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wedding question...........

CT2TXtech

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When one goes to a wedding, is he/she supposed to bring a gift. Is that an unwritten rule or something. Isnt it rude to attend a wedding and not bring a gift?
 
Good question.....I really think it depends on your relationship to the couple. In the asian culture, we usually give money if not a present.
 
Originally posted by: shuan24
Good question.....I really think it depends on your relationship to the couple. In the asian culture, we usually give money if not a present.


Really,

Well id assume that everyone who attends the wedding has some type of personal connection with either the groom or the bride, unless they are a guest of someone who is. Hmmmmm
 
Well I dont really know if that was a sarcastic response....

What I meant was if you are a close friend, best friend, or merely just an acquaintaince (sp?). Basically, theres not much expected of you if you were just an acquaintance.
 
I think it's tacky to show up at the reception with a gift. We always give our gifts before or after or have them shipped.

That being said, unless you're not able to afford one, you should always give some sort of gift.
 
Rule of thumb is to atleast give money or a gift with the value of the cost of the food you will eat at the reception. Example... My wedding the cost per person was $35 pp. ...

Edit: About it being tacky to show up with a gift. At the receptions there is normally a "cage" for gift cards, and a table nearby for gifts. They wont open them infront of you.. But at the gift opening the next day normally.
 
Originally posted by: shuan24
Well I dont really know if that was a sarcastic response....

What I meant was if you are a close friend, best friend, or merely just an acquaintaince (sp?). Basically, theres not much expected of you if you were just an acquaintance.


no wasnt sarcastic at all. i see your point, thanks

:beer:
 
Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
Rule of thumb is to atleast give money or a gift with the value of the cost of the food you will eat at the reception. Example... My wedding the cost per person was $35 pp. ...



AHhhhhhhhhhhh,

good rule of thumb twinkletoes. how was your wedding?
 
Originally posted by: CT2TXtech
Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
Rule of thumb is to atleast give money or a gift with the value of the cost of the food you will eat at the reception. Example... My wedding the cost per person was $35 pp. ...



AHhhhhhhhhhhh,

good rule of thumb twinkletoes. how was your wedding?

Very lovely 🙂 Went off without a hitch.. Cant believe its almost been a year already.
 
Originally posted by: CT2TXtech
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Not at the wedding, but at the gift-opening afterwards.

- M4H


U mean at the reception?

No, at the gift-opening, a separate event usually held at the bride's house. Showing up to any of the official wedding events (service, reception, inbetween) with a gift is as mentioned, really bad form. 😛

- M4H
 
I've always thought it was just an asian custom to give cash at weddings...but i may be ignorant.

Yeah, 50 bucks a person is the general rule of thumb.
 
Originally posted by: shuan24
I've always thought it was just an asian custom to give cash at weddings...but i may be ignorant.

Yeah, 50 bucks a person is the general rule of thumb.


Its ok, im ignorant too

 
I don't know where half of you people are from, but every wedding ive been to has a table for gifts.... you stick your gift there when you walk in the door...

and yes, bad form if you dont give them anything.... even if you dont know them well.
 
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Originally posted by: CT2TXtech
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Not at the wedding, but at the gift-opening afterwards.

- M4H


U mean at the reception?

No, at the gift-opening, a separate event usually held at the bride's house. Showing up to any of the official wedding events (service, reception, inbetween) with a gift is as mentioned, really bad form. 😛

- M4H



O, goes to show how much i know about weddings.

 
Originally posted by: CT2TXtech
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Originally posted by: CT2TXtech
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Not at the wedding, but at the gift-opening afterwards.

- M4H


U mean at the reception?

No, at the gift-opening, a separate event usually held at the bride's house. Showing up to any of the official wedding events (service, reception, inbetween) with a gift is as mentioned, really bad form. 😛

- M4H



O, goes to show how much i know about weddings.

Most guests dont show up at the gift opening... So its not bad form to bring a gift to the reception.. there is a special table set up there... The people normally at the gift opening is the family, and wedding party, and close friends.
 

The idea of giving at the wedding is to help the newlywed to start a new life, therefore it is best to give what you can afford but it is not a necessarily thing.

Most couples would appreciate gift money because they can get what ever they need instead of 5 coffee makers.

The cost of diner/dance is at least $50.00 per person, and the church ++ other related cost could easily put the wedding to $100.00 or more per guest. (I haven?t had a wedding for myself, but my older sister wedding cost over $30,000 USD in 1991 & we had about 100 guest)
 
Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
Originally posted by: CT2TXtech
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Originally posted by: CT2TXtech
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Not at the wedding, but at the gift-opening afterwards.

- M4H


U mean at the reception?

No, at the gift-opening, a separate event usually held at the bride's house. Showing up to any of the official wedding events (service, reception, inbetween) with a gift is as mentioned, really bad form. 😛

- M4H



O, goes to show how much i know about weddings.

Most guests dont show up at the gift opening... So its not bad form to bring a gift to the reception.. there is a special table set up there... The people normally at the gift opening is the family, and wedding party, and close friends.



THat makes sense to me. Hopefully the table will be stacked with present
😛
 
Originally posted by: lowtech


The cost of diner/dance is at least $50.00 per person, and the church ++ other related cost could easily put the wedding to $100.00 or more per guest. (I haven?t had a wedding for myself, but my older sister wedding cost over $30,000 USD in 1991 & we had about 100 guest)


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Originally posted by: dartworth
Originally posted by: lowtech


The cost of diner/dance is at least $50.00 per person, and the church ++ other related cost could easily put the wedding to $100.00 or more per guest. (I haven?t had a wedding for myself, but my older sister wedding cost over $30,000 USD in 1991 & we had about 100 guest)


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thats more than i made last year. My wedding wont cost that much
 
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