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<< i think that the correct thing would be to be straight to my girlfriend about this and tell her that its not working out, but i cant stand to see her devastated like she will no doubt be. >>

You should have thought about that. Guess you've a lesson to learn.

nik
 


<< Guess you've a lesson to learn >>



and ive learnt it the hard way... for a change

thing is im not quite sure what it is:

dont be with someone you dont like!?!? dont covet other girls?!?!? be faithful ?? stfu and stop bitching at lease you have somone!??!
 


<< be faithful?? >>

*ding ding ding*

give the boy a prize!

And, yes, I have someone. I have someone that I love very much and wish to marry some day. I've learned things the hard way, and I thought I was pretty stupid for having to do it. Humility is your friend.

nik
 
franguinho,


I get the feeling here that you're basically just BS'ing yourself in an effort to rationalise what it is that you're really hoping will happen, that the curent g/friend will get mildly pissed at you,avoid you for a week pr so and you'll get a chance to bang the other chixor without anybody being the wiser.

Whatever you do decide to do,at least respect yourself and the two women involved here to make it a deliberate concious choice.. and have the decenceny to offer them the same options that you seem to feel you are entitled to.
 


<< << be faithful?? >>

*ding ding ding*

give the boy a prize! >>



What do we have for him johnny? 😀

good for you nik about your lady! 🙂
 


<< franguinho,


I get the feeling here that you're basically just BS'ing yourself in an effort to rationalise what it is that you're really hoping will happen, that the curent g/friend will get mildly pissed at you,avoid you for a week pr so and you'll get a chance to bang the other chixor without anybody being the wiser.

Whatever you do decide to do,at least respect yourself and the two women involved here to make it a deliberate concious choice.. and have the decenceny to offer them the same options that you seem to feel you are entitled to. >>



🙁 🙁

i get that feeling too. im really confused i guess. i called my ex last week, we went out for 3 years and are now best friends, and she said i needed to take some time off to sort out exactly what i want from my life cuz this way im just hurting myself and the ppl around me. thing is ive tried doing this but when im with someone i feel trapped and when im single i feel empty and needy of the affection that random hooking up/one night stands cant provide... 🙁 😕
 
what the hell is wrong with you older guys? this kid is freakin teen! kids now do things differently. sex is as common as a peck in the 80's.

ffmcobalt: to you, what he is doing is "wrong". but to him it is a choice for him to make. your standard is just that.. a standard that fits for you and people with the same view point.

franguinho: you sure she's a virgin? girls at that age at my school seens to have a self-repairing hyman that they stay a virgin again and again.

cheating is a grey area, when do you cross it? when you have sex or when you starts to have feelings for another? to me, you've already did, might as well go all the way. just don't tell the truth when you break up. don't give me any bull about 'honesty is the best thing'. if you tell someone you are leaving them for another, that's just adding fire to hurt that person. if my gf was cheating on me, i'd rather not know.

also, i practically change gf weekly at my school, it's fun and it builts characters... no one gets hurt, and we just move on.
 


<< what the hell is wrong with you older guys? this kid is freakin teen! kids now do things differently. sex is as common as a peck in the 80's.

ffmcobalt: to you, what he is doing is "wrong". but to him it is a choice for him to make. your standard is just that.. a standard that fits for you and people with the same view point.

franguinho: you sure she's a virgin? girls at that age at my school seens to have a self-repairing hyman that they stay a virgin again and again.

cheating is a grey area, when do you cross it? when you have sex or when you starts to have feelings for another? to me, you've already did, might as well go all the way. just don't tell the truth when you break up. don't give me any bull about 'honesty is the best thing'. if you tell someone you are leaving them for another, that's just adding fire to hurt that person. if my gf was cheating on me, i'd rather not know.

also, i practically change gf weekly at my school, it's fun and it builts characters... no one gets hurt, and we just move on. >>



hey!!! im 18!!! lol im a grown up!!! 😀
yep dbzwukan im 100% sure shes a virgin but i know its more due to lack of opportunity with anything other than complete scum than lack of wanting it. our school is pretty prude. sex is like taboo! 🙁
well whether i cheat or not, i know one thing for sure: my gf will not know that this crush girl ever existed. im not sure what ill do about the cheat or dont cheat. (LOL to cheat or not to cheat...) i know that it is morally wrong, but so many ppl say that ya have to do it at least once in your life and why not get that out of the way here in the relationship that practically has an end date due to the fact that im bound for college in 6 months anyway.

ill stick with my original resolution and wait for a week and let the dust settle, figuratively speaking of course. (LOL 😛)
after a week ill see how things are going with both girls and what ill do next.
 


<< Well it is high school... >>



so? that doesnt necessarily mean its ok to like go big pimpin' 😛

There's a time and place for everything and that's college.
 
No, in college you actually have normal relationships. In high school everyone cheats on everybody.



<<

<< Well it is high school... >>



so? that doesnt necessarily mean its ok to like go big pimpin' 😛

There's a time and place for everything and that's college. >>

 


<< No, in college you actually have normal relationships. In high school everyone cheats on everybody. >>



LOL i know... any excuse to use that college quote from South Park!

I think I've had my fair share of serious relationships though... from 14 to 17 i was with the same girl (3 years and 1 month) and she left me 🙁 ... from 17 and a half until about 18 (5 months) ive been with this other girl.

before 14 i was too young and immature (no comments) to fool around with girls. i had half a year from 17 to 17 and a half. thats it.

now i have from 18 to 18 and a half before college ...
 


<< one word: menage a twas >>



the emphasis being on "one word" 😀 😀

ive already been told to have sex with them individually... gosh! i hadnt contemplated this yet! nice! LOL!

jk

😛
 
I can't believe all you people that are telling him to just dick them both around. That's not right. How can you look at women as some object? heh..

You have to give respect to get respect. How can you expect a successful relationship while treating someone like that? You can't... but now that I think about it, maybe you're not expecting a successful relationship.. :Q

It sounds like you're in a pretty tough boat. The only thing to do is be honest. If you're not interested in your girlfriend anymore, then you need to tell her so. It's not fair for the both of you.. and it will end up being much easier on the both of you in the end. You always win when you tell the truth.

She's 16 and you're 18. So what? That doesen't mean you should treat her like she's going to be gone in a few years anyway. If she was 25 and you ere 27, it wouldn't matter. I'm not talking to franguinho, I'm talking to all the people who say "pick whoevers hottest". Whats wrong with you people? lol.. That's not love.

The bottom line is that it sounds like your relationship isn't very much of a relationship anymore. People who say there's no way do it without someone getting hurt are right. But the best thing you can do is be honest. She may be hurt, but you have to take care of yourself, too. If you're not happy in the relationship, then it needs to at least be addressed between you.

My girlfriend is 17 - I'm almost 21. A lot of people see that as being weird. I don't think its weird at all. I know it's normal to us.. lol. I don't see her as somehow less than me because she's younger. I would never do anything to hurt her. We love eachother. Seems to be a rather strange concept amongst teenagers these days.

By the way, it's menage a trois. 😛 And don't even think about it.. 😀
 


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<< Theres NO way i would even dare bring up the subject about there being 'someone else' with my current girlfriend, thats just wrong.

And baffled2, actually i DONT mind hurting myself one bit if it means that my girlfriend wont be hurt. I cant stand the thought hurting and disappointing her like that again. 🙁 >>




The thing is there's no such thing as a pain free solution. I would just buck up and be a man here and tell her that you went back with her too soon.Now,this could present some problems if you still want to see her along with the other girl as she just might tell you to take all the space you need.. as far away from her as possible,but you will at least have been honest with her and your current torment will be over. Not a perfect ending but a lot less potentially ugly than
if you keeping her believing she's your g/friend while you are out pursing this other girl and she finds out about it.


Besides,don't flatter yourself here dude,she's 16, you'll be a dim,vague unpleasant memory in short order, that you can take to the bank ! 😀 >>



DAMN YOUR GOOD!!!!!! Can you be my therapist?

FreAk😀
 


<< What an awesome problem to have... >>



somebody already said this and heres the answer: NO YOU DONT!

this problem sucks big time.
 


<<

<<

<< Theres NO way i would even dare bring up the subject about there being 'someone else' with my current girlfriend, thats just wrong.

And baffled2, actually i DONT mind hurting myself one bit if it means that my girlfriend wont be hurt. I cant stand the thought hurting and disappointing her like that again. 🙁 >>




The thing is there's no such thing as a pain free solution. I would just buck up and be a man here and tell her that you went back with her too soon.Now,this could present some problems if you still want to see her along with the other girl as she just might tell you to take all the space you need.. as far away from her as possible,but you will at least have been honest with her and your current torment will be over. Not a perfect ending but a lot less potentially ugly than
if you keeping her believing she's your g/friend while you are out pursing this other girl and she finds out about it.


Besides,don't flatter yourself here dude,she's 16, you'll be a dim,vague unpleasant memory in short order, that you can take to the bank ! 😀 >>



DAMN YOUR GOOD!!!!!! Can you be my therapist?

FreAk😀 >>



LOL she IS good! 🙂
 


<< I can't believe all you people that are telling him to just dick them both around. That's not right. How can you look at women as some object? heh..

You have to give respect to get respect. How can you expect a successful relationship while treating someone like that? You can't... but now that I think about it, maybe you're not expecting a successful relationship.. :Q

It sounds like you're in a pretty tough boat. The only thing to do is be honest. If you're not interested in your girlfriend anymore, then you need to tell her so. It's not fair for the both of you.. and it will end up being much easier on the both of you in the end. You always win when you tell the truth.

She's 16 and you're 18. So what? That doesen't mean you should treat her like she's going to be gone in a few years anyway. If she was 25 and you ere 27, it wouldn't matter. I'm not talking to franguinho, I'm talking to all the people who say "pick whoevers hottest". Whats wrong with you people? lol.. That's not love.

The bottom line is that it sounds like your relationship isn't very much of a relationship anymore. People who say there's no way do it without someone getting hurt are right. But the best thing you can do is be honest. She may be hurt, but you have to take care of yourself, too. If you're not happy in the relationship, then it needs to at least be addressed between you.

My girlfriend is 17 - I'm almost 21. A lot of people see that as being weird. I don't think its weird at all. I know it's normal to us.. lol. I don't see her as somehow less than me because she's younger. I would never do anything to hurt her. We love eachother. Seems to be a rather strange concept amongst teenagers these days.

By the way, it's menage a trois. 😛 And don't even think about it.. 😀 >>



LOL a lot of ppl seem to be offended by the remarks some less mature or concerned members made... well i know most of them are BSing so its all good 🙂

exactly... i dont think we have much of a relationship anymore... trouble is she still seems to think we do... ill wait for a while until she starts realising we dont and then break it to her as gently as possible...
 
well, if you're not going to take my advice and get some action ... let's go over getting dumped on purpose....
hmmm you can do this AFTER you get some action too and want to get rid of the ho's

1. pick your nose/butt crack infront of her. added bonus, pretend to eat whatever you pick.
2. take up smoking.
3. don't use speedstick to the point where if you do the "chicken run" your pit will spread the "onion smell" all over the room.
 


<< well, if you're not going to take my advice and get some action ... let's go over getting dumped on purpose....
hmmm you can do this AFTER you get some action too and want to get rid of the ho's

1. pick your nose/butt crack infront of her. added bonus, pretend to eat whatever you pick.
2. take up smoking.
3. don't use speedstick to the point where if you do the "chicken run" your pit will spread the "onion smell" all over the room. >>



LMAO 😀 😀

well i was thinking more along the lines of be cold and distant and stuff ... i could never pull $hit like this off!! well i do smoke already so theres an advantage... but so does she. and its only socially so thats all good. i dont think id pick my buttcrack and pretend to eat it for any girl... as charming as it may sound 😉
 


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<<

<< Theres NO way i would even dare bring up the subject about there being 'someone else' with my current girlfriend, thats just wrong.

And baffled2, actually i DONT mind hurting myself one bit if it means that my girlfriend wont be hurt. I cant stand the thought hurting and disappointing her like that again. 🙁 >>




The thing is there's no such thing as a pain free solution. I would just buck up and be a man here and tell her that you went back with her too soon.Now,this could present some problems if you still want to see her along with the other girl as she just might tell you to take all the space you need.. as far away from her as possible,but you will at least have been honest with her and your current torment will be over. Not a perfect ending but a lot less potentially ugly than
if you keeping her believing she's your g/friend while you are out pursing this other girl and she finds out about it.


Besides,don't flatter yourself here dude,she's 16, you'll be a dim,vague unpleasant memory in short order, that you can take to the bank ! 😀 >>



DAMN YOUR GOOD!!!!!! Can you be my therapist?

FreAk😀 >>




lol, thanks, I spent 16 yrs providing mental health services that oughta come in handy once in awhile !!!
 
damn i knew there was something up with all of that perfectly reasonable and rational advice... ha! 😛
 
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