*UPDATED!!* TORN BETWEEN 2 GIRLS :(

[Alex]

Evadman:



<< I wish I had this problem. >>



Dude, NO YOU DON'T! you seriously have NO idea what im going through

johneetrash:

thx for the advice... i just wish i hadnt managed to get through to her to apoligise tho! it was too damn impulsive... but its true... better sooner than later... try not to be a jackas... eheheh i will!

 

[Pepsei]

<< Dude now thats just wrong. >>


and what you're doing isn't?

trust me, you will no have any significant impact on their lives as everyone gets older...

it's like a mole, you pull it off now, 10 years from now, you don't remember the pain....

 

[Alex]

OFFICIAL UPDATE OF SITUATION:

Ok, well here i am... Forgot to mention that yesterday we had a huge fight on the phone (me and gf). I'll see what happens today on the phone, as ill prolly not see her till the weekend. I dont think shes thaaat mad, though. Although she did question why we got back together in the first place.

I suppose i'll ride this through (no pun intended) for another week and see how things go. My gf is not in my highschool so i only see her during weekends. The crush IS in my highschool and i chill with her almost everyday after class and we flirt a lil and i know she would hook up with me.

What I'm scared of is if this is indeed only a physical thing like i think it is, then after i DO hook up with her then I'll loose interest and want to get back together with my gf maybe and im sorry but after 2 breakups in 2 weeks theres NO returning. Thats why cheating is so appealing; she lives in another part of town (gf), so i could easily take out my crush and hook up with her and get that out of my system and i might just want to still be with my gf. I'm sorry i prolly sound like a total selfish a$$hole. These are my last 6 months in the country, though and i want them to be fun, i dont want to be attached to someone that i dont want to be with merely not to hurt them.

Ok this is getting too long...

 

[Alex]

<<

<< Dude now thats just wrong. >>


and what you're doing isn't?

trust me, you will no have any significant impact on their lives as everyone gets older...

it's like a mole, you pull it off now, 10 years from now, you don't remember the pain.... >>



I suppose its true that i wont have any effect on their lives and vice-versa, but thats no reason to treat them like objects... If it makes you feel any better I am currently sleeping with my gf, but the crush is a virgin and that WOULD be sooo wrong.
Anyway well i know ill definitely break it off with my gf when i go to college (if i havent already)...

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

<< Azraele



<< I think the kindest thing you could do for her is to be straight with her. Be gentle, but be straight. To continue in a relationship with her would be a mistake and most likely a disaster, since you ahve already admitted you're thinking of cheating on her. >>



Thats what i did the first time round... and it didnt do much good. She was devastated.
Thing is i just CANT do this again only 2 weeks later. Difference is this time im SURE of what i want in my life. >>

You mean you can't do this only 2 weeks later without appearing as a complete idiot - you might as well follow through and be yourself, then you'll have more time to spend with the girl in your own highschool.

 

[Hammer]

Don't cheat on her. One of the things most important to me personally is loyalty. Loyal to your friends, family, and yes, even your GF. Tell your GF that you need think you two need to take a 'break' and see other people. She'll know whats up.

 

[Alex]

To_Ma-Ma:


<< You mean you can't do this only 2 weeks later without appearing as a complete idiot - you might as well follow through and be yourself, then you'll have more time to spend with the girl in your own highschool. >>



Hmmmm myself tells me to break up with her but shes only 16 and this will devastate her (fakk modesty right now, i know she feels strongly about me)

hammer09:


<< Don't cheat on her. One of the things most important to me personally is loyalty. Loyal to your friends, family, and yes, even your GF. Tell your GF that you need think you two need to take a 'break' and see other people. She'll know whats up. >>



Well I used to think cheating was the wrongest thing in the world and hell i havent yet but i know ppl who have and they said ya have to do it at least once to realise what its like and why ya shouldnt in the future and in fact itll make ya never wanna do it again.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

<< WHAT DO I DOOO???? >>

Well, for one, you can stop being a jackhole. Make a decision, cry over it, then move on with life. The more you stay where you are, the more you're going to damage yourself and both the relationships between you and them. If you're dating one, drop the other -that easy. Own up to your responsibilities as a man.



<< I've also contemplated cheating on her with the other girl meanwhile. >>

Oh really? Then you aren't a man at all. You don't deserve either. I suggest you drop both relationships down to light friendships while you straighten your twisted head out. You got some problems, man. I hope you don't get married before you fix your thought process! :|

Ugh... you piss me off.

nik

 

[CKDragon]

<< Well I used to think cheating was the wrongest thing in the world and hell i havent yet but i know ppl who have and they said ya have to do it at least once to realise what its like and why ya shouldnt in the future and in fact itll make ya never wanna do it again. >>



...and then there are people who get away with it without being caught. Those people end up becoming lifetime cheaters because they got away with it once and to them, the thrill and excitement of doing something they're not supposed to be doing is worth the risk. Meanwhile the rest of society looks down on them.

You should strive to be better than that.

CK

 

[Pepsei]

<< I suppose its true that i wont have any effect on their lives and vice-versa, but thats no reason to treat them like objects... If it makes you feel any better I am currently sleeping with my gf, but the crush is a virgin and that WOULD be sooo wrong.
Anyway well i know ill definitely break it off with my gf when i go to college (if i havent already)... >>



no, that's not what i mean... just because you sleep with them doesn't mean you're treating them like objects.

also, sleeping is sleeping, virginity is just an label placed to make it sound special even thou it is not. Sooo.... just
get rid of her virginity and you'll feel better. BETTER you than someone else . think about it.
being experienced means you could possibily 'aid' your crush in enjoying her first time.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

<< no, that's not what i mean... just because you sleep with them doesn't mean you're treating them like objects.

also, sleeping is sleeping, virginity is just an label placed to make it sound special even thou it is not. Sooo.... just
get rid of her virginity and you'll feel better. BETTER you than someone else . think about it.
being experienced means you could possibily 'aid' your crush in enjoying her first time. >>

:Q People in this thread make me sick!

nik :disgust: :frown:

 

[Alex]

<<

<< Well I used to think cheating was the wrongest thing in the world and hell i havent yet but i know ppl who have and they said ya have to do it at least once to realise what its like and why ya shouldnt in the future and in fact itll make ya never wanna do it again. >>



...and then there are people who get away with it without being caught. Those people end up becoming lifetime cheaters because they got away with it once and to them, the thrill and excitement of doing something they're not supposed to be doing is worth the risk. Meanwhile the rest of society looks down on them.

You should strive to be better than that.

CK >>



very good point.

 

[Alex]

<<

<< I suppose its true that i wont have any effect on their lives and vice-versa, but thats no reason to treat them like objects... If it makes you feel any better I am currently sleeping with my gf, but the crush is a virgin and that WOULD be sooo wrong.
Anyway well i know ill definitely break it off with my gf when i go to college (if i havent already)... >>



no, that's not what i mean... just because you sleep with them doesn't mean you're treating them like objects.

also, sleeping is sleeping, virginity is just an label placed to make it sound special even thou it is not. Sooo.... just
get rid of her virginity and you'll feel better. BETTER you than someone else . think about it.
being experienced means you could possibily 'aid' your crush in enjoying her first time. >>



another good argument but i dont think ill even try...

 

[johneetrash]

i agree that virginity isnt that big a deal, but you dont just sleep with someone and break up with them.

the only way i'd ever do that was if you both wanted to break up with each other and wanted some breakup nookie or something.

thinking about cheating should be that big of a deal either. everyone does it. BUT it's different if you actually do cheat. cheating is bad. thinking isnt

 

[Alex]

<<

<< WHAT DO I DOOO???? >>

Well, for one, you can stop being a jackhole. Make a decision, cry over it, then move on with life. The more you stay where you are, the more you're going to damage yourself and both the relationships between you and them. If you're dating one, drop the other -that easy. Own up to your responsibilities as a man.



<< I've also contemplated cheating on her with the other girl meanwhile. >>

Oh really? Then you aren't a man at all. You don't deserve either. I suggest you drop both relationships down to light friendships while you straighten your twisted head out. You got some problems, man. I hope you don't get married before you fix your thought process! :|

Ugh... you piss me off.

nik >>



seriously, YOURE the only one whose being a "jackhole" here. this is a legitimate problem and i DO need advice. if youre not gonna give any then take your
crap elsewhere.



<< People in this thread make me sick! >>



gee sorry if i her yer feelings darling...

 

[Pepsei]

<< :Q People in this thread make me sick! >>



dude, just because i'm preaching... does mean i do the samething...

oh that still make you sick doesn't it? well, think about it this way, sick + sick = okay

this boy is probably going to do something bad (in most people's opinion) anyway. i don't believe what people said here can affect the ultimate outcome.

i just like to push buttons.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

<< seriously, YOURE the only one whose being a "jackhole" here. this is a legitimate problem and i DO need advice. if youre not gonna give any then take your crap elsewhere. >>

I did give you advice. Read my post again, you disrespectful, womanizing little boy.



<< another good argument but i dont think ill even try... >>

good boy

now run along and grow up

nik

 

[Alex]

<< i agree that virginity isnt that big a deal, but you dont just sleep with someone and break up with them.

the only way i'd ever do that was if you both wanted to break up with each other and wanted some breakup nookie or something.

thinking about cheating should be that big of a deal either. everyone does it. BUT it's different if you actually do cheat. cheating is bad. thinking isnt >>



yeah but theres so much thinking/covetting one can do before actually wanting to try it... hey eve bit the damn apple didnt she??!

"Just cause youre on a diet doesnt mean ya cant look at the menu!" LOL
so true

 

[Alex]

<<

<< seriously, YOURE the only one whose being a "jackhole" here. this is a legitimate problem and i DO need advice. if youre not gonna give any then take your crap elsewhere. >>

I did give you advice. Read my post again, you disrespectful, womanizing little boy.



<< another good argument but i dont think ill even try... >>

good boy

now run along and grow up

nik >>



ohhh cmon now

read the first post in this thread. the warning was addressed to ppl like you.



<< stop being a jackhole. make a decision and get on with your life. >>



Wow. thanks. that was enlightening.
dont bother posting here anymore.

read my sig quote... again adressed to ppl like you. maybe i should post in your toilet nic...

 

[Hammer]

Just remember, once a cheat, always a cheat.



<< Well I used to think cheating was the wrongest thing in the world and hell i havent yet but i know ppl who have and they said ya have to do it at least once to realise what its like and why ya shouldnt in the future and in fact itll make ya never wanna do it again. >>

 

[meaty]

So did the pics ever get posted? lol

 

[Alex]

<< Just remember, once a cheat, always a cheat.



<< Well I used to think cheating was the wrongest thing in the world and hell i havent yet but i know ppl who have and they said ya have to do it at least once to realise what its like and why ya shouldnt in the future and in fact itll make ya never wanna do it again. >>

>>



yes... i heard that too but i have this one very close friend and she cheated on her boyfriend once and it made her realise how wrong it is and she will NEVER every cheat on ANYONE again...

i have this other friend that says that "what ya cant see cant hurt ya" i suppose this is true too. i mean she may be cheating on me right now but i dont know so im not hurt at all and i dont suspect that she is at all. this works both ways. although id prolly have a damn guilty conscience!

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

I don't understand how you can play with them. I don't understand how you can just piss on them both and then act like it's all your decision which one to choose. Ya know what would take some guts? Get together with the three of you, and talk about it. Tell each one of them that you've been cheating on your girlfriend emotionally and that you're not strong or committed enough to respect a current relationship.

Then choose which one you'll be with. I'll be surprised if either of them stays with you. And if they do, they're asking for the pain that you're going to give them, and then it's both of you. But right now, you have a decision to make, and some serious appoligies either way.

Why is it so hard to see that? Why can't you just say "okay, I'm being a dork" and be a man? Your pride will bring you down, eventually. If you're not going to stand up to it, you'll fall for it later -and that's something that I hate to see. It happened to me. Just trying to help.

nik

 

[Alex]

<< So did the pics ever get posted? lol >>



nope

 

[Alex]

<< I don't understand how you can play with them. I don't understand how you can just piss on them both and then act like it's all your decision which one to choose. Ya know what would take some guts? Get together with the three of you, and talk about it. Tell each one of them that you've been cheating on your girlfriend emotionally and that you're not strong or committed enough to respect a current relationship.

Then choose which one you'll be with. I'll be surprised if either of them stays with you. And if they do, they're asking for the pain that you're going to give them, and then it's both of you. But right now, you have a decision to make, and some serious appoligies either way.

Why is it so hard to see that? Why can't you just say "okay, I'm being a dork" and be a man? Your pride will bring you down, eventually. If you're not going to stand up to it, you'll fall for it later -and that's something that I hate to see. It happened to me. Just trying to help.

nik >>



gee, sorry we got off on the wrong foot nik.

i see your point of view but since they dont even know eachother this would be wrong. also its one thing for me to share this with all of y'all to try and get advice and stuff but this is something very wrong and a$$holish and none of them should ever know im going through this dilemma.

i think that the correct thing would be to be straight to my girlfriend about this and tell her that its not working out, but i cant stand to see her devastated like she will no doubt be.

i think ill give it another week to see what happens and then make up my mind. odds are ill break up with my girlfriend AND not hook up with the other girl!