Originally posted by: SagaLore
Originally posted by: Moonbeam
We don't need reform, we need the right kind of reform.
What is the right kind of reform, that you suggest?
First read again what I already said and think about it.
"The welfare problem will never be addressed because the underlying issue of self hate will not be faced.
People who hate themselves are insane. They feel they deserve what others have worked for or they pat themselves on the back to extreme for what they accomplish and ridicule others for lack of effort in not having the same because it makes they feel even more superior.
Welfare is self hate as I said above. We create the system that produces winners and losers instead of a society of love because we are all deeply sick and will not see it.
The answer to welfare, like the answer to every other problem in the world, is to have self respect. Only you can acquire your own real self respect because only you can relive and reverse the traumatic events in your childhood that caused you to hate yourself, and only you can face your own denial. Nobody can ever make you see. The world is dying because you can't do that. You are killing the world, nobody else, because the only thing you can change is you. You will never change because you are afraid to face what happened, to know what you really feel, even though all you have to do is feel it.
So what do people do. Some blame victims, they become the put down artist who kills the psyche of others. Some become defenders of victims and pretend the victim is not responsible for his own recovery.
People who need, who are the most down, are dangerous, vicious, and hungry. They are takers who think only of themselves. They are the mirror image of the vicious who put them down. They are vacuum sucking on vacuums.
You can't help others until you have saved yourself. Only then will you be clear and know what to do.
But to help people you have to allow them to help themselves. Everything you do to make yourself better adds to the good of the soul. It makes you feel a bit better and more confident. It is self love. It doesn't cure self hate, but it weakens the feeling of certainty that one is worthless, how we actually feel.
So all social programs require that those receiving benefits work or contribute something to get them and not be aware they are being given therapy of this kind.
You can help people only when they don't see that as the intention. People need opportunities to shine at something, to help others, to be a part of something, to feel wanted, to have something to give.
We are all God. You are an infinite being of light that has been destroyed by hate as a child. Instead of finding your true selves you fatten your egos in a sick system.
Every person is God. Love others so the love of God shines out of you. You are the solution to everything. God is only when YOU are real."
Now, given this information a number of things should be clear.
Welfare begins at home. You will know what to do for others if you can get past your own self hate. It's the physician heal thyself thing.
We all know it's better to teach fishing than giving away fish, but nobody will learn fishing who does not want to, which usually means there is a fear of failure so:
The goal if any plan should be to start wherever people are and build capacity. This means creating some space or environment, changing the system, so that people can have some opportunity to do for themselves, and to create something of worth. That can and should be done in a way that has nothing to do with helping them. People hate those who help them because they envy them. They compare who they are and who the helper is and use it to hate themselves more.
So you don't let people know that they are being given opportunities to do for themselves because it builds character. They will discover that later.
You must expect no reward nor demand any progress from people. Those who are defeated will recognize that right away and get even with you by failing.
People need each other. We need to learn to feel, and we need a place and others where we can get to how we hurt. The world is in deep need of healing.
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