Wedding Planning Woes...

[jagec]

Originally posted by: Tiamat
wedding seem to just cost a lot now-a-days. One of my buddies is bare minimum kinda guy, and he is forking over 60k$ for the wedding. To me that is just outrageous! But, he was telling me that the costs add up so fast its not even funny. If you want table clothes, "oh thats an upgrade of 3k$". If you want open bar with premium selection, "oh thats an upgrade of 8K$. If you want seat covers, "oh thats an upgrade of 3k$. If you want a nice center piece for the table, "oh thats a 3.5k$ rental with 7k$ buy out if people take the center pieces".

The list of upgrades goes on and on and on. Paying for a crappy DJ vs ok DJ, Valet parking fees, etc...

When it comes time for me to start working about this stuff, I am going to sit my girl down and ask her "Do you want this beautiful house, or do you want to piss away money on an expensive but mediocre wedding?". Wedding costs have gotten ludicrous.

BTW, I wouldn't expect my folks or her folks to pay for the wedding (my personal feeling). It would be my and my girl's wedding, so we should bare the cost alone. Then again, I don't believe in "xyz showers" to get free gifts and money either. I just would feel weird accepting money or gifts for something that I feel I bear responsibility in.

$60k is NOT a "bare minimum kinda guy" wedding.

Most of my friends spent under $10k on theirs. Doing your own decoration and calling in every favor you can really drives that cost down. I think the $3k wedding was one of the nicest.

 

[mooglemania85]

Originally posted by: Finalnight
since richardycc decided to drag up a 2 month old post, how bout an update?

fobot and gameplan have also been bumping up old threads today.

 

[KK]

spend $500 and get her dad a good clean hooker. See if he'll loosen up some.

Anyways, don't you think it you took half of what you are going to spend on this wedding and ran off to somewhere(Hawaii maybe) and got married and spend couple weeks there that she would be happy with that. It'll also would make the inlaws think twice of trying to be boss.

 

[StinkyPinky]

My wedding cost about $400 bucks. Happily married with a kid, and my wife and I have a great relationship. Plus we don't have a debt.

 

[skace]

A lot of people will spend money on DJs or a Band. At my sister's wedding, our DJ was an Ipod. You might be thinking this is stupid or cheap. I mean how can an Ipod possibly bring about the level of enjoyment as a professional DJ or a band singing all your songs? Well, for one, it meant crowd participation. People all got to pick their favorite songs on the fly and the night was really controlled by the party goers. This made it a lot more fun than expected. It meant the people there owned the night.

The Ipod had several playlists, 1 was my sisters handpicked wedding songs, another was her dance playlist, etc.

We did the wedding affordably in our backyard. Everyone loved it, everyone, the young, the old, even all the people from Turkey direct from his side of the family.

Oh and another thing you shouldn't get caught up in is catering a million course meals. I think those drag the weddings out unnecessarily and keep people off the dance floor. It creates an awkward environment where people are really only sticking around for that next meal or because the cake is coming out eventually.

We also bought our own liquor for an open bar and we hired one of the beer chicks from the golf course to run it. Everyone loved her. Extremely affordable setup.

Damnit... old thread? oh well.

 

[StageLeft]

Have your fiance ask. Her parents sound like fvcking cheapskates, anyway.

 

[Rudee]

I suggest you save some money for the eventual divorce which will follow later on. Statistics show it's highly probable.

 

[Anubis]

i guess no one goes for tradition anymore, my sister got married in 01, dad footed the entire bill(15K ish), except the rehersal dinner which the grooms fam paied for

only thing my sis and her husband paied for was their honneymoob

 

[tw1164]

Originally posted by: Dirigible

Originally posted by: HN
not wrong to ask.
wrong to expect.

Yup. Don't overspend on a one-day event that'll be over before you blink. Especially if it means your marriage starts out on shaky financial grounds.

Good advise, besides you'll be drunk too quickly to enjoy it anyways.

 

[andy9o]

Weddings are expensive, especially "typical" weddings. Mine was. Congrats.