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weezergirl

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Originally posted by: Jfur
Again, to be taken with a grain of salt, since I've never dated...but I would suggest, Confidence rather than Arrogance. Being really self-concious and totally lacking in self-esteem is not attractive, and I can see where Arrogance would be preferable to that. But Confidence I think, would be better than either.
I think the most attractive men are humble even though they can blow anyone else out of the water. They just are secure enough to not constantly flaunt it, they realize they are not the center of the universe. People that boast and brag are usually either greatly exaggerating/lying or so full of themselves that they borderline on sociopathic.
this is SO SO true. even on the internet. people who brag too much are "greatly exaggerating/lying or so full of themselves that they borderline on sociopathic". at least thats' the impression i get. so lame if you are bragging on the internet hehe.
 

Jfur

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Originally posted by: weezergirl
Originally posted by: Jfur
Again, to be taken with a grain of salt, since I've never dated...but I would suggest, Confidence rather than Arrogance. Being really self-concious and totally lacking in self-esteem is not attractive, and I can see where Arrogance would be preferable to that. But Confidence I think, would be better than either.
I think the most attractive men are humble even though they can blow anyone else out of the water. They just are secure enough to not constantly flaunt it, they realize they are not the center of the universe. People that boast and brag are usually either greatly exaggerating/lying or so full of themselves that they borderline on sociopathic.
this is SO SO true. even on the internet. people who brag too much are "greatly exaggerating/lying or so full of themselves that they borderline on sociopathic". at least thats' the impression i get. so lame if you are bragging on the internet hehe.
Well, you know that the *average* ATer has an IQ of 140 (tested while tired and performing seven other tasks simulataneously), is in the top .0005% of computer knowledge, and has a bodyfat of 3%, right? ;)
 

Mucman

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Originally posted by: Jfur
Originally posted by: weezergirl
Originally posted by: Jfur
Again, to be taken with a grain of salt, since I've never dated...but I would suggest, Confidence rather than Arrogance. Being really self-concious and totally lacking in self-esteem is not attractive, and I can see where Arrogance would be preferable to that. But Confidence I think, would be better than either.
I think the most attractive men are humble even though they can blow anyone else out of the water. They just are secure enough to not constantly flaunt it, they realize they are not the center of the universe. People that boast and brag are usually either greatly exaggerating/lying or so full of themselves that they borderline on sociopathic.
this is SO SO true. even on the internet. people who brag too much are "greatly exaggerating/lying or so full of themselves that they borderline on sociopathic". at least thats' the impression i get. so lame if you are bragging on the internet hehe.
Well, you know that the *average* ATer has an IQ of 140 (tested while tired and performing seven other tasks simulataneously), is in the top .0005% of computer knowledge, and has a bodyfat of 3%, right? ;)
Darnit! You mean I am only average? :p

 

Jfur

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Well, you know that the *average* ATer has an IQ of 140 (tested while tired and performing seven other tasks simulataneously), is in the top .0005% of computer knowledge, and has a bodyfat of 3%, right? ;)
Darnit! You mean I am only average? :p[/quote]

well, *you* actually seem to go in the opposite direction and be self-deprecating at times :Q Getting closer to perfect I guess... just don't go too far to the other side :)
 

Mucman

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Originally posted by: Jfur
Well, you know that the *average* ATer has an IQ of 140 (tested while tired and performing seven other tasks simulataneously), is in the top .0005% of computer knowledge, and has a bodyfat of 3%, right? ;)
Darnit! You mean I am only average? :p
well, *you* actually seem to go in the opposite direction and be self-deprecating at times :Q Getting closer to perfect I guess... just don't go too far to the other side :)[/quote]

LOL, me, self-deprecating? Just being a realist :p... don't worry you will be sick of me strutting my stuff after my date ;)

 

dfi

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Originally posted by: Noriaki
you never let on how much you like a girl. "Oh, Debbie. Hi."
Never quite could figure out why that is. Someone care to explain why you are suppose to do this?
I'll give this a shot.

People don't value things that are easily obtainable. This applies to guys and gals. Actually, I'm sure someone could find an example where something easily obtainable is also highly valued. I mean, we all get oxygen pretty easily, and we highly value it. But I can't recall the last time I held a party in honor of oxygen.

dfi
 

FSUpaintball

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Originally posted by: dfi
Originally posted by: Noriaki
you never let on how much you like a girl. "Oh, Debbie. Hi."
Never quite could figure out why that is. Someone care to explain why you are suppose to do this?
I'll give this a shot.

People don't value things that are easily obtainable. This applies to guys and gals. Actually, I'm sure someone could find an example where something easily obtainable is also highly valued. I mean, we all get oxygen pretty easily, and we highly value it. But I can't recall the last time I held a party in honor of oxygen.

dfi



You are correct. Also, if you obviously like them SO much, it'll make you appear needy. Girls see that as a sign of weakness (and not the good kind of weakness). If there's one thing that girls hate, it's an insecure man. And they know how hard it is to find a man with few insecurities.
 

Geekbabe

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Originally posted by: Jfur
Again, to be taken with a grain of salt, since I've never dated...but I would suggest, Confidence rather than Arrogance. Being really self-concious and totally lacking in self-esteem is not attractive, and I can see where Arrogance would be preferable to that. But Confidence I think, would be better than either.
I think the most attractive men are humble even though they can blow anyone else out of the water. They just are secure enough to not constantly flaunt it, they realize they are not the center of the universe. People that boast and brag are usually either greatly exaggerating/lying or so full of themselves that they borderline on sociopathic.


Very true, in fact some of the best dudes are actually a tad self decpreciating,not a lot mind you but just aware of their own folliables and able to laugh at themselves.
 

gotsmack

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first dates are easy, but what do you talk about on dates 2 & 3 when you already run out of good conversation?
 

Koing

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Just talk some more.

Ask her whats shes been up to, what shes going to do in a few days time, if she has any interesting plans, just talk about anything. Ask her about herself. Tell her what your going to do.

Convosation comes naturally is best, doesn't matter what subject as long as its from you. If shes interested in you it doesn't matter what you talk about. If shes not interested in you then she'll be bored with most topics. But not herself though;)

 

dfi

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Originally posted by: gotsmack
first dates are easy, but what do you talk about on dates 2 & 3 when you already run out of good conversation?
Ask when it's her turn to pay for the date. Then start working out a payment plan.

dfi
 

SSP

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Originally posted by: sandorski
Mention "hooters" lots, women like hearing poetic things! ;)
Does it arouse you when people say hooters? if so....




hooters..... Hooters!....... HOOTERS!!!! HOOOOTTTEEEERRSSS!!!!




;)







hoots
 

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