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She probably decided to hang out with you because she was also knew, didn't know anybody, etc. But you may be going overboard with the invitations.
 
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: joshsquall
Sounds like she's not interested or she's playing games. You should probably leave it alone for a while and see what she does, if anything.
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*agrees*

you sound like you are suffocating her waaaaaaay too soon. if she is interested in you she'll let you know.
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*puts down ether rag...casually kicks it under chair*
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why do you keep inviting her to these high pressure events??? A club with all your friends and none of hers, A family picnic? wtf!!!

On that note why would you let any guys other than yourself talk to her at the club????? wtff!!!!!

For the record......going to a movie is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO LAME. what are you gonna do sit and stare at a screen for 2 hours. WTF!!!!! Take her to the mall and window shop.....go for a walk in the park anything other than ssitting in the dark in silence!

And jesus christ you called her 100 times in a weeks time....... BACK UP OFF IT. Make her chase you a bit.


FRIGGIN ROOKIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!

*throws hands up in the air* :disgust:
 
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
hmm thanks for the suggestions.....my fatal flaw with girls is DEFINETLY that I smother them. Here's how my logic goes:

'well I had a great time with that girl. I'll call her in a couple days to see if she wants to do something again. Since we had a great time, she should want to see me again right away". Literally, that's how I think. everytime. without any deviation from that mindset.
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dude a majore principle of sales is that people will want something more if it is more difficult to acquire and they feel like they have worked for it. keep that in mind. you are the prize man.

I know this may be hard to do but think about what it would be like to be a man with many options as far as women goes. And this one you are chasing is one of many. Do you think a guy with many options would behave like you do? No not at all. Act as if you are the guy with many options.
 
i would not her invite her to the family beach house... your coming off too strong... kinda blow her off and see if she calls you.
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: joshsquall
Sounds like she's not interested or she's playing games. You should probably leave it alone for a while and see what she does, if anything.
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*agrees*

you sound like you are suffocating her waaaaaaay too soon. if she is interested in you she'll let you know.
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:thumbsup:
 
my first thoughts are she probably wasnt comfortable in a night club "alone" with you and a bunch of your friends. it might have been better if she had a friend of her's there or just the 2 of you.
 
give it about a week between dates and don't call her so often...wait a couple/few days after the date before you call.

Also, I see no problem in calling twice in one day if she didn't answer. The first time don't leave a message. Wait a while and try calling back later that day. If she still doesn't answer just leave a message and say what you were calling about. THEN don't call again until she returns the call.
 
you're inviting her to the beach to hang out with your family for the 2nd date?

uhh...... riiiight.....
 
Originally posted by: gigapet
why do you keep inviting her to these high pressure events??? A club with all your friends and none of hers, A family picnic? wtf!!!

On that note why would you let any guys other than yourself talk to her at the club????? wtff!!!!!

For the record......going to a movie is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO LAME. what are you gonna do sit and stare at a screen for 2 hours. WTF!!!!! Take her to the mall and window shop.....go for a walk in the park anything other than ssitting in the dark in silence!

And jesus christ you called her 100 times in a weeks time....... BACK UP OFF IT. Make her chase you a bit.


FRIGGIN ROOKIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!

*throws hands up in the air* :disgust:
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It's true though, I've said this to my friends milllllions of times, but I just can't follow my own advice
 
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
Originally posted by: gigapet
why do you keep inviting her to these high pressure events??? A club with all your friends and none of hers, A family picnic? wtf!!!

On that note why would you let any guys other than yourself talk to her at the club????? wtff!!!!!

For the record......going to a movie is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO LAME. what are you gonna do sit and stare at a screen for 2 hours. WTF!!!!! Take her to the mall and window shop.....go for a walk in the park anything other than ssitting in the dark in silence!

And jesus christ you called her 100 times in a weeks time....... BACK UP OFF IT. Make her chase you a bit.


FRIGGIN ROOKIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!

*throws hands up in the air* :disgust:
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It's true though, I've said this to my friends milllllions of times, but I just can't follow my own advice
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haha i'm the exact same way sometimes. hope it all works out for you accipiter, seems like you've got a good attitude about the situation whatever may happen.

 
yeah, it sounded like you're semi-smothered her in a short amount of time...if you just met the girl, relax with all the planning, get to know her casually first. otherwise, go all out with a traditional date.
 
She's not interested.

Edit: Wait this is an interesting one. She seems really enthusiastic all the time yet is flakey? I know girls like this. It really is confusing.

And you kissed her after just meeting her, after the club? Talk about sealing it. How did you pull that off?
 
One thing you may have to look into to cover your ass is that you may have to inform your company about seeing a co-worker. I know at my job, you can be written up or terminated if you don't bring it to the attention of management.
 
Sounds like she's kind of an airhead anyways, or at least doesn't think too much through. Telling someone she'll go see a movie with them, then going with her brother and blowing off the other person without any notice isn't too cool. Then she does a similar thing to you, not returning a call when you had made some tentative plans to do something that day, just kind of blowing you off. It's one thing if she had an emergency, or something else came up, in which case she could've left you a message about it, but just not returning a call and then never apologizing is kind of rude/thoughtless.

I wouldn't say that she's not interested at this point, just that this is probably how she is all the time. If you do end up going out with her more, you'll have to get used to her blowing you off, not keeping appointments, forgetting about things, and in general doing things that will make you crazy beyond belief. Not worth it IMO.
 
Originally posted by: Descartes
Damn man, you're suffocating the woman. If she had any interest before she probably doesn't now, imo.

I don't think I've ever called anyone twice in the same day if they don't call me back. Don't do it.
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That's the way I look at it. If I call someone, their phone will show that I've called. The ball is in their court to call me back...
 
another thing I tend to do is rate girls waaay too high when I first meet them. Even if a girl is very nice, I probably had her pegged much higher when we first met. The effect this has, is although I'm over-bearing when I first meet a girl, after a week or two usually I cool on them somewhat, and naturally give them more space.

Anyway, I think this girl might be one of those people who just agrees with anyone on anything just to be nice, or for whatever reason, pretends to like a sports team or something. I don't know her that well so I won't judge. I'm still ignoring her for now.

On another note....there's a brother...adopted I think, or she is, I don't know. I saw them together the other day...and man did I pick up on a weird vibe between them......I thought I was imagining it...but I don't know....
 
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