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Originally posted by: Accipiter22
another thing I tend to do is rate girls waaay too high when I first meet them. Even if a girl is very nice, I probably had her pegged much higher when we first met. The effect this has, is although I'm over-bearing when I first meet a girl, after a week or two usually I cool on them somewhat, and naturally give them more space.

Anyway, I think this girl might be one of those people who just agrees with anyone on anything just to be nice, or for whatever reason, pretends to like a sports team or something. I don't know her that well so I won't judge. I'm still ignoring her for now.

On another note....there's a brother...adopted I think, or she is, I don't know. I saw them together the other day...and man did I pick up on a weird vibe between them......I thought I was imagining it...but I don't know....
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You the the Incest Vibe?
 
wow, you have a lot to learn...

So far, your first mistake is, never date a co-worker. Plain and Simple. There are exceptions, but generally, if you guys are working together, ie. Department etc. That's a bad move.

Second, you are being too forward and too quickly. The general rule is, show interest at first and then ignore them, you won't believe how attention seeking they will be when they start to ask themselves "I gave him my number! but why isn't he calling me!"

You are trying way too much and that is why you aren't getting any phone calls in return. The more you call, the more desparate you look, the less "in-demand" you come off to be, and lastly, the less catch you become.

I would a) stop communicating with her all together, if you're lucky, she'll start coming to you, if not who cares; that is why you are suppose to have many plates spinning at the same time.

danny~!
 
Originally posted by: JS80
You the the Incest Vibe?
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I'm really...I mean....I dunno....cause she's very friendly to everyone...she just seemed...I dunno. I haven't seen a sister act like this towards a brother before..

 
well, as a final post-script, I think whatever she didn't like, it was from friday. Now that I think of it, when I called her two days later, it was earlier on, and the 2nd call wasn't till much later to see why she bailed. So by Sunday she was already ignoring my calls. I ignored her all week, and when we were talking today about our weekend plans (she started the convo), I asked what she was up to tonight..she was blatantly trying to think of some excuse....she was like 'oh I'm going out to....um........hmm.....I'm going to take my dad out to eat'. When I asked if she wanted to hang out afterwards and go back downtown she says 'not at all. But thanks anyway'. I know I could've waited longer and see if she came back around, but I don't feel like getting surprised in a week or two and sucked back in. Honestly she's one of the hottest girls I've ever seen, and I will cut my balls off before I let ANY girl be able to play with me again.
 
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
well, as a final post-script, I think whatever she didn't like, it was from friday. Now that I think of it, when I called her two days later, it was earlier on, and the 2nd call wasn't till much later to see why she bailed. So by Sunday she was already ignoring my calls. I ignored her all week, and when we were talking today about our weekend plans (she started the convo), I asked what she was up to tonight..she was blatantly trying to think of some excuse....she was like 'oh I'm going out to....um........hmm.....I'm going to take my dad out to eat'. When I asked if she wanted to hang out afterwards and go back downtown she says 'not at all. But thanks anyway'. I know I could've waited longer and see if she came back around, but I don't feel like getting surprised in a week or two and sucked back in. Honestly she's one of the hottest girls I've ever seen, and I will cut my balls off before I let ANY girl be able to play with me again.
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I don't understand. If you see that she's trying to think of an excuse for why she's busy tonight, why would you go ahead and ask her out again anyway? No good could come of that. If there was any hope, it would be in pretending that you have a busy life too, rebuilding your image for a week or two, and then asking her out again when the answer isn't an obvious no.
 
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
final bump on this: Funny how even just meeting someone else makes you not care about the troubles you've had with someone else
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this is why you shouldn't just dwell with 1 girl and 1 girl alone. Make yourself available and make yourself in-demand. Believe me, the less attention you give, the more interested they become. Don't be surprised if she calls you days later...

From what you say, if you apply that in many instances, you will be a happy man, getting what you want 🙂 cheers

danny~!
 
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