OP, I wish I could say your framing of what she's saying is the most willfully stupid thing I've seen guys on here say with regards to sexual agency, but it sadly is maybe like the 100th.
Its revenge porn because they're spreading it solely out of an attempt to cause her harm. Your argument is like if you have a friend that broke up with a woman and the dude shared sex content she recorded with him to her employer in an attempt to get her fired.
It involves a woman consenting to sex, so yeah they probably are.
She kinda did. She's just rightfully pointing out that they're attempting to cause her harm by spreading this, which is literally defined as revenge porn in Virginia.
Not only that, but being capitalist about it as well. Just more hypocrisy from right wingers.