wedding question...........

[Mr N8]

I always give at least $100 (since its my wife and I attending) when we show up at a wedding. It is to help the couple get a good start, and if they are paying for the wedding, its a huge help in paying it off.

Fortunately, at my wedding, my parents paid for the reception. My uncle is a professional chef, and we were able to have a choice of beef tenderloin or chicken marsala for the main dish. Each plate cost ~$10, but my uncle said if we had hired him as a caterer (the catering was free as a gift to us) it would have been around $40 - $50 a plate.

Anyway, be generous at weddings, it won't go unnoticed.

 

[teckmaster]

It depends on if the Bride had a Bridal Shower or not. If there was a shower and you contributed to it, then you wouldn't need to feel obligated to give again. At my wedding, we got some gifts, but mostly money because my wife had a bridal shower.

 

[lowtech1]

Originally posted by: dartworth

Originally posted by: lowtech


The cost of diner/dance is at least $50.00 per person, and the church ++ other related cost could easily put the wedding to $100.00 or more per guest. (I haven?t had a wedding for myself, but my older sister wedding cost over $30,000 USD in 1991 & we had about 100 guest)

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I too though that was insane, but so many women specially Asian want the white wedding (trend set by queen Victoria) thing that the got from reading victoria secret.

My so also want a church/cathedral wedding, even those she is Chinese/Buddhist. We had several heated discussion because I thought the cost is just too crazy to spend on something like that. I personally want something simple with just the immediate family or Vegas wedding, or just the 2 of us at the bell temple in Chiang Mai Thailand.

 

[AntMan530]

Since there so many people in my family and we get invited so many times in the year, it really does cost a fortunate to be nice. My mom gives ~$400US everytime somone invites her. So in a year, maybe 4 cousins or something. We give even if we dont attend too which sucks, because the foods hella good! 🙂

 

[alkemyst]

I can't believe how few people know anything about manners/gifts.

Technically if you didn't get an invitation to the reception (which also may be a separate manners issue) you technically don't give a gift. If you are eating you should. In reality, it's always a nice thing to give at least something to a new couple. The problem is many are doing 'wedding' only invitations banking on a lot of gifts without having to feed anyone. I have been to two weddings where one I was invited to reception and another where I wasn't...both of these had gift tables at the wedding itself and many were confused by it (running back to their cars to get the gifts they were going to give at the reception)....one actually had the tackiness to put a sign something like "Leave gifts here if not invited to reception"....it was that bold and crass. The reception (I wasn't invited to this one) has supposedly a terrible affair also, rumor has it they told the restaurant a fraction of who was really coming and then made a scene to get everyone fed....people got fed but I am banking the restaurant someone wasn't paid after the fact. I stopped talking to them, they were friends of an ex g/f.

I was at a wedding last year. I knew the guy pretty well, not a close friend or anything though just a business I deal with a lot...he had a wedding/reception at his house with a band, food tent, chairs/tables etc. Mostly people he did business with and of course some of his relatives. I was helping him get situtated and was told he really appreciated me bringing a gift....out of 50 or so 'business' people he invited (mostly 20 year old somethings) only me and one other brought a gift. 1 of the idiots actually called this guy the night before (very late/after midnight) to see if he could garage his car at his house and have him pick him up before the wedding. He was worried about leaving his new Saturn being kept at the hotel !!!!

Anyways this guy did that, got the car situated (he had to rearrange his garage too), took him back to the hotel and was told to pick him up at 1pm, about 1 hour before the wedding (but not too early because I don't want to sit around bored). The guy got there at the time the dumbass told him to pick him up at and the idiot and his guest were still in bed....he was almost late to his own wedding over this.

The guy worried about his car didn't even bring a gift + brought the uninvited guest with him and he took food home, without even asking about that part....just started loading up a platter....it was like a scene out of a comedy. The left over food was supposed to help feed the host's kids while they were on their honeymoon.

I figured he spent maybe $50-80 a couple if you took just the guest benefits into account like band, chairs/tables/tent and food. There was a lot of good food there.

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[dquan97]

We spent about $10K for 250guests in my wedding. We had a lot of services donated, like the cake, flowers, pictures....

 

[CT2TXtech]

Originally posted by: dquan97
We spent about $10K for 250guests in my wedding. We had a lot of services donated, like the cake, flowers, pictures....

If all that stuff was donated, what did you spend 10 k on

 

[dquan97]

About $4K for food, $2K for honeymoon, $2K for reception hall, $500 for rings, $500 in gratuities, $1K in misc. expenses

 

[MystikMango]

Bring something, gift or money. When I got married, I was surprised that some of my friends gave gift cards to Target and other department stores. I thought, "Wow, how cheap."

But those cards becames very helpful, since I was able to buy what I wanted.

My wedding was about 150 people, and we spent about $8-10k. I don't remember the exact amount, my wife did all teh planning, I just told her to tell me when and where and I'd be there.

 

[Joker81]

Originally posted by: AntMan530
Since there so many people in my family and we get invited so many times in the year, it really does cost a fortunate to be nice. My mom gives ~$400US everytime somone invites her. So in a year, maybe 4 cousins or something. We give even if we dont attend too which sucks, because the foods hella good! 🙂

Whats her address im getting married this year 🙂.

 

[CT2TXtech]

Originally posted by: Joker81

Originally posted by: AntMan530
Since there so many people in my family and we get invited so many times in the year, it really does cost a fortunate to be nice. My mom gives ~$400US everytime somone invites her. So in a year, maybe 4 cousins or something. We give even if we dont attend too which sucks, because the foods hella good! 🙂

Whats her address im getting married this year 🙂.

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im getting married in may myself. What is her address. I could use that

😛:beer:

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: CT2TXtech

Originally posted by: dquan97
We spent about $10K for 250guests in my wedding. We had a lot of services donated, like the cake, flowers, pictures....

If all that stuff was donated, what did you spend 10 k on

Mailorder bride?

 

[CChaos]

My wife and I give $100, though for very close family we've given more. You have up to a year after the wedding to give a gift and still be safe. I actually got a gift from an old friend about a year after my wedding and I didn't realize we hadn't recieved a gift from him until then. If they are registered, we usually pick something to give them, but otherwise it's cold hard cash. Man we made out like bandits at our wedding! 😀

P.S. You might want to fix those emoticons that are fvcking up the thread.

 

[oog]

i always send gifts before the wedding. when you bring a gift to the wedding, you're just making someone transport it from the wedding site to somewhere else, which is a pain and the last thing that the couple wants to deal with at the end of the reception.

 

[bigalt]

ugh, getting an invitation to a wedding is like getting a speeding ticket. you know it's going to cost you a couple hundred bucks.

my friends and i made pacts that if we get married (and it applies for those of us who already have) that we'd leave the gift giving for the parental types, as we're all broke youngsters that came out the pocket already just to attend.

 

[rh71]

Of course you gotta give something. There's always a table for gifts at least at the reception. We gave $175 for the two of us for really good friends and $100 for co-worker types. Having my own wedding in Sept. and hopefully people give cash. It'll cost me ~$25k with all the relatives and the cost of the dinner course. I'll be needing the $$$.