kc

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unless your life is in jeopardy you do not hit back. my ex (when she was much younger and fiery) would strike out when she got really angry... I would provoke her and she'd lash out out of pure frustration. this happened a few times but she wasn't a big girl (at the time) so i'd laugh at her and grab her arms, swing her body around so her arms were crossed in front of her and lean forward with all of my weight. she'd be totally immobile. i'd hold her until she calmed down, telling her the whole time that she couldn't hurt me if she tried...

one time she threw a remote at my head, the thing exploded... we got a good laugh out of it and it actually took the edge off of the disagreement, we laughed about it and made up...

she did catch me clean one day though. she retreated to the bathroom to escape my side of the argument and i followed, as soon as i opened the door, fist in the eye... she timed it so well that i had to laugh.... it was a great punch (great for a girl).

bottom line. don't hit her. if you don't want to deal with it, leave her.
 
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Minjin

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No way would I tolerate it. I don't hit people and I don't tolerate when people hit me. She would have been gone that night. As soon as you set the precedent of allowing her to hit you because she doesn't like what you said, it WILL become a trend. It should never even cross a person's mind to hit someone because of a comment...

Mark
 
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