Don't want to write out a whole story cuz I don't want to bore you guys.
Anyways, gf's sister and her husband (she's 16 and he's 20) just had a baby. Baby girl was born Tuesday evening and now there's the mad rush to buy the necessities. From what I've heard from her other sisters, they (the parents) got it all figured out. Their relatives/friends will be supplying their kid with items such as diapers, milk, cribs, strollers, etc... Nothing wrong with hand me downs, but there's something wrong when they are seeking welfare when the guy can actually work. He does work but he hasn't saved up money in the past 3 months when he actually has a job! It pisses me off knowing they plan to abuse the system and at the same time leech off of their closest relatives because they don't have money and aren't ready to be parents!!
So anyways, I got called twice to lend a hand. Mind you I was off because of the snow and wanted to run some errands. So i was called to go take the husband to the hospital, which I did, neglecting to go shopping for water for my own house. Tonight I get another call stating I needed to bring a carseat over ASAP. LIttle stuff like that bothers me because the guy doesn't drive and his wife is in the hospital until she's discharge tomorrow. I know for sure they'll call me to pick them up.
What bothers me is her (the gf) saying I'm coldhearted and I dont like her family. I dont because the dad doesnt want to do anything. I go over on the weekends and it's "Sam do this and Sam do that" hello, the man can drive but chooses not to do anything for his wife and I have to drive ppl around. So I told my gf no!
EDIT -
Spoke with the gf this morning on our commute to work and I told her how I really felt. Now, she along with some ppl think I may be coldhearted because I tried to shun them away for a simple ride to the hospital. But if you think about it, first it starts with a ride, then it's buying clothes for the baby once she grows out of it, next it's paying for food. It will never stop. Personally, I feel bad for the baby and the grandmother. The baby is too young to know anything, but I wonder if she'll feel ashame knowing her parents counted on others to raise her. As for the grandmother she should be working but she's not. Now her job is to take care of her grand daughter. Just yesterday she went out and bought a blanket for her, but I found out later the baby has NO CLOTHES!!!! What the hospital gives you isn't enough so obviously you would need more sets. As for the parents, they have no money and are depending heavily on others including my gf. We're going out to Target after work to pick up a couple set of baby clothes. That's where I draw the line. I figure I will help her out initially, but don't come to me for anything else.
Geekbabe - I know where you're coming from, but I am really pissed off knowing that these two planned this out. They dated for less than a year and got married because she got pregnant, but had a miscarriage. Yet they tried again!!! I'm not saying to throw your kids out the house if something like this happens, but it does start with the parents. Her parents do not know how to raise her kids. It's no wonder the three youngest kids are overweight. The 10 year old girl is over 100lbs, the 7 year old boy if 145lbs and the little 6 y/o is 90lbs.
As for me and the lady, I'm staying in this relationship. I've tried my best to avoid seeing the family, and once I start making more money and saving what we can, we'll move far far away.
BTW ... the guy doesnt drive because he can't pass the initial exam (he can't read that well).
Anyways, gf's sister and her husband (she's 16 and he's 20) just had a baby. Baby girl was born Tuesday evening and now there's the mad rush to buy the necessities. From what I've heard from her other sisters, they (the parents) got it all figured out. Their relatives/friends will be supplying their kid with items such as diapers, milk, cribs, strollers, etc... Nothing wrong with hand me downs, but there's something wrong when they are seeking welfare when the guy can actually work. He does work but he hasn't saved up money in the past 3 months when he actually has a job! It pisses me off knowing they plan to abuse the system and at the same time leech off of their closest relatives because they don't have money and aren't ready to be parents!!
So anyways, I got called twice to lend a hand. Mind you I was off because of the snow and wanted to run some errands. So i was called to go take the husband to the hospital, which I did, neglecting to go shopping for water for my own house. Tonight I get another call stating I needed to bring a carseat over ASAP. LIttle stuff like that bothers me because the guy doesn't drive and his wife is in the hospital until she's discharge tomorrow. I know for sure they'll call me to pick them up.
What bothers me is her (the gf) saying I'm coldhearted and I dont like her family. I dont because the dad doesnt want to do anything. I go over on the weekends and it's "Sam do this and Sam do that" hello, the man can drive but chooses not to do anything for his wife and I have to drive ppl around. So I told my gf no!
EDIT -
Spoke with the gf this morning on our commute to work and I told her how I really felt. Now, she along with some ppl think I may be coldhearted because I tried to shun them away for a simple ride to the hospital. But if you think about it, first it starts with a ride, then it's buying clothes for the baby once she grows out of it, next it's paying for food. It will never stop. Personally, I feel bad for the baby and the grandmother. The baby is too young to know anything, but I wonder if she'll feel ashame knowing her parents counted on others to raise her. As for the grandmother she should be working but she's not. Now her job is to take care of her grand daughter. Just yesterday she went out and bought a blanket for her, but I found out later the baby has NO CLOTHES!!!! What the hospital gives you isn't enough so obviously you would need more sets. As for the parents, they have no money and are depending heavily on others including my gf. We're going out to Target after work to pick up a couple set of baby clothes. That's where I draw the line. I figure I will help her out initially, but don't come to me for anything else.
Geekbabe - I know where you're coming from, but I am really pissed off knowing that these two planned this out. They dated for less than a year and got married because she got pregnant, but had a miscarriage. Yet they tried again!!! I'm not saying to throw your kids out the house if something like this happens, but it does start with the parents. Her parents do not know how to raise her kids. It's no wonder the three youngest kids are overweight. The 10 year old girl is over 100lbs, the 7 year old boy if 145lbs and the little 6 y/o is 90lbs.
As for me and the lady, I'm staying in this relationship. I've tried my best to avoid seeing the family, and once I start making more money and saving what we can, we'll move far far away.
BTW ... the guy doesnt drive because he can't pass the initial exam (he can't read that well).
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