I was able to get the NAS back up, after some difficulties. For some reason the mdadm raid arrays don't auto assemble at start which causes NFS to fail. This process takes a very long time because it has to wait for timeouts for every single export. Once I was able to console in I had to manually start the raids and mount the disks and export NFS shares. From there I was able to start up all the PVE nodes. I disabled nfs from starting up and added all the commands to start the raid in my startup script, and then also start NFS, so hopefully if ever this happens again it will at least startup properly.
It seems like things are working now but I will be bracing for HDD failures as hard shutdowns like that tend to be very bad. I'm sure I will run into lot of other failed stuff that I didn't notice yet but from what I see I am more or less back up now. either way this was a pretty serious failure that I really was not in a mood to deal with right now.
I unplugged my gaming machine for now. I need to figure this out before I try powering that up again. I think ultimatly I just need to put in the 3kv inverter for the server stuff and keep the 1200w one for the less important stuff. Then add another 3kv for the 2nd PDU. That was always the plan it just costs a lot.