what is the proper way to spoon?

[desertdweller]

I let her get comfortable on her pillow, and then I put my arm under the pillow while
my head is still on my own pillow. It takes alot of the pressure off my arm and I like
sleeping on my side anyway. We can usually fall asleep like that and not wake up for
quite a while to change positions.

Another way I do it is to get in the position and then kinda rotate our bodies so we
are half laying on our sides, and half on our backs with her head as close to my chest
as I can get. I put my lower arm under her head and bend it across her chest.


DD

 

[Jzero]

Classical Ladder Theory
A great satirical work, because while it's funny, it smacks heavily of the truth.

Pay particular attention to the section on "Cuddle Bitches." (Parental Warning: This page makes use of the F bomb!)

For guys unacquainted with Ladder Theory, it is even worse. The cuddle bitch often thinks he is on the good ladder as opposed to the real ladder. So he gets all excited about his position instead of realizing he is being completely used. So this poor tool is really setting himself up for a fall at that point.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Jzero

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: RishiS

Originally posted by: EXman

15 more days...

until spoonage?

Wow, talk about going slowly in a relationship... 🙂

I also enjoy spooning with close friends, male or female... 🙂 It's intimate, but it can also be platonic-intimate.

When I had a boyfriend, he'd leave for his dance tours/trips, and I'd spoon with some of his friends. Everyone was cool and understanding and respectful like that... no funny business. I also spoon with my friend Fawn, etc.

Yeah, because we all know guys would think such a situation (spooning with your friend's woman) is entirely platonic.

I make that explicitly clear from the very beginning. Communication is key in any relationship, platonic or otherwise.

You're not well-versed in Classical Ladder Theory if you believe this.

Classical Ladder Theory?

If it makes anyone feel any better, I also spoon with my sisters... to me, it's a way of being close to people I care for. I won't do it with a guy I just met, but I will do it with close and trusted friends...

The point is that any normal male is going to be really aroused by such a situation, and that's hardly something I feel is appropriate for platonic relationships. I also believe that most guys think that a willing-to-spoon woman leaves the door open for more possibilities, regardless of whether or not she says it's platonic. What about platonic kisses, sex, etc.?

I'm not rigid, I just know that I wouldn't want my girlfriend arousing all of my friends in such a way.

I see where you're coming from, but I guess I have a different level of comfort with my friends. Every male friend I've spooned with has never tried to do anything more than spoon, and they've all remained "relaxed." In such an embrace, it'd be pretty easy for me to tell if anything was aroused back there, and I've never had a guy poke me, accidentally or otherwise, in such a situation. I spoon with guys who I consider my brothers... Minh, Angel, Matt, etc... not Joe Blow off the street, you know?

Platonic kisses on the cheek and lips are fine... platonic kisses with tongue? Heck no.

And "platonic sex", no... but those are my personal limits, others may have varying degrees of comfort with their friends.

 

[imported_Papi]

screw spooning, just screw!

 

[Jzero]

What about platonic kisses, sex, etc.?

There as an article in The Art Of Kissing by William Cane which discusses so-called "platonic kissing" and it totally left me scratching my head. My gf's male friends will kiss her on the cheek and give her a hug in greeting. That seems normal to me. The book talks about it going deeper than that and discusses motivations like "Just to get closer to my close friends" or "Just to see how it feels to kiss other people than my lover passionately."

Gimme a freakin' break. No guy will ever buy into that, and I'm doubtful most women would either.

 

[isasir]

Originally posted by: Jzero
Classical Ladder Theory
A great satirical work, because while it's funny, it smacks heavily of the truth.

Pay particular attention to the section on "Cuddle Bitches." (Parental Warning: This page makes use of the F bomb!)

For guys unacquainted with Ladder Theory, it is even worse. The cuddle bitch often thinks he is on the good ladder as opposed to the real ladder. So he gets all excited about his position instead of realizing he is being completely used. So this poor tool is really setting himself up for a fall at that point.

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[NogginBoink]

Y'all are just full of it.

Whoever invents a solution to "The fourth arm problem" will make himself rich beyond imagination!

😀

 

[Jzero]

Originally posted by: RishiS

Originally posted by: Jzero
Classical Ladder Theory
A great satirical work, because while it's funny, it smacks heavily of the truth.

Pay particular attention to the section on "Cuddle Bitches." (Parental Warning: This page makes use of the F bomb!)

For guys unacquainted with Ladder Theory, it is even worse. The cuddle bitch often thinks he is on the good ladder as opposed to the real ladder. So he gets all excited about his position instead of realizing he is being completely used. So this poor tool is really setting himself up for a fall at that point.

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ROFL! Nice Sig!

 

[Jeff7]

Well there's my new thing learned for today - another form of the word "spoon." Never heard it used to describe this before.

 

[WinkOsmosis]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Jzero

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: RishiS

Originally posted by: EXman

15 more days...

until spoonage?

Wow, talk about going slowly in a relationship... 🙂

I also enjoy spooning with close friends, male or female... 🙂 It's intimate, but it can also be platonic-intimate.

When I had a boyfriend, he'd leave for his dance tours/trips, and I'd spoon with some of his friends. Everyone was cool and understanding and respectful like that... no funny business. I also spoon with my friend Fawn, etc.

Yeah, because we all know guys would think such a situation (spooning with your friend's woman) is entirely platonic.

I make that explicitly clear from the very beginning. Communication is key in any relationship, platonic or otherwise.

You're not well-versed in Classical Ladder Theory if you believe this.

Classical Ladder Theory?

If it makes anyone feel any better, I also spoon with my sisters... to me, it's a way of being close to people I care for. I won't do it with a guy I just met, but I will do it with close and trusted friends...

*Coughcalifornicacough*

 

[WhiteKnight]

Originally posted by: Jeff7
Well there's my new thing learned for today - another form of the word "spoon." Never heard it used to describe this before.

Is there another? I'm sure that people were doing this even back when everyone just ate with their hands. 🙂

 

[Ausm]

Originally posted by: Shiva112
big spoon for now...hopefully that won't change 😉

If you get thrown in prison it just might 😉

Ausm

 

[PG]

Originally posted by: NogginBoink
Y'all are just full of it.

Whoever invents a solution to "The fourth arm problem" will make himself rich beyond imagination!

😀

Yup, it's right up there with inventing an anal bum cover, but Sean Connery has been working hard on that one.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: WinkOsmosis

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Jzero

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: RishiS

Originally posted by: EXman

15 more days...

until spoonage?

Wow, talk about going slowly in a relationship... 🙂

I also enjoy spooning with close friends, male or female... 🙂 It's intimate, but it can also be platonic-intimate.

When I had a boyfriend, he'd leave for his dance tours/trips, and I'd spoon with some of his friends. Everyone was cool and understanding and respectful like that... no funny business. I also spoon with my friend Fawn, etc.

Yeah, because we all know guys would think such a situation (spooning with your friend's woman) is entirely platonic.

I make that explicitly clear from the very beginning. Communication is key in any relationship, platonic or otherwise.

You're not well-versed in Classical Ladder Theory if you believe this.

Classical Ladder Theory?

If it makes anyone feel any better, I also spoon with my sisters... to me, it's a way of being close to people I care for. I won't do it with a guy I just met, but I will do it with close and trusted friends...

*Coughcalifornicacough*

I was born and raised in the midwest. 😀

 

[Jzero]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: WinkOsmosis

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Jzero

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: RishiS

Originally posted by: EXman

15 more days...

until spoonage?

Wow, talk about going slowly in a relationship... 🙂

I also enjoy spooning with close friends, male or female... 🙂 It's intimate, but it can also be platonic-intimate.

When I had a boyfriend, he'd leave for his dance tours/trips, and I'd spoon with some of his friends. Everyone was cool and understanding and respectful like that... no funny business. I also spoon with my friend Fawn, etc.

Yeah, because we all know guys would think such a situation (spooning with your friend's woman) is entirely platonic.

I make that explicitly clear from the very beginning. Communication is key in any relationship, platonic or otherwise.

You're not well-versed in Classical Ladder Theory if you believe this.

Classical Ladder Theory?

If it makes anyone feel any better, I also spoon with my sisters... to me, it's a way of being close to people I care for. I won't do it with a guy I just met, but I will do it with close and trusted friends...

*Coughcalifornicacough*

I was born and raised in the midwest. 😀

I guess that explains why you spoon with your brothers and sisters! 😀
*rimshot

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: Jzero

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: WinkOsmosis

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Jzero

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: RishiS

Originally posted by: EXman

15 more days...

until spoonage?

Wow, talk about going slowly in a relationship... 🙂

I also enjoy spooning with close friends, male or female... 🙂 It's intimate, but it can also be platonic-intimate.

When I had a boyfriend, he'd leave for his dance tours/trips, and I'd spoon with some of his friends. Everyone was cool and understanding and respectful like that... no funny business. I also spoon with my friend Fawn, etc.

Yeah, because we all know guys would think such a situation (spooning with your friend's woman) is entirely platonic.

I make that explicitly clear from the very beginning. Communication is key in any relationship, platonic or otherwise.

You're not well-versed in Classical Ladder Theory if you believe this.

Classical Ladder Theory?

If it makes anyone feel any better, I also spoon with my sisters... to me, it's a way of being close to people I care for. I won't do it with a guy I just met, but I will do it with close and trusted friends...

*Coughcalifornicacough*

I was born and raised in the midwest. 😀

I guess that explains why you spoon with your brothers and sisters! 😀
*rimshot

LOL... nah, my sisters are all just really cute. 😉😛😱😀 No brothers, unfortunately.

 

[Maverick]

jesus quotezilla...how bout trimming some of those posts?

 

[Descartes]

Originally posted by: Dezign
I was born and raised in the midwest. 😀

Where in the midwest? I'm from the midwest as well, and I don't know any people as liberal with spoonship.

Throw me in the "I don't believe platonic relationships are possible if either involved are attracted to the other" camp. You're an attractive woman, so I honestly can't see a guy thinking it was completely platonic, but perhaps I'm not as physically transcendental as you.

Perhaps this is an extension of the materialist vs. mentalist in the mind-body problem? I bond with close friends on an intellectually (mentalist) intimate level, but I can't on a physical (materialist) level.

[edit]Trimmed the quote-level so as to not be perceived as "quotezilla" 🙂[/edit]

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Dezign
I was born and raised in the midwest. 😀

Where in the midwest? I'm from the midwest as well, and I don't know any people as liberal with spoonship.

Throw me in the "I don't believe platonic relationships are possible if either involved are attracted to the other" camp. You're an attractive woman, so I honestly can't see a guy thinking it was completely platonic, but perhaps I'm not as physically transcendental as you.

Perhaps this is an extension of the materialist vs. mentalist in the mind-body problem? I bond with close friends on an intellectually (mentalist) intimate level, but I can't on a physical (materialist) level.

[edit]Trimmed the quote-level so as to not be perceived as "quotezilla" 🙂[/edit]

Heh. *maintains quotezilla status*

Kokomo, Indiana... and Rochester Hills, Michigan.

I spooned/cuddled with my girl friends Justine and Margie in high school, and cuddled with my girl/guy friends at the University of Michigan... my boyfriend Matt K., his roommate Minh, my boy Matt L., and my friend Jordan. I had a certain level of comfort with all of them, and Minh/Matt/Jordan NEVER pushed their limits.

I bond with close friends on both mentalist & materialist levels... varying degrees of each with different people, but still. I dunno, maybe I'm an anomaly.

 

[pulse8]

Brodie: You know how when someone lays with their back to you and you lay behind them really close and you throw one arm over them ?
TS: It's called spooning.
Brodie: Yeah, but you gotta put the other arm somewhere. You can either lay on it or shove it between your bodies. The only other option is to stretch it above your head. But sometimes my arm pops out of socket when I'm sleeping like that. So I was constantly searching for someplace to keep my arm while still laying close to her.
Gwen: And?
Brodie: What do you mean, "and?" That's like a metaphor for our whole relationship.

 

[Aquaman]

The only problem with spooning is............... you get your arm trapped under your GF and you can't get it out so it falls alseep and you don't want to yank it out or you will wake up your GF 🙁

Remember Chandler & Janice (Friend's) 🙂

Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[DurocShark]

never could spoon... Always get turned on with her butt snugged against my...

/picks up phone to call wife...

😀

 

[LordSnailz]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Dezign
I was born and raised in the midwest. 😀

Where in the midwest? I'm from the midwest as well, and I don't know any people as liberal with spoonship.

Throw me in the "I don't believe platonic relationships are possible if either involved are attracted to the other" camp. You're an attractive woman, so I honestly can't see a guy thinking it was completely platonic, but perhaps I'm not as physically transcendental as you.

Perhaps this is an extension of the materialist vs. mentalist in the mind-body problem? I bond with close friends on an intellectually (mentalist) intimate level, but I can't on a physical (materialist) level.

[edit]Trimmed the quote-level so as to not be perceived as "quotezilla" 🙂[/edit]

Heh. *maintains quotezilla status*

Kokomo, Indiana... and Rochester Hills, Michigan.

I spooned/cuddled with my girl friends Justine and Margie in high school, and cuddled with my girl/guy friends at the University of Michigan... my boyfriend Matt K., his roommate Minh, my boy Matt L., and my friend Jordan. I had a certain level of comfort with all of them, and Minh/Matt/Jordan NEVER pushed their limits.

I bond with close friends on both mentalist & materialist levels... varying degrees of each with different people, but still. I dunno, maybe I'm an anomaly.

Even you though there's clear communication regarding the platonic relationship or that they've never "tried' anything ... it's still hard to believe that they're "relaxed" during a spooning session. I mean it's more of a physical response than anything. Granted they understand and deep down inside don't want to try anything, I can't believe that all the guys would "relaxed" ... not possible! =)

 

[Jzero]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Dezign
I was born and raised in the midwest. 😀

Where in the midwest? I'm from the midwest as well, and I don't know any people as liberal with spoonship.

Throw me in the "I don't believe platonic relationships are possible if either involved are attracted to the other" camp. You're an attractive woman, so I honestly can't see a guy thinking it was completely platonic, but perhaps I'm not as physically transcendental as you.

Perhaps this is an extension of the materialist vs. mentalist in the mind-body problem? I bond with close friends on an intellectually (mentalist) intimate level, but I can't on a physical (materialist) level.

[edit]Trimmed the quote-level so as to not be perceived as "quotezilla" 🙂[/edit]

Heh. *maintains quotezilla status*

Kokomo, Indiana... and Rochester Hills, Michigan.

I spooned/cuddled with my girl friends Justine and Margie in high school, and cuddled with my girl/guy friends at the University of Michigan... my boyfriend Matt K., his roommate Minh, my boy Matt L., and my friend Jordan. I had a certain level of comfort with all of them, and Minh/Matt/Jordan NEVER pushed their limits.

I bond with close friends on both mentalist & materialist levels... varying degrees of each with different people, but still. I dunno, maybe I'm an anomaly.

I'm a pretty touchy-feely guy, but in that position, it's pretty much as close as I can physically get to her. Every part of my body that can touch her at one time is doing so.

It's one of the short list of things that is explicitly reserved for one person and one person alone. No matter how close a friend I am to one of my female friends, I'd not get in that position unless I was hoping to get somewhere else (MAKE A JUMP 😀). I would likely not push my limit, but I'd definitely be hoping she does the whole time.

 

[WinkOsmosis]

Originally posted by: Jzero

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Dezign
I was born and raised in the midwest. 😀

Where in the midwest? I'm from the midwest as well, and I don't know any people as liberal with spoonship.

Throw me in the "I don't believe platonic relationships are possible if either involved are attracted to the other" camp. You're an attractive woman, so I honestly can't see a guy thinking it was completely platonic, but perhaps I'm not as physically transcendental as you.

Perhaps this is an extension of the materialist vs. mentalist in the mind-body problem? I bond with close friends on an intellectually (mentalist) intimate level, but I can't on a physical (materialist) level.

[edit]Trimmed the quote-level so as to not be perceived as "quotezilla" 🙂[/edit]

Heh. *maintains quotezilla status*

Kokomo, Indiana... and Rochester Hills, Michigan.

I spooned/cuddled with my girl friends Justine and Margie in high school, and cuddled with my girl/guy friends at the University of Michigan... my boyfriend Matt K., his roommate Minh, my boy Matt L., and my friend Jordan. I had a certain level of comfort with all of them, and Minh/Matt/Jordan NEVER pushed their limits.

I bond with close friends on both mentalist & materialist levels... varying degrees of each with different people, but still. I dunno, maybe I'm an anomaly.

I'm a pretty touchy-feely guy, but in that position, it's pretty much as close as I can physically get to her. Every part of my body that can touch her at one time is doing so.

It's one of the short list of things that is explicitly reserved for one person and one person alone. No matter how close a friend I am to one of my female friends, I'd not get in that position unless I was hoping to get somewhere else (MAKE A JUMP 😀). I would likely not push my limit, but I'd definitely be hoping she does the whole time.

Roger that. Seems wierd to do that with platonic friends, but that's just my cultural composition.